The irony of Locktober for us...

Well, the authorities aren't real strict about this for keyholders.

 

Heh, it’s all at your keyholder’s discretion. It’s always at their discretion

 

Locktober lasts till my wife unlocks me.. The calendar is afraid of Mrs. Encased. I really don't worry about it.

 

I have not mentioned locktobet to my Wife

She would be annoyed at me if i did. She can talk about chastity if She wants to but She does not like me to talk about it with Her

Fyi i have been locked 24/7 for 3 years with few exceptions

 

But i will mention it to my therapist i think she will be amused by it

 

I mentioned Locktober to my wife in the last two years and had no interest in response. I won't be mentioning it ever again.

I also figured that it wasn't in the spirit of how we were doing chastity, my denial in exchange for her satisfaction of things both non-sexual and sexual. What we have works and is fun, turning control of that over to the calendar for an exact calendar month seems completely inappropriate.

Locktober might be a fun way to introduce chastity, but once a couple has their dynamic, it doesn't really add anything and could even kill the spontaneity as to what do you do when October is over? If you stop, then why? If you carry on then it's not really a month is it?
If you've done it once, then it's good, but as an ongoing thing, not for this couple thanks.

 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_month-long_observances

Have you used a guide dog this month? Better hurry, the month is almost over!

Locktober is nothing more than a meme level way of raising awareness about chastity. Please don't push it on your keyholder. Let her push it on you, if she chooses.

 

For madam and I, October is no different to the other 11 months of the year, I am locked and denied the same as every other day!

 

My wife feels the same way. If I push for a particular duration or goal, she doesn’t like it. She’s never been into schedule or calendars. It exactly takes away control from her. She keeps me on my toes.

Somehow we have learned to communicate without me pushing. Or topping from the bottom. I completely understand.

I was locked up for 31 days recently, unrelated to Locktober, of course. With two brief removals for teasing. But no orgasm. It just happened. It wasn’t something I pushed for.

She is happy to entrap me with my expressed desires, but it needs to be on her terms.

Actually she took control of my chastity after October 2016 when I was “controlling” things. Now I don’t have control when I’m locked. I can’t masturbate. I’m just not allowed. She knows the chastity is a gift.

she treats Locktober as some internet thing and not as much about her.

I still don’t know if we’re doing Locktober this year. But I was open to her that I wanted to try. I have to careful pushing too hard one way or the other. She will be contrary just to exert her control and authority.

So you’ve hit the nail on the head. The control needs to be in your wife’s hands.

 

Locktober, Locktember, LockJune...I'm locked no matter what month it is...lol...

 

Locktober's more for newcomers or dabblers in our fetish. If you're already well embedded in it I don't see Locktober as something you'd need to bother with.

 

october, or january or july
that's the same since 20 years : locked as soon as awake
opened just before going to bed if we sleep together.
If i'm alone, i rest closed.

 

We are in a similiar situation. Our relationship is based on control - She controls, She decides if I am to be locked or not. We also have two aniversaries during Locktober - 15 years since we met and 6 years married.

She's keen to do Locktober as it saves her any decision making. But every time she unlocks that cage there will be a forfeit - anything from adding an extra week to a severe punishment.

 

We'll be doing Locktober again this year. We're 24/7 using chastity to stop my masturbation and open up my closed alpha male personality to attentiveness and submission to her leadership. Though she usually wants to play with the erection every 10 days or so for her own excitement, she sees Locktober as a reason to say no and drive me more deeply into need and submission, to make me realize how thoroughly she controls my erection. It's intimidating to me, how long the month is, how I must surrender all hope of being released from my submission.

 

You can do it, brother!

 

Think positively - when its all over you can say you've done 1/12 of a year and you'll you've made a major achievement

 

I was actually locked up (for good) on 9/30/17. For us, Locktober just continued, LOL!

 

My wife likes the idea of locktober, but that doesn't mean that she'll do it.

 

it just sounds fun to say... "Locktober"

Like many above, we just do our own thing...

 

We treat Locktober like an Advent calendar, every day count down, With some teasing that just because the month is over does not mean i get an orgasm. After all NOvember is next.

 

For the ones that are not 24/7 for years it is fun to have a calendar of events to play around our kinks/way of life.

 

I've never discussed Locktober with my Wife. I think she would only be interested in Locktober if I were not ((in October) in chastity. Then she would cite it as a reason to get me into chastity; but she just about managed to get me back into chastity recently and it could quite easily continue until well past October. I can feel myself increasingly succumb to her influence with each passing day.

 

When we first started we did it, but at that time it was new and more kink. She was having fun with it. Taking it out every night, rubbing and edging, only to lock back up. It was as all new and fun.

Fast forward and we have went multiple months without even touching my cage, and the idea that this month in particular is any different than the rest is somewhat anticlimactic. A whole month?!!! I’ve only been out of my cage for a handful of days this year, so locktober is just October.

She usually lets me out around once a month or two, so making her conform to a different schedule when we already practice locktober quite frequently, is not very advantageous.

I do remember the good ok days of daily fun, activities, and mind numbing tease and denial sessions....mmmmm good stuff