How often do you have sexual contact

I’m 64, and being Chaste in a Loving FLR is our way of life!

 

i have put one time a week but tis sometime 2 time when Mistress let me in Her bed on weekend.

 

Wow old post reborn!

Pre chastity for us and for most of our marriage, average was 7-10 times a week.

Now it’s about the same, it’s just mostly me giving my Wife head instead of piv, and of course I rarely cum. Her orgasm count per month is actually starting to climb lately too, I guess dominating and denying me excites her!
We’ll celebrate our 32nd anniversary in August, I just hit 50 in Jan and my wonderful Wife will be 50 in July

 

Before chastity my wife and I had sex every day. Seems like a lifetime ago.

 

Has there been a specific event or reason to change it?

 

Well, locking me up was the event that changed it. There are many reasons, but the main one was her taking control and for the first time, having sex when she wants it, instead of feeling obligated. Turns out she doesn’t have much use for my dicklette. At all.

 

Understand that! It’s liberating. Also, can become tough when she really doesn’t want it. Women are not built the same, they do not need the same sexual releases as us… non-sexual times are rough. Good luck

 

Necromancy keeps this site alive!

 

A feeling of obligation is truly a reason for a roll reversal.

 

I get teased quiet often. If you count that then we have sex often.

Otherwise, we have sex 1 or 2 times per week. That hasn´t changed with chastity. It has change with age and kids. In our 20´s it was almost every day, and now we are in our 40´s, we have kids, etc…

The main difference is that I use to cum daily (on my own) and now around 1 per week. She gets to cum a little bit more often than me, but she really likes PIV, and I can´t hold back.

But there is no schedule or obligation. So, these varies through the year. Work stress, weather (cold months are worst), etc.

 

Sexual contact is a very broad term. Touching, naked, her orgasming, casual touching me, kissing, petting, watching her touch herself….that is 99 percent of our sexual contact and it happens daily for the most part and depends on the situation and mood on what is appropriate

 

I 1000% feel you on this. We struggle with the same dynamic. I've gone thru resentful periods where I am upset that she has no sex drive and feel that she is way out of sync with my needs. I grow distant and cold about it. I think chastity is helping that a bit and we are every 3 weeks or so. But it's definitely something I have to start. She just won't. I'd gladly service her to an O, but the last month has been stressing and neither of us really want to go there at bed time. Soon hopefully.

 

We went from a nearly sexless marriage to several times a week but without orgasms for me. We define sex as any activity to sexually stimulate either or both of us to the point of arousal.

 

I am a lucky man, my Wife has had a sex drive that has been very close to mine since we married at 18. We both felt a dip about 6 years ago and saw a hormone specialist, once that was straightened out, back to normal, well, better than normal once chastity started

 

There was never a "before" chastity for us as the day we met (physically)I was locked up.

That said we have had breaks from chastity.

throw menopause and all sorts of other shit in there, so there has been periods in our relationship where the sex life has been sketchy at best, never from my side of course but then thats probably why my dick needs to be locked up.

Right now not counting cuddles,hand holding, kissing her pussy when she emerges from the shower, the regular punch in the guts and knee in the balls, about every 10 days, mostly weekly but we will sometimes miss a week (if she has anxiety) which is hard even though lately I dont cum, that actually makes the need for intimacy even greater.....I am 57 and she 55, i cant complain, when I look at her sexually and the waves of desire wash over, I just think I am lucky to get in there at all. I did her washing the other day and just hanging out her tights made me really horny and feel lucky to get in there at all!!

The hardest part is if she has an anxiety attack all the above stuff goes, and it feels like she doesn't like me. Thankfully while when it happens they seem to last a decade, its usually actually only 2- 4 days.I still have a bit to learn about dealing with it as I am not as patient as I should be sometimes, she should probably give me the paddle, but ironically she would not be in the mood to do even that (sort of thankfully)

 

I usually see my keyholder/Mistress fortnightly, sometimes weekly.
We spend the entire weekend together, usually at her house.
there's a lot of sexual pleasure involved.

 

In general I have always pushed for every other day which is basically what my mind and body desire, but more realistically it was 2 times a week once we were settled in together, after the first baby etc. When we first got together it was you know, 6 times a day or whatever. As much as I was capable of. What's been hard to accept is that unless she wants an orgasm she wants me to just finish quickly. A blow to the male ego, wanting to fuck her long and hard but that only results in a sore pussy and her being upset. So at this point we're at: she has to tell me when she wants an orgasm, otherwise I shouldn't try to force them on her and I should just finish quickly. And IF she says she wants an orgasm she actually wants at least 3. One time I gave her only one orgasm and she quickly corrected me to understand that if she wants 1 she wants at least 3.....at least. 3 orgasms for her is now our baseline.

 

When we first got married it was a 2-3 times a month but after a couple of years dwindled to nothing. In the last 2 years after introducing chastity it's been once or twice a year but it's been a long struggle to even get there. My wife doesn't do "duty sex" and her being in the mood is rare in the extreme. No (enforced) chastity for me currently but it did help to have conversations even if they didn't have the outcome I hoped.

 

The big reason we engage in sexual activity so frequently now (almost daily unless one of us is sick or life gets crazy for a time) is that PIV is off the table. Research has shown that 2/3 of women don't have orgasms from PIV. This makes sense since their pleasure center is outside the vagina and their biggest sex organ is between their ears.* (see note below)

My wife enjoys sex so much more and chastity has been the magic. The focus of our sexual activity has become all about her pleasure.

1. No PIV. She has flexibility issues. PIV is painful both during and afterwards. Keeping me caged prevents me from even trying to go there.
2. She enjoys the hell out of teasing me, making me whimper, moan, squirm, and spasm. This stimulates her mentally and makes her moist and and oozing. Even if our sexual activity stops here because she doesn't want to go any further, we both enjoy the extent of this sexual pleasure. Teasing me teases her leaving us both wet and drippy! This never occurred to us before chastity and has been hard to wrap my brain around.
3. Denial keeps me on edge to please her outside the bedroom and treat her the way she wants to be treated inside the bedroom. This stimulates her emotionally to desire physical intimacy.
4. Physical intimacy is focused solely on her clitoris once she's done teasing me. Women have approximately 9000 nerve endings in their love button; almost twice as many as a man's penis. The climax of our live making is her orgasm(s). This gives both of us great pleasure.
5. No semen to deal with. Semen is pretty disgusting to her and makes a mess. It's a huge turnoff for a lot of women. If she had to deal with that most of the time we engage in sex, she just wouldn't do it. It's not that it's just gross. It messes up the bed requiring sheets to be washed, leaving her bed and bedroom out of order and unkempt. Keeping me denied makes me happy to help her make the bed first thing every morning putting her room back in perfect state. She's happy when her house is in order.

All of these things contribute to sex almost every day in our relationship. Thank you chastity!

When I finally do get an orgasm, it's monumental and mind bending - better than anything I experienced pre-chastity. (It will probably give me a heart attack one day. What a way to go!) It makes waiting worth it.

* The size of your dick is really inconsequential even if it is literally inconsequential. It can't hit her clitoris during PIV.

 

We live on separate continents

My Lady once said if I am truly submissive in regards to her then it is her view that us living on separate continents provides us with far more opportunities for sexual contact than she would ever want or need

 

Update:
My Mistress taught me lots of very valuable information which I still use and still follow her guidelines for remaining pussy free.

My wife and I have gotten back together, but my sex life is vastly different now. I don't have PIV sex now, a I'm not allowed to touch my wife, and she only touches my penis to give me hand jobs about twice a month. I've been allowed to give her head once a year for the last 3 years, which I miss far more than fucking. It's been 6 years and 2 months since I properly inseminated my wife, and she's told me that she has no interest in my penis at all. I don't wear my cage much even though I really like it. I never cum except for when my wife uses her hands to get me off, even while I don't have my cage on.

 

But even if the orgasms weren’t so pleasurable, she makes chastity & waiting worth it all!

 

Glad to hear you are back together again! I hope chastity and regular denial contributes to strengthening your marriage and the enjoyment you both get from one another.