Anyone whose partner doesn’t want you to have a full climax ?

In my opinion, since the vast majority of women are fully functional adults who can treat people well during their period, men do not have an excuse to exhibit their “drop”.

 

This year we started off with goal of 1 full orgasm per month, and a ruin or two whenever my Wife decided she wanted to reward me. She mostly stuck to that, occasionally granting an extra full.
But at the end of June we both decided we wanted to see how the rest of the year would go if I only received ruins, whenever she decides of course.
This is year 4 of chastity, I didn’t keep track of my orgasms in ‘20, I had 208 in ‘21, 90 in ‘22 and if she sticks with the plan for this year, I’ve had 11 full orgasms in ‘23 and 4 of those were on my birthday weekend in January. I know some of you guys will still be shocked by those numbers, but those are massive drops considering our entire marriage from 1991 up till the cage went on in 2020, she’d give me approximately 450-500 orgasms a year. My Wife still can’t really believe that we’re at this point that I’m happy just to give her all the orgasms she wants and then cuddle her to sleep every night and I’m not whining and begging every day lol….so far

 

Yes and no. I'm sweeping a couple different things under "drop". The behavior that irritated me all those months ago was hubby's reluctance to be locked back up, complaining about the cage, etc. Yes, he should have just dealt with it and "drop" isn't an excuse. Especially since chastity had been his idea. Since then I think he's gotten better at that aspect. Those were new and surprising feelings, he didn't handle them particularly well, but he's grown. We could go back to a week or two between orgasms and it would probably be fine.

But along the way I discovered something else. The built-up desire after a couple weeks of denial has a rather profound effect on hubby. I like the result, as does he. An orgasm tends to erase most of that desire. That "drop" is harder to manage. Even if he could fake it, would I really want him to? Isn't it better when it is genuine? We both think so, which is what has led to fewer orgasms for hubby.

 

Wait! You're 60 and she's still having periods?!?!?!?!? How old is your wife??? How long have you been together?

 

15 years your junior?!?!? Whoa! What did you have to offer her that attracted her to you?

 

Dude thats a bit rude and presumptuous. Many women are attracted to older men and its pretty presumptuous to think its about whats on offer, thats painting women in a pretty poor light.

 

I meat "offer" in a very wholesome way. The fact that you are an older man and she was attracted to that is the answer I was looking for. Thats awesome! My apologies!

 

I don't really buy into the drop being an excuse for being unpleasant. I think we realise it's more subtle than that. I would go down on her even if I wasn't horny so no noticeable difference. We both know that giving her oral when caged IS my sex life, or at least my only way of getting in tune with my sexuality. She just gets turned on by the sadism of me getting aroused during sex and not coming and how desperatei am to pleasure her. Now we have a couple of cages that irritate in different places we don't need to remove for comfort. We have a quiu box so if I'm granted a release for washing or shaving, etc, that's all I'm given time for. We seem to have a system to go on indefinitely. I asked how long and was told I would be caged for the rest of the year. It's much longer than I want but it's not up for debate. Next time I cheat, quit or escape we stop playing with the cage and I'll still be banned from sex or cumming in the presence of my mistress. In that sense I have little choice but to accept my new life as a pussy licking slave.

 

I’m permitted anal orgasms but not full ones, Madam also got sick of the sub drop/ lack of servitude after so she put a stop to it. She also pointed out as I could never give her a orgasm with my cock why should I get one from it.

 

I don’t experience drop much at all, definitely not where I become an asshole or treat my Wife worse or anything. The only difference I notice is the intensity of that chastity “high” or the incredible lust is down for a couple days. I’m still horny and would love to have sex many many more times, I can just tell quite a difference from not having a full orgasm and having one and at this point it’s not really worth that 10-20 seconds of the full blown release.
I’m hoping my Wife will stick with allowing only ruins for the rest of this year. Then we’ll talk about how ‘24 will look like I guess.

 

I like that she participates in denying herself as well. Does she wear a belt?

 

No, lol, no need.

 

I am not allowed a full climax, but not primarily because of the the "drop." It is an element of our Power Exchange. It is both a way for Mistress to exercise her power over me and also my gift to her, giving up something precious to me, as a measure of how much she means to me.

 

I prefer permanent denial, all.pleasure is for me

 

My better half really notices the "drop". She much prefers my behaviour when I'm desperate for her attention. She likes the intensity.

We noticed that when I'm allowed to cum infrequently there is very little if any drop and I remain insatiable. We noticed if I'm allowed to cum at around eight weeks there seemed to be no change in my desire afterward.

 

This is true for us also. It's almost as if she is now hyperfocused, looking for any drop in my behavior and intensity. I have to be careful that she doesn't interpret any less than positive comments or actions as a loss in attentiveness, humility, or consideration.

This too! For me, seems to be 1 month. An orgasm after that length of time leaves me anything but satiated. Perhaps it's the frequency of intimacy and teasing that keeps my hormone levels fully topped off along with the lack of any erections because of 24x7 chastity.

 

I've been suffering much less of a drop, I think. I don't really have an explanation; it may help that I am no longer on just the "honour system". (That has certainly helped my attitude quite a bit, which is why I'm no longer on the honour system.)

I know that there's some drop, because I go from being absolutely crazy to please her, to being "only" completely respectful and obedient. It still takes me a few days to return to the state of "crazy", but she doesn't seem to miss it (even if she enjoys it when it's there).