Everything is right in the world

I just made a post about just this in another the thread, so I won’t duplicate it all, but basically madam and I were vanilla, then we got in to bdsm, then she wanted to switch, we did, then she found chastity, she locked me, then there was another sub, then she cuckolded me, then she submitted to her bull.

 

Funny you ask
Mistress and I have been together for 15 years next month and married for 9 of those years. The first 10 years of us being together we never had any D/s play or lifestyle. The extent of our kink was me asking her to wear naughty vinyl and latex outfits when we were being intimate. She finally got annoyed with me always asking her to wear them so she stopped wearing them. A couple of years went by that were fairly vanilla until I discovered chastity one fateful evening. I researched more and more and it was like a light turned on in my head and seemed that there was something about chastity that seemed so right. Then it dawned on me that the porn I typically liked was femdom, the women I’m attracted to are typically tall, statuesque in charge types. Even with all the clues around me as I grew up I didn’t really understand what it meant to me yet, let alone discovering that people were actually living real 24/7 D/s relationships.

Don’t get me wrong mistress and I always have had a wonderful loving relationship and it wasn’t really like anything was missing but things were getting a little complacent between us. I really felt like it was my fault because of my porn watching and the other bad habit that’s typically accompanied with porn. So after doing much research into chastity I took the plunge and asked my wife if she would lock me up. She was confused at first not understanding why I would want such a thing. It took a week or two of me bumbling through explanations and her being very confused and unsure about it. I wasn’t doing a very good job explaining why I thought chastity would be good for us so I bought her a book simply titled Male Chastity by Lucy Fairbourn. She power read the book in about 45 minutes and came out of our bedroom with a huge smile on her face. I was dying to hear what she had to say because I had been waiting in our living room on pins and needles. Her response to me was “hell yeah we’re doing this”. That was 5 years ago, I wish I could say that it’s been smooth sailing but it honestly took me 3 years of screwing/ trial and error before truly understanding my role as her sub and understanding what it means to obey my mistress. Once she decided she was to be the domme there was no going back for us. A couple of times I tried to let things go back to how they were before but nether of us seemed to feel very happy or content when we weren’t living the lifestyle. It’s very noticeable that mistress is happiest when I’m locked and she has the key. That has become very clear over this last year.
I’m positive this is something that will last the rest of our lives as this dynamic makes us feel that we’re right where we should be. Things had been slow going over the years but a lot of that also had to do with mistress going through a very hard Masters program for speech language pathology that she’ll be completely done with on October 3rd. SO PROUD OF HER ❤️❤️❤️. I have a feeling that when her brain isn’t occupied with study that things will take off even more than already have. Although there are ups and downs I could be any happier than how she makes me feel and being under her thumb.

 

I feel like I’m a better person Mistress. More understanding and content in my obedience.

Thank you for making a lovely post about us.

 

Great story to read!

 

We are at the early stages of the road. My wife has always been submissive, but she is very much enjoying keeping me locked up these days. Hard to say where we will end up.

 

Thank you, interesting story. Sometimes it takes a while and the right setting both for a woman to realise she is dominant and for a man that he is a sub, something that happened when you switched "just to try"

 

I was a domminant man in past and my wife was vanila and never say no, I can nearly do whatever I want with her.
2 years ago and after years of couple waves we go to FLR and chastity. She is now the dominant and has no intention to get back to a sub role while I found myself at ease and happy in the sub role. So switching is a reality that happens.
it was a try to makes her life better, now I am locked in my sub role and happy of it since.
maybe you just have to see the place that suits you.

 

Ours was a little different, I had taken a break, then 20 years ago went online in the old yahoo chat BDSM groups and they had local groups, I would hang out find Munches and chat, Mistress came in the room and everyone jumped to serve but me, I was unsure if I wanted to be back in the Lifestyle if there was a place for me. Mistress sends me a Private IM saying how are you tonight? would you like to chat? That was the start from there out of the rooms and Yahoo IM, a few months later Mistress wanted to meet at a local Munch She called it our first date, I would beg to differ it was a four-hour interview She asked, I answered then towards the end of the night She stands long blonde hair just gorgeous I see Her black bra threw Her white shirt, tucked into leather pants skin-tight, black hose and black heels. reaching into Her bag She removes a box handing it to me and says I like you and if you trust me too, go into the restroom put it on and bring Me both keys and sit back down If not set it on the table and we can say our goodbyes and leave. looking at me and smiling sits back down and waits looking at me. Good Fri, So I turned went into a stall took it out of the box pink and put it on walked out to the table sat down and put the keys on it Looking around I felt everyone there knew. She picks up the keys says walk me to my car boi gives me a kiss on the cheek and says look for an email drives off. I have never forgotten that first night Thank you, It has been twenty years of service I am proud to say the last fourteen as Her 24/7 housemaid slave, Every step on our journey was done together growing together before moving onto the next level. As you can see even after fourteen years being 24/7 I am in Love with my Mistress today as much as I was that first day

 

Before meeting my Mistress, I had been around the bdsm world generally as a dominant, but with occasional scenes submitting to female dominants.

When I met Miss Amanda, I knew within a very short time that I wanted 24/7 FLR with her. The only obstacle was that Miss Amanda has had no experience or even awareness of the female dominant type of relationship.

There followed a period of intense reading and research for Miss Amanda, during which she found her inner Mistress, and we began the FLR journey.

 

I’ve been on both sides of the D/S. I must admit submissive is more fun for me and more my natural calling (0: I think it’s better if you’ve both been on either side, gives you a better understanding of the relationship (personally speaking lol)

Glad you both found yours.

 

I have been a sub for a long time before I met my current husband, I thought that was what I naturally liked until I found him (who is definitely the love of my life) who turned out to also be a sub.
Now there was a dillema, because we both wanted a kinky relationship but obviously that's not going to work with two subs. So after experimenting for a bit, I decided I wanted to try the Dominant side of things.
My husband introduced me to orgasm denial and over time I came to like it a lot.

I mainly switched to becoming a Domme because I saw what orgasm denial did to my husband, he became an even more attentive, caring and loving partner. I think the difference between him after an orgasm and before it is huge, and the version before having an orgasm is definitely the partner I prefer.

Since I figured how much orgasm denial influences my husbands character, I wouldn't want to go without it anymore. So we've now made a contract with me as Dominant and him as submissive, and bought a device he is now wearing frequently.

I do think having been a sub myself helps to be a good Dominant, I understand what is thrilling about the experience and do my best to be a great Domme.

 

I have always been submissive. My wife has always been the dominant one in our marriage although she doesn't see herself as dominant I can assure you she is. Unfortunately this has never progressed into the lifestyle I have longed for and kink hasn't realy played much of a part in our life although it's always been there in my head and never gone away, I've tried many times to resist but it's just the way I'm wired. There are a number of reasons why the subject has never been re visited. One being I just thought she wasn't interested as we experimented with it in our early days but it was more me pushing it and leading the way. The other being confidence to bring it up in the event rejection signalled a slippery slope to the end of us. Its been a massive hole in my life.

Anyway long story short. You only live once and at 38 I'm not getting any younger and it's important in life to be happy so I got brave. Chastity seemed a good place to start as not much effort required on her part yet I'm in her control, she has noticed a change in me so hopefully we can progress.

 

I knew very little about the bdsm scene at all. However when I set my mind to something I put all my effort into it. I read everything I could find and talked to other Dommes. I have found the real me now. I could never live any other way. Having a relationship without arguing is amazing. He knows what’s expected of him. He’s far from a sissy sub and that’s perfect for me. The dynamic of having a naturally dominant man submit to me is perfect.

 

Interesting. I am naturally submissive and have always been aware of this. Yet my upbringing, career choices, environment, lifestyle I probably come across as dominant. But I'm not.

 

That’s the same with me, if anyone met me they would never see my submissive nature (especially as a senior manager in a male dominated workplace lol). Guess it’s true “never judge a book by its cover”

 

That's nice.

 

At first we were like any normal dating couple. She was somewhat submissive in the bedroom (wanted me to call her my slut, spank her butt, go rough, light bondage etc), and I faked it as best I could. Nothing really new for me, I hadn’t shared my true self with anyone, so acting in the appropriate way wasn’t a stretch. I did really like her though and decided what the heck and just tell her.

I did and she was confused. I had already bought and tested the device before telling her, and when we we started chastity we didn’t have to go through the growing pains of cage issues.

At first she asked if I felt guilty for something, feeling the need to punish myself for something. Then she asked if I hated my penis, I told her, no I’m very fond of it. I explained nothing had to change, she would just be the only one in charge of my penis, and unlocking it for any reason would be up to her.

She researched it, and from what she said to me, she wasn’t into it, but liked me enough to give it a go. In fact her willingness to comply and go along was a testament to how much she was a submissive at heart. Almost like yes i will control you master lol. On that note I will mention she dove in head first. She was big on pleasing me by teasing and playing, very me oriented.

As time went on something inside her switched. When it did we did everything on her terms, her activities, her timeline, and her desires. No guilt and doing only exactly what she wants. She told me since, that the confidence she she felt was addictive. At that point herrole became more defined and pretty much stopped all activities that she thought weren’t for her or her role anymore. Giving me a blowjob didn’t seem appropriate to her anymore, letting me be on top wasn’t right either, and having me give her butt a slap was out of the question.

Around the year mark I think, she said this won’t be changing back. It wasn’t even a discussion. This is who I am and what we are. Now I think back of the first few weeks of dating, calling her my little slut and smacking her ass and chuckle a little.

 

Very nicely written, and some parts very closely resembling our experience.

 

@Nicoftime that resonates much with our experience as well. I won't give back the keys now I have them either!

 

Thank you Ma'am

 

Being denied by you is the best feeling in the world. I am so glad you found your dominant side. You already was the perfect wife and lover but now you are also the perfect mistress. So I must be te luckiest male entity in the universe.