How to deal with sub drop post orgasm.

Alternately just drop the whole chastity bit altogether and just do hot BDSM scenes together when your schedules permit

 

Never really bought into the sub drop thing as being an excuse for a worse attitude, same as pmt and menopause being an excuse for aggressive language and behaviour. A night's rest for a man should be all it takes emotionally although I may be less willing and able to come again the next day. When I had my first orgasm of 2024 recently I had little time to wallow in sub drop. I was loving and good company, at least I found myself rather charming. I was told that I had better have enjoyed it because that would be my last orgasm for a while. I was made to strap the shock collar around my balls and be randomly electrocuted in the middle of a bingo hall, pegged (later that night... after bingo), caged and back in my submissive role. I was used for sex because she wanted it, the roles hadn't changed at all. In fact I was treated more harshly than ever the next day. I didn't have time for sub drop and if I were ever to show it, it would make life difficult for me. Personally I wouldn't stand for it.

 

This is good… building on it, you could have him self administer a ruined orgasm and cleanup after .. quickly relocking in a tight cage … all on FaceTime or WhatsApp video

 

I think you’re letting him get away with murder. If you want him chaste and obedient you need to be way tougher! No more meet ups til he’s performed how you want him to perform while you’re apart. That will mean a properly secure cage (methods already discussed in this thread) and clear expectations from you such as x number of suitably submissive messages per day regardless of how he “feels”. He’s a slave not a baby. And like I say, when you do meet up, have a list of any lapses and punish him hard for them, in a way he won’t enjoy. Maybe video it too, so you can threaten to share it with those who share his “busy work and personal life”… Of course only you will know whether or not you’d actually do that - even a slight chance you might will be enough to trigger his anxiety (and excitement at your harshness).

 

I misunderstood. Perhaps you give him a release but insure it is a completely ruined release. And adding to what someone said above, peehaps, if you wished, have him clean up his mess. You could wash him up and his cage and tell him what a good sub he is for releasing his semen for you. Exposing you know he wanted a big orgasm but how grateful he should be to you for such a release. And have him thank you truly. This will play on his mental aspect and perhaps, the training mentally will lead to him begging only to have urine o's by you but begging for them.

 

@MistressNicx you are not alone in pursuing a remote chastity relationship. I live a couple of miles away from my mistress but when i'm at work, work at sites throughout my country living in hotels much of the time. I also have to unlock for work everyday when I'm away due to security searches. I have cum once in 2024 when my mistress desired sex one night about 3 weeks ago I think. We make it work using the qiui keypod which I'm not recommending as perfect but is affordable and I just can't find any alternatives to suit. My mistress knows my shift finish time which can vary a little depending on what i'm doing at work and of course I have time to cheat behind her back for the few minutes it would take when i get to my room. I am under instruction to record a whatsapp vid of caging and key being locked in keybox. She will release me manually through app when I am asleep or by timer. It's not 100% secure and takes some willingness to continue our chastity romance by both parties. It's the first thing i do when I get into my hotel room and she loves and craves her chastity porn before we talk about our day. We've come to love our remote chastity whatsapp routine and it makes us feel close when far away. X

 

While I’m not in the same situation, I’m locked by my Wife, I’ve found over the years of decreasing orgasms, that my drop really isn’t bad at all. She used to let me have a few days or a week of freedom when it was time to cum, usually allowing multiple orgasms over that free time, and those days were brutal. I’d get depressed and blah, and wouldn’t want to lock up again at all. Then we got to the point where she’d only allow one orgasm, and only by handjob as they’re not quite as satisfying as from piv, then wash up and back in the cage. I’m so horny after that one cum, desperate for more play time, that my drop is virtually non existent. Obviously it’s still a full orgasm so that real chastity high drops down for a day or so, but I’m still eager to obey and the real horniness is right back pretty quickly.
She’s pushing my full O’s further apart and gives me a ruined handjob every three weeks, those usually leave me even more horny but gives me some slight relief and keeps me completely under her spell.
I don’t know if any of that can help in your situation, and I suppose it really depends on if your sub is really embracing chastity life or more likes the idea but fights it.

 

I know first hand how hard the sub drop is I can feel it almost immediately after orgasm. Some days are deeper drop than others and it is a hard emotion to push through for both of us. She always knows if I’ve been having fun by myself and chastises me for it.

For us we have found that locking back up Immediately or have a very quick turnaround tease and denial drastically shortens the time.

Maybe also it’s just how it will be for him? Not ideal for sure. Hopefully he can see the value in the commitment you are making to this and then suck it up and snap back into submission for you as an act of appreciation for your efforts.
Best of luck!

 

I’m sorry maybe someone has suggested this. Can you get a lock box for his key. One only you can unlock remotely from your phone. That way you know he’s not unlocking.

 

If you are not living together and he is becoming less attentive and distant then he is probably unlocking and wanking.
That's been my experience and the first thing i would suspect so I do think that sort of addresses the issues you described here.

 

Take his cleaning key and give him one in an emergency smash box that only opens once… get an open design cage easy to clean and boom… you learn if he is cheating it

 

The part of this that confuses me is that he is in an FLR … and has therefore agreed to be obedient to his Mistress, but then people are suggesting that when he is able, he is cheating.

If this turns out to be the case … then not only does the cage/key protocol need to be tightened up… he needs to decide if he really wants an FLR … maybe he just wants to masturbate ? … in which case you should find a more dedicated sub .

 

All signs point to he is cheating and playing along when it's fun. Not him and not involved but willing to bet he wants the kink without the discipline. Best thing be give him all the keys say we'll talk when you're ready to commit.

 

Shouldn’t have a key ………….