Inconsistent?

Sounds to me like you're a person with your own personal fantasies and kinks. Nothing wrong with that.

 

Just like most things, it is subjective.

 

It leaves you here…

It may appear that chastity and feminisation go hand in hand, I actually believe it’s more that feminisation takes an extra meaning through chastity.

It may appear that all gentleman on here are into feminisation, I don’t think that’s the case. It’s just more showcased on here as it’s a safe space to do so.

I’ll happily wear provocative female underwear but it’s not something I find sexual. I enjoy the control and humiliation aspect of being instructed to do so. Frankly, neither of us are particularly into it. Feminisation through role-reversal seems more powerful in our relationship than any aspect of crossdressing. A level of intimacy can be obtained through what may appear as a kink.

All kinks that go with chastity are valid in CM it seems (except female degradation).

All should be welcome.

 

You may want to see a sex positive / kink-friendly therapist about this, but in general you see to:

• have an OPP (One Penis Policy)
• have an interest in prostate stimulation
• have an attraction to women in any role
• have an interest in sex toys

Outside of the fact that you seem slightly concerned about it, I’m not seeing anything terribly out of the ordinary.

 

If you ever decide to give it another go, the National Coalition of Sexual Freedom developed the Kink Aware Professionals list, which you may find of interest:

https://www.kapprofessionals.org/ka...stingfields[25]=Friendly&listingfields[23]=-1

 

I don't want to use the word "hero," because, what's a hero?

 

I think more often than not if you're into chastity play you're into prostate play. But (pun intended) what I love about most kinksters (of course there is always an exception to the rule) is that there is no two alike, I don't enjoy feminization or humiliation but if that is what my Domme is into i am willing to do it for them so long as they understand and are mindful. There are people who are into chastity as their only kink, and that ok, there are people for whom nothing is off limits and that's ok. All you have to do is communicate I don't like that I like that. And you have no judgement and nothing but respect for standing by who you are as a kinkster.

 

I dont have an issue with emasculisation, its just that I am not and nor is my partner into sissification or feminisation.

My partner often says during PIV to me "is it in yet" to which I threaten her with our big strap on. To date she has never let me use it on her but I wish she would and I also wish she would enjoy it, and the thought of her enjoying it more than my own penis is a huge turn on. We have talked about me being banned from climaxing inside of her but she always ends up telling me too. I dont fully understand why she does this but who am I to argue.

She has pegged me, used an elasterator ring on my sack (which she hasnt done for ages but she loves watching me when it snaps off) and stuffed my own cum in my mouth, all emasculating humiliating yet fun play.

But she wont ever make me wear womans panties or try and feminise me. Again...if I knew it turned her on and she asked me to I would do it, but its just not in our universe.

 

The first time my wife played with my prostate I was a bit conflicted afterwards. I told her I loved it but felt odd loving it as I didn’t want her to think of me as any less of a man. Her reply was that if anything my enjoying it and being able to say so makes her feel I’m even more of a man. She said God stuck a very pleasurable thing in a hard to reach place and many guys are too scared or insecure in their own masculinity to let themselves enjoy it, let alone admit to enjoying it. It’s always stuck with me and any time I do or enjoy something that could be considered “emasculating” I remember that. She’s a good woman and smarter than me most days.

 

very true!

 

You know what you like and what you don't like. I don't see anything wrong with that. The most important thing with all of this is that it is meant to be enjoyed.

 

Don't know if this will help, but here goes.
I have no interest in being feminized or in humiliation, but I'm into pegging and anal play. I don't find it makes me feel any less masculine. I love the feel of smooth skin, even my own, and I'm completely waxed from my neck to my knees, and again I don't feel it makes me feminine. Matter of fact, next time I wax it will be the full legs, and maybe even arms.
When I have posted pics, especially in a small cage, others have commented about my little Clitty or my sissy pussy. At first it bothered me, but the more I thought about it, the more I realized that is on them. Besides if they like it, whether they think it is feminine or not, I'm good with it. Overall I don't care what others think about what I like or what I do.

 

If my wife was into those things, I would be happy to do them, and I would not feel any less masculine. And not just for her. One of my biggest fantasies is to be licking her clean while the other guy does me. Just because I would like it, doesn't make me feel less masculine.

 

Which is fine, no matter what you want to do, it shouldn't make you feel less masculine unless you want it to.

 

T

The big question is, what is masculinity. On which terms do I define it?

I know a guy. He is masculine as fuck and never fucks ( gay couple). He gets fucked and fisted.
And he is a really strong man. Big, broad chest and so on.
He never fucks. But he gets sucked his cock and jerks around very much. Is allowed to cum.

Then I know me. Locked and being the almost orgasmfree boytoy of my wife, which has evolved different fetishes in the meantime ( one hour ago she edged my soul out of me and I am thankful for that).
My last orgasm is more than a month ago. And the bigger one was in march 21. Well I didnt pump my sperm into a women since august 21.

So who is more masculine?
The guy who gets fisted and fucked, but is able to cum and jerk of?
Or the guy who is chaste for his wife, follows her kink and sometimes is allowed to stick his cock in her beautyful juicy pussy.

I think I need a definition of a chaste male and a masculine man.
Maybe specified in alfa, beta, gamma chaste male.

What makes a chaste a man at all? I think all chaste men gave up their masculinity by locking their cocks up and not being able to be real guys. (so)

 

Doesn't matter what you think of anyone's masculinity except your own.

 

Yes it should be like this. But as it seems there exist definitions, which arent shared by everybody.