Seeking interesting and fun guidance!

Welcome, you have found the right place to learn about chastity and how so many males want to be controlled by the person they love. There is no right or wrong so enjoy experimenting, I am submissive, love crossdressers, and find chastity to be a great form of bondage. For you there are many benefits, you sub will always be attentive and desire to serve as you control sub basic desires to get fulfillment. Enjoy your power.

 

Welcome to CM!! Have fun

 

How long is he usually locked? Are you keeping him long enough?

Chastity a wife's perspective? Someone posted a tumblr link the other day that is a really good read

 

https://www.tumblr.com/eroticshorts...ale-chastity-a-wifes-perspective?source=share

Here it is. Some, or a lot may resonate with you and your situation. 20 minute read

 

I hope you are having a fun and informative experience on CM..

 

Welcome!
With out wishing to bombard you with links, the below are very good:


https://denyingthumper.com/2015/07/15/why-in-the-hell/


https://denyingthumper.com/2015/08/05/keyholding-101/

https://lockedinlust.com/what-is-male-chastity/


https://denyingthumper.com/2015/02/27/use-it-or-lose-it/

https://denyingthumper.com/2016/09/13/random-thoughts-about-sex/

 

I landed here as a female newbie and found good support.

 

My wife read this today, with my own comments and redactions in smaller type. I might be in trouble. There is a lot of good advice that all wives should know. Husbands (most) should not be in control of their own orgasms.

 

Welcome to the Mansion Miss Jen. Yes, the attention, the chores, all positive things from having your submissive locked in chastity. Consider how your control over his release, or not, feeds his deep need to submit to you and surrender his control to you. His sexual and non-sexual service to you is heightened, but out of love he has for you and the power you have over him. Use this power, that is what a chaste man needs and wants.

 

I'm new here as well, and if I may, this line stuck out to me.
You may not personally be interested in cages, but TBH, caging IS the way to get him to be all of those things you ARE looking for. You'd be amazed how willing a man is when he has absolutely no access to his manhood equipment and cant even go into the bathroom and "rub one out"

With the right amount of teasing and control, YOU hold all the power and with the promise of "rewards" for a job well done, you'll have him lining up for chores and pampering.

It starts slow, with maybe a weekend being locked. Start with some normal sex on Friday night and after you both climax, introduce the cage and tell him it will just be for the weekend. Then the next morning, say you start to fold some laundry in just a bra and panties. Within moments he'll be over helping, and before you know it you can go sit and relax while he finishes.

Throughout the weekend, ask him for small favors like making you coffee or cooking a meal, and as you ask, do it in a sultry type of way and maybe flash him a view of of something. He will see that and his cock will instantly swell, but the cage will remind him that he can't.

Saturday night, watch a movie, and make sure to run your hands across his touch-points that get him excited—the back of his head, down his arms, around is thighs and casually brush past the cage, reminding him that you know its there. Then lean back and place your feet in his lap expecting a nice deep foot massage.

Afterward, in the bedroom, make him perform on you, orally, with toys , make him watch without touching as you pleasure yourself, etc. But there is no release for him, after you climax, its a kiss on the cheek and you roll over to go to sleep, leaving him with the memories of watching his beautiful wife in orgasmic bliss. You'll wake up to breakfast in bed the next morning.

On Sunday, follow the same type of routine, asking for small chores or pampering, promising him an amazing release that night. Remind him how good he's been and how happy you were with the help and attentiveness. And that night, tease him a bit before releasing him, and then give him a mind blowing orgasm.

Do this for a few weekends, and then maybe introduce the cage after that Sunday orgasm and see if he can last the week. Before you know it, he could be wearing it full time.

But overall, the cage IS the key. Without it, there is nothing "Making him" want to do the chores, nothing reminding him that his pleasure is owned by you right now. Adding in the flirtatious acts like flashing, and touching him punctuates the frustration and NEED to place you so he can be released and relieved.

Your husband is a very lucky man for you to be this considerate of his fantasies.

 

my apologies, I must have read it wrong.

 

And forgot to mention that the toilet seat will always be done.

A

 

I presume that you mean "..always be down"

 

Ooops. Away to stand in the corner.

A

 

A big welcome to you @JustJen , you might find this website interesting for training a male:
https://www.dreamloverlabs.com/theory.php
Even if you find some of it too extreme, there are useful tips and techniques for all Dommes
with an emphasis on psychological conditioning.

 

Also if you enjoy fiction, take a look at my story of Mistress Jen (or Jenny) training her sub to be a useful husband:
https://www.chastitymansion.com/forums/index.php?threads/a-useful-husband.40448/

 

Welcome Jen. There is a black woman/white man story here. I think their version of FLR/chastity is probably a lot more extreme that what you might be looking for, but it might be interesting to you, none the less.

https://www.chastitymansion.com/for...rriage-with-husband-locked-in-chastity.18007/

 

One thing to keep in mind. There are so many different turn ins for each of us in here. The most important part is communication.

For me, I’m in charge in my day to day life (work). Have been for most of my career. It is such a turn on to have my wife take the reins when I’m home. A lot of times she can see the effects with out asking .

My wife is new to this as well. She is learning to be more assertive. I would love her to set the expectations day to day with how she would like me to please her. Oral, PIV, massage, masterbation, etc. I have asked her to be selfish and get what she wants.

My turn ons are to please her first. I love watching her experience multiple orgasams. I love watching her squirt. Whether by my hand or hers. I love to be tied up and her doing as she wishes. Of course most of all, I loved being denied but made to please her.

No matter what, it is a long road to get to what works well. Communication and honesty is the most important. Well, should add voluntarily.

Good luck!

 

Ha! I meant vulnerable, not voluntarily.

 

And you probably meant "turn ons" rather than "turn ins"

 

Hi and welcome. I bet you will find all the information you need from here.

 

Hello Miss Jen and welcome to the mansion