Why are you in chasity?

I'm totally masculine and bi sexual. I self locked it. When my wife is gone I lock it. We work opposite shifts. When I am with my guy I keep it locked. So he doesn't feel the need to focus cock. My cock is just for wife and no one else. If she isn't able to enjoy it then it's not accessible.

 

The exchange of control

 

Exchange of control, and keeping all eyes on the prize. Keeps me humble and able to enjoy both sides of my sexual pleasures.

 

It was initially a kink to spice up our sex life. While it still is primarily, the power exchange has grown to a long term event.

 

Not really a kink. And not even a submissive thing. It was a self-control thing. Yes, with respect to jerking off, but in turn, so that I'd be more available to my wife. I recruited her to be the encouragement I need. But she doesn't tease. But she does tell me I should keep going. Would I be willing to be submissive, yeah. Would I like some kink, yeah. But neither of those things are, in fact, the top reasons. They are down there at 4-5 and they don't happen.

 

Because my madam commanded it, she discovered male chastity and as soon as she saw you could lock a cock she wanted mine locked and under her control, and also because she wanted me to have to suffer the discomforts and inconveniences of being caged 24/7 as a punishment for failing to please her.

 

Hello,

I am into chastity because I love denial and the constant ache that goes with it because it plays into my main kink I have had since I was a teenager ballbusting. When in chastity it feels like I am getting busted from the inside. I also love the power exchange knowing a women has control over my sex life. My ultimate goal is to stay lock while pleasing women orally and only to be released for tease & denial then after being edged get my balls busted then locked back up because I don't deserve to cum.

 

It is for the power exchange and to remain faithful to my wife. Preventing me from jerking off and cheating on her with other women.

 

It started out just something that I wanted to try. After the first few weeks, it was game on. Like I have said before, my Wife did some research on Male Chastity and thought it was a great idea. She took full control of my penis and any orgasms that I get. Which has been zero for the last 19 months. I have mentioned this before. My Wife says that if she would have heard about Male Chastity sooner(Like when we first met). She would have had me locked up from day one. I have often wonder how that would have worked out, being into MC for over 30 years and my Wife in full control...

 

It started as something that I wanted to try after stumbling across Altairboy’s website over 20 years ago. After years of reading the stories for years, I purchased a CB3000 from Tickleberry. I was single and tried self locking. I also got as far as ordering the Neosteel measuring kit before loosing my nerve.

Years later,I found Ruffled Sheets review of the Behind Barz belt and five years ago found the courage to talk to my partner about my chastity curiosity. Although she did not really understand why giving up control of my orgasms would be something that I wanted to do, she agreed that I could get a belt and that she would keep the key when I asked.

This has evolved and we now have a Chastity Agreement that renews at the start of each year and gives my wife complete control over the keys and my releases.

 

I started because I wanted to stop looking at porn and masterbating all the time. I have a aspergers diagnose and chastity seems to reduce my general stress level on top.

We have also started to have sex without me being let out of the cage, I LOVE IT! It is so hot and I love the feeling when my wife asks me to stop, instead of me stopping after 2 minutes by myself.
She still feels bad that I do not orgasm, but we are still starting out.

I never though I would be into orgasm control, only limit them to my wife. But I am hoping we are going into some level of it. I just love being really horny and giving my wife oral.

 

Honestly, I think it is the biggest fetish that we can have. We get to masturbate and experience sexual pleasure whenever we want to. It ruins relationships. However, when locked up, it puts that fetish at the highest level ever. The feeling of total denial, is far more powerful than any orgasm that I have ever had. When you give yourself over to your wife or partner, that is a true high that can not be replicated by a self given orgasm. Delayed gratification is special and pent up frustration is a full rush.

 

So true, after addicted to femdom videos and jerking off, it feels the right thing to be locked up by your wife/gf. It now feels embarrassing on my part to be involved in jerking to another lady on internet, when it was my gf right

 

I'm in chastity by my request, I started self locking, but was very happy that my wife took the keys shortly after starting.

 

Because the power exchange is amazing. Always loved the idea of it.

 

After we decided to swap our dynamic from 30+ years of my wife as the submissive, to me now being submissive, we quickly realized she loved to tease and deny. Cap that off with a daily masturbation/porn habit of 40 years, we felt it best to lock up both. Thanks to a child app I no longer have access to porn ( 7 weeks without thus far), no longer have control of my phone (2 hour a day limit, this forum and literotica are the only unlocked websites, and i have to seek permission first) and my cage has been on 8 weeks, last full orgasm 29 days ago. The longer I remain chaste, the more attentive I am to her, and she sees it. The fact I no longer look at porn and focus on her is also very noticeable to her, but most of all, being honest with her has been the best outcome. We talk everyday, for hours. I write a daily journal detailing my feelings and how I am doing with it all. The communication from being locked and in an FLR is amazing, and well worth it for our relationship.

 

I discovered chastity after a near affair about 12 years ago, and wanted to give my wife a way to fully control what is hers. That evolved into our lifestyle today and we both get off on the control and power exchange.

 

I found it on accident online 17 years ago. It was the start of my bondage kink. But the reason that I’m in chastity now is because I can’t keep my hands off my cock without it. My orgasms are best spent with my wife instead of alone with my hand.

 

about 20 or so years ago I used to enjoy doing some self CBT. I have many toys for that. I bought my fist cage at least 10 years ago. only wore it a couple of times . it would slip off.
I started reading stories on alterboy and got to thinking more on chastity.
about 5 or so years ago I have bought 2 more cages that fit better and have been enjoying it on more and more

I just told the wife about it a year ago. she thinks it weird but has seen it on me. just not taking the key yet.
so I self cage as much as possible. about 4 or 5 days a week

 

Exactly. Exactly. Our relationship has become much more intense. Much richer in every way,

 

So in my opinion, true enlightenment occurs when you give that fantasy shit up and hand over your keys to your wife, girlfriend or key holder. Stuff that would not turn you on under unlocked conditions, will now turn you on while you are locked up. That is the true beauty of it all. Prior to going full time in chastity with my wife, a simple pair of basic cotton panties that she wore did absolutely nothing for me. Now, when I see her change clothes, get dressed, etc, that shit sets me off beyond belief. That, in my opinion, is the best part of this type of adventure. It truly puts the focus where it needs to be. We, men and women are so unbalanced that a chastity device is needed to make things work, in my opinion. Sex drives are so different.

 

This gives me a lot of hope! I feel like years of porn has really messed with my mind. When I married my wife 2 years ago I noticed that I had a hard time keeping it up for her when it finally came time to penetrate. I don’t get turned on in the same way those wild fantasies do it for me. But I’ve been secretly self locking and it’s been 6 weeks with no orgasm. I’m seeing what you’ve described. My focus is changing and she’s becoming the center of my sexual thoughts. Once I actually introduce her to chastity I’m hoping that goes even farther.

 

My name is Jay, and my life took an unexpected turn the day I found myself in chastity. It all began when I stumbled upon an antique shop nestled in the heart of the city. Intrigued by the assortment of peculiar items within, my curiosity led me to a dusty corner where an ornate, mysterious-looking chastity device caught my eye.

The elderly shopkeeper, with a twinkle in his eye, explained that this device had a unique history. Legend had it that it held the power to transform lives, unlocking hidden potential and guiding individuals toward a path of self-discovery. Skeptical yet strangely compelled, I decided to take a leap of faith and purchase the mysterious artifact.

As soon as the chastity device clasped around me, I felt a peculiar energy coursing through my veins. The world seemed to shift, and I realized that this was no ordinary piece of metal. It became a silent companion, an enigmatic force guiding me through life's challenges.

At first, I resisted its influence, attempting to break free from its grasp. However, with each failed attempt, I began to understand that the device held a purpose far beyond my comprehension. It wasn't just a physical constraint; it was a symbol of restraint, teaching me patience, discipline, and the value of delayed gratification.

In the weeks that followed, I discovered newfound focus in my work and a heightened awareness of my surroundings. The chastity device became a source of strength, urging me to confront my fears and overcome obstacles. It was as if the key to unlocking my true potential lay within the very thing that bound me.

As the days turned into weeks, and weeks into months, I embraced the transformation. The chastity device became a part of my identity, a constant reminder of the journey I had embarked upon. It wasn't about denial; it was about self-mastery, a journey of self-discovery that went beyond the physical realm.

People around me noticed the change – the newfound confidence, the unwavering determination. Some questioned the visible restraint I wore, but I couldn't fully articulate the profound impact it had on my life. The chastity device became a symbol of my commitment to personal growth, a testament to the strength that emerged from embracing the unknown.

And so, I continue on my journey, guided by the mysterious artifact that chose me in that quaint antique shop. In chastity, I found liberation – not from the physical world, but from the constraints of my own limitations, unlocking a version of myself I never knew existed.

 

So, I’m curently not. I was for 43 days during Locktober and some added days after, no release. Mostly because of playing too much with myself and wife said to do Locktober.
After 43 days I had my orgasm and then came the holidays, so no lock-up.
And anyway, after my lock-up, I sort of had enough.

Until today, when I found myself craving to be locked up again. Strange what chastity does to our heads, isn’t it?