Not locked but denied

My madam loves me being caged to much to consider the honour system.
She loves the constant presence of the cage, the fact that’s is 24/7 bondage, and the points digging in and punishing my penis the second I start to try and get hard.

 

Consequences occur on different levels. The most immediate is the look of disappointment in her eyes. It is devastating for me to have to face that look. On another level she makes sure she maximizes the injury I feel to my own pride as a male for having been dishonorable before the woman I adore. One way she might do that is through verbal reminders of how fortunate I am that she would even bother to let such a weak male to pay any attention to her at all. On still another level, any number of penalties could be involved. These can be behavioral, mental, corporal, or any combination. And another level is corrective, in which we work out a pattern of activities for me that will help me strengthen my resolve to be chaste for her. Regardless of what they are. we always make sure I am seriously facing my failure of commitment and not just playing a role. ...thanks for asking.

 

Yes. Pretty much. I still get orgasms. But less and less each year. She’s becoming satisfied by giving me perfectly ruined orgasms. They are fun for her. It’s all of the fun and none of the downsides. She rides my cock far less and I do miss that. But keeping me from orgasm has become a habit.

I’ve only been caged 60% of the time in the past 2.5 years. The honor system is the foundation for her masturbation and orgasm control. Chastity helps me. I want to wear it because it makes honoring that commitment easier. Only until this past few months has she taken to enforcing my chastity with real key control.

I empty out without climax as well. I told a doctor I was staying in plateau - avoiding orgasms - to prevent refractory periods. I was told that those gentle emissions are equivalent from a health perspective as forceful ejaculations. My wife seems to know this already. That orgasms aren’t necessary. Since then she reminds me that I “don’t need to cum”.

She even now teases me that ruined orgasms are unnecessary since I’ve started having spontaneous emissions. She was thrilled when I gushed for her from verbal teasing. Mostly I think she likes to know that everything she does to me is a gift. Not a chore.

I haven’t stroked my cock to orgasm for over 1-1/2 years now. That was during a guided masturbation session. I might make 2019 my first wank free year, supervised or not.

No touching rules are good. I think honor system is a good foundation for enforced chastity.

 

This is an important understanding for us as well. Ms and I have discussed it frequently. If my devotion to her turns into a burden for her, it is no longer devotion to her, but has turned into something centered on me.

 

Rarely is the honour system in use for us and when it is then the time is brief and it is invariably for a specific reason, like a mediacal appointment where wearing the cage may accidentally include someone who has not been either informed or consulted in TTTWD not a very pleasant thing to do and big breach of SS&C

Neither of us like the time I have to be on the honour system as we both get far more out of my being locked and denied and cheating whilst it would not happen is as practically as possible not possible. Its a much better head-fuck for me and my Lady enjoys the enhanced level of control and ownership she feels my being locked gives her.

 

We work hard on reinforcing that I don't want to have pleasure from my genitals. We weaned me off masturbation by making me feel self conscious of it being a bad habit. We weaned me off sex by making me fully focused on giving pleasure and to look at wanting to use it for penetration as an act of selfishness. This made the honor system much easier, because chastity isn't about being physically kept from something I desire, but rather a reinforcement of my/our choices.