I was hoping to compile a list of things that chaste subs can do for their Keyholders. Small gestures that become habits for the both of you, such as opening doors, walking behind them, holding their costs as they put their arms through, kissing feet or putting their shoes on their feet, ways of addressing. Once I had a list I may present it to my KH and ask Her if She would like to consider checking off the list so I may begin to apply them to my daily services
Doing work around the house without being asked. Making coffee in the morning, tea in the afternoon. Making the bed every morning.
Bring her warm towels for after her shower. Warm her bed before bed time. Since straws are getting scarce in restaurants, always carry one for her. Make her a snack to go with her evening wine. Make her tea in the morning. Make the bed in the morning. Fluff her bed pillows in the dryer with a wet towel. Keep her bathroom spotless and stocked. Always give her the first choice of seating positions at a resturant table. Open her door and help her in and out of your truck. Carry her packages. Take her coat and put it away. Rub her feet. Give her the tv remote. Rub her feet. Let her read the paper first and at her leisure. Rub her feet.
I think most would agree, whatever you do, large or small, anticipate what she needs. What pleases her, what makes her comfortable, what eases her mind, what gives her more free time. Thinking ahead, without being told, makes small gestures into big pleasures for her. When she is pleased, you will be happy too.
I don’t know how I forgot. If she wakes up at night and is struggling to go back to sleep, give her a little back rub. If she has had a pregnancy, she might like some extra attention to her lower back. Finish with a light back scratch where her bra strap might cross and another light rub. Then let her snuggle in any position she chooses. Beware, after a few nights, she may be waking up often.
Mine aren’t very sexual in nature. I get up with her, even on my days off, help get ready for work. This is making coffee, making and packing her lunch, and taking care of the dog. In the winter time this includes starting her car, scraping or shoveling it clean. Foot rubs with lotion every evening I make her supper and keep the house tidy along with the dishes. I do most of the thorough cleaning when she isn’t there, so it’s just done, and she comes home and everything is nice. I go down or inquire about oral every night and she says yes or no, same with the mornings. Most of the time it isn’t verbal, I start to kiss down her belly and if she says no thanks I quickly start my way back up and snuggle. Manners stuff I do but that’s just how I have always been. I stand when she gets up or sits, I open doors , let her choose the seat, order first, and in general try to show respect that she knows I have for her, but to convey that to everyone around us.
agree here! And as I am in a bdsm lifestyle my madam expects most of these anyway, I always open doors for her, carry all the bags, she chooses were we go to eat, drink and where we sit when there. I always drive, evening massages are mandatory, the list goes on!
I do a lot of the above. Also Cooking. If I'm not going to be there then a meal will be prepared. Put a daily note in her lunch that I prepare for her to take to work. She now sits at the top end of the table. Iron her clothes and put them away. Started to take good care of myself for her benefit. Detail her car. Polish her shoes.
To me small gestures are things that are not expected or assumed one is to do. They will be unique to her and her alone. Find something that she will find endearing and happy that you discovered on your own. That's the best small gesture you can offer to the one you love.
this may sound old fashioned or be considered an outdated approach has it ocurred to you to; Ask her .... I know..I know what some of you are thinking ..what does he mean.. Ask her? And on top of that then just do what you ever else you think of ... she will probably appreciate the gesture more that the act and if for some reason she does not like something she will tell you not to do it.