Am I too strict?

i wouldn't know if 4 months would work, it depends on the individual. as a sissymaid i'm used to long-term lock-ups (think years!). my partners were happy, i was happy - and - my service to them became much more useful, extensive, refined and Wild!!

 

It's not too strict in comparison to our situation. I asked for chastity and I get just that. Teasing as in being unlocked and played with would be the dom pandering to the sub. I got ball crushing with her feet last night and was grateful for it. She is preparing me for locktober by having kept me orgasm free for 4 months for practice and is now denying me oral sex. Thankfully she allowed me to massage and do reflexology on her feet as she drifted off to sleep. I am a bit jealous of subs who hold their mistresses to ransom by demanding a schedule of willy-teasing or they will cut off their cages or start being obnoxious. Poor subs. Teasing for us is serving and obeying, no more no less. There is no such thing in our relationship as "too strict" as rated by the sub, that is only for my Mistress to decide. I didn't make the rules but they are the only rules on offer.

 

It sounds like you’re both enjoying everything that’s happening so far, so I’d say just keep pushing his boundaries if that turns you on as his KH. If he gets to a point where he just really can’t take it anymore, I’m sure he’d communicate that to you and together you’d decide how to proceed, even if it just means you go back to once a month releases for him.

In my case, that’s exactly what I’ve asked of my Wife, to do with me as she sees fit, push my comfort zone and see how it goes. Worst case is I’ll start begging for relief and she’d have to decide how to deal with me at that point. But she hasn’t taken me to the point of breaking yet, but no question she’s running the show and being as strict as she desires.
Exactly what I’ve asked for

 

Good to go! If you are both enjoying it keep it up!

 

Can you describe some of the SPH you have been using?

 

He could be asked if he agrees with you, that way you know for sure. I think you already know though.
Yes many a sissy will whole heartedly agree with their Mistress and encourage her to amuse and enjoy herself more with her SPH compliments. Giggles.

 

Nice read, but I'm slightly uncomfortable with his KH posting from his account.
Strikes me as either fantasy or topping from the bottom.

 

If it is it's not much of a fantasy. It's a myth that being a keyholder is an effort. I would feel neglected by not being locked and unlocked by my kh and not receiving any effort to give me more conventional sexual pleasure. It's on the wrong side of a dead sex life. If we ever have a break from chastity it won't be her idea.

 

Do you love him enough to end his orgasms forever?

Roll two dice, thats how many orgasms he has left....ever.

Then see how much he wants his next orgasm.

 

Have you been obedient? Any slips?

Doesn't it make you jealous that she doesn't let you participate? Given my state of denial, I desperately want to give her orgasms for the emotional release. If she was pleasuring herself without me, I'd be extremely frustrated.

 

Yeah- For me, I am giving up my pleasure so I can experience much more of hers. If I am cut out of that then I'm living in a state of punishment hell...

 

Some great SPH ideas, will be telling my wife

 

In my opinion a keyholder can never be to strict in keeping the husband chaste. There are rules which needed a common agreement, for example pegging or not pegging or developing the relationship to a cuckold marriage or not. But for the kind and strictness of the male chastity only the keyholder should make the decisions the husband should have no say here. After starting with it there will be an absolute natural development to permanent erection and orgasm denial with less effort as possible for the key holder. For my hubby erections and ejaculations are things of the past. Physical sexuality is female sexuality only.

 

It all depends on the question if the INTERACTION between you and her is making you and her happy. No orgasms for even a super long time are ok, if the interaction between the two of you is fulfilling.

I myself was locked for month and even years (with releases and cleaning) and it was great, since there was a lot of interaction btween my partner and me.

Then with another partner I was locked for one week and I was realizing it that it was pointless, since that partner just thought its ok to "lock it on and never deal in any sexual way with the sub". For me it becomes pointless, if I can no longer feel that there is any kind of game/tension going on between the partner and me.

Being locked with no interaction is worlds apart from being locked and maybe just receiving a text message every day saying something like "I wish you a very unorgasmic day, my property." .... or ..."I just came very hard. i guess you just came three month ago." ... or ... even something super tiny and small, like "Just thought of you suffering.".

Of course there is other more elaborate interaction possible. I just stated the text message example to demonstrate that there are worlds between "nothing" and "something".

So the real question here is: Is that "something" enough for the two of you? If yes, then there is no "too strict, too hard, too painful, too this, too that".

Only you two can decide that, each person is different.

 

There is no one answer to this because everyone's dynamic is different.

 

Thanks for letting us know how it works for you. Thank god your idea of hell doesn't apply to us. My wife and I love each other and don't want such a harsh, punishing dynamic...

 

I couldn’t agree with you more Jennifer. Over time it is a natural progression to take your hubby to long term chastity and eventually indefinite orgasm denial. It has worked well for us, and keeps him focused on my needs and his servitude.

 

I wish i was you…my mistress lock me but she is not stricth as your mistress…if she is on the mood she will locked me 24 hour, but if she is focusing on something(like work, holiday plan, kids etc) she sometimes forgot to lock me or did anyting to stop me to masturbate..