As I've been reading more and more, I'm seeing everyone living for their release date. I dread it. I get such joy and fulfillment from serving. I love my cage and the feeling of being controlled 24/7. After an orgasm, I still serve as always, but I have to fight through the little things like my smart mouth, and general attitude towards life. This was/is one of the hardest things for my KHwife to understand. I am going from a sex addict to wanting none...ever. The feelings I get from serving more than replace what's lost and at times I even feel like I "got some". Who's with me?
I am with you, in my 20's i have lot of sex, really a lot, and since i dicovered the beauty of FLR and chastity, my life is much better than when I was having sex around. To serve and to obey is the best fullfilment ever.
i am *so* with You. In past service, i'm often dismayed when She indicates a cum is allowed. But - that's the thing with serving someone. They get to decide these things, not us... i truly would love permanent chastity. No milking, no release, just locked away. Just quietly serving a Woman for life.
I know this probably sounds strange but...I hate having a orgasm now. It lasts about 7 seconds and then I feel terrible. It takes 4-5 days to get that feeling back and I don't like it. I feel much better when my Wife(KH) keeps me aroused and excited at all times. I love the feeling I get after being teased and denied. My Wife gets me leaking and it's my little orgasm. I'm frustrated for a few minutes, but then feel great, without the "drop". I really don't care if I cum again. But sometimes my Wife makes me for her own entertainment. Over the last 30 year of marriage, my wife never turned me away, our sex life was great. Mind was, hers not so much. Now it's all about her needs and wants...Things have change, and I would say for the better for both of us.
You ask an interesting question. I suspect it’s is possible to recondition what your brain desires. It you get your dopamine release over and over again from pleasing your partner or giving your partner an orgasm, then you could start looking forward to those things. Could it be that the larger dopamine release from a true orgasm overshadows the smaller releases? In doing that, the conditioned response temporarily dose not provide a noticeable dopamine release and the activity that has been satisfying you becomes unsatisfying for a period of time.
I can do without and prefer passing on a cum if I can. I do better if I don't cum, and don't feel it's worth the 5 or so seconds of very fleeting pleasure.
I've suggested to my wife that I get a dildo and harness. She didn't like that idea at all. But I continue to think about it, much like when I started to look into getting started with a chastity device. It's strangely exciting to me to think about taking my cock out of the sexual equation. The 'problem' is that from time to time she likes to have me cum inside of her. I can definitely relate to that; I get off on her excitement and she gets off on mine. I guess her suggesting a fleshlight would be similar to me suggesting a dildo. I wouldn't like a fleshlight at all. But it's still excites me when I think about strapping on a dildo.
Seems to Me you have a great mindset. It's great that you enjoy just serving. It should be fulfilling to please your partner more then yourself. Keep up the good service and mindset. MistressS
I hate cumming too if that helps! I recognize that I like the feeling, but it's not as good as it was, and I prefer not to do it if given the choice. I seem to have lost that change of headspace, post ejaculation, which is great, but it's take a lot of time and work on believing in chastity, and not having any right to sexual pleasure. We did 6 months recently, and I did not want to masturbate, despite having sexual frustration.
If I could stay locked - I would be ok - I do spend most of the time locked - cumming the few seconds I feel not worth it - Sadly after about 35 days I get really horny and if I just squeeze my sack I can get a ruin release - no pleasure just - I feel back that I found a weak point in my self - but my wife has no interest in kh or my chastity it she also not interested I my private area - she prefers to use her devices a most of the time prefers no to have me around