Last email to my wife

Thanks for sharing this!

 

Good luck with your revised approach.

 

I really hope this works for you. Good luck.

 

So still pushing something that she doesn't want to do? Maybe give it a rest, or otherwise the family court may be looming!

 

Awesome news. Very happy for you. Im no expert but would advise to really let her lead (dont push at all) and let her "feel" the benefit naturally. The way you embrace, the look in your eyes and how you make her needs and feelings a priority should tell her everything she needs to know.

 

good luck

 

Glad you're getting a positive response. Seems like you two are communicating well about this step, and I'm sure you'll continue to do so. That will hopefully produce the result you want and one she is comfortable with as well.

 

Congratulations !
I encourage you to read the Reluctant Wife by Chastity Perkins in the internet.
Just having agreed to hold the key and never ever talking about chastity,terms locked,orgasms,teasing,etc. and she will slowly but inevitably get accustomed to you pampering her and be aware of your drastic mood change toward submissiveness and after three months of this at least, you will be getting what you wished...good luck!

 

@Anonoman I really hope it works for both of you. She might be just going along with your wishes for now but, as @Headtrip said, the change in your behaviour might show her it's worth the effort.

 

My wife is kind of reluctant too, not as much as she was though. We use dice to make the rules, like how long or when to be locked. By adding the chance part, she is not really deciding and is she ok with that.

 

I just love your avatar pic

Seriously it sounds like me and my now ex wife.

I hope it works out. Just remember chastity changes how you think not how your wife thinks. They will play along but don't expect a miracle, Your wife has absolutely NO comprehension of what you are giving her, your frustration, the mountain you are climbing nor appreciation,,,right now she is doing this for you not for her. You will have to be at least 10 times more patient than I was.

For this to work you absolutely have to KILL any expectation you have and how you THINK it should work. Its how SHE thinks that matters, which is possibly diametrically apposed to yours.

If you can do this then you have a chance, i couldn't and I still cant even with my current partner, although we are much better

Sorry to be a downer I sincerely hope it works out for you.

 

Precisely Anonoman! The greatest chance is she won't transform into a typical Dominant but.....she will enjoy being pampered and that's why she will never want to return to the old ways! Tolerance will be a bargain for all she will get!
In my case my reluctant,tolerant KH/Wife has outsourced all the teasing and tormenting me to a Masseuse and a ProDomme and only very slowly along several years has become active only to set rules,rules that have evolved towards being more and more strict regarding orgasms and time caged as she has learned the key issue is to keep the fire burning!

 

Sure, I was thinking to rule a little the game when we began the chastity game with her, first time she kept the key for long, now I am her slave in a FLR relation.
It is not only the key you give but also your independance and right to decide, it is a surrendering.

 

All the best on your journey!

 

Well, there's always the monastery , but seriously I wish the best for you and your wife. Others have given sage advice, so I will just close with best wishes along the way and happy.

 

Good luck! I'm sure it's going to work out for both of you.

 

Very good news, @Anonoman! I can’t add anything to the excellent advice you’re getting here, but I’ll try anyway…

I feel like the times when my Wife and I slide into lock and forget mode are when we have moved away from being emotionally intimate with each other. The times you describe, when there’s no reason not to touch but touching doesn’t happen anyway, are good times to focus on connecting in those other, non sexual ways. Not connecting in one way leads to not connecting in the other.

That’s been my experience anyway. Take it for what it’s worth.

And again, congratulations on the good news.

 

Nobody wants to write about having their fantasies ignored, dashed, or getting the "You're just a pervert" chewing out. Chastity isn't for everybody, on either side of the cage.