more sex when caged?

"I"m a fetish buffet . . . "
(Love it!) I think I must seem that way to my wife too!

I can relate to everything you say, especially, "I've done my best to not obsess . . . "

Tough to do.

 

There is no question my wife is more aroused when I am locked in chastity. When I am not in chastity she has no interest in my tiny penis. It can't do anything to please her, and if she touches it I just beg for more. But when I am locked she loves being in control, and she loves teasing me and making me hard and frustrated in my cage. And taking my penis out of the equation makes her want my tongue, my fingers, her vibrator, her dildo so much more.

 

My wife is never hornier than when I’m locked and she’s squeezing my balls against her, large, beautiful arse..... she’ll have me bring her to orgasm with my fingers and tongue multiple times, and it’s almost like I orgasm by osmosis, I feel each one as a huge wave of pleasure through my whole body. Before I was locked it seems like sexual activity had become something of a chore

 

For us....Yes to the "wave of pleasure" part. No to the "chore" part". Sex before me being locked was perfectly fine. But sex while locked seems to be better for both of us. Maybe the novelty will wear off. But so far, we both seem to be hornier than before.

 

It’s unbelievable how much hornier my wife is when I am caged. I feel so much more relaxed, as I know she will end up satisfied. Cage off, she instantly seems to be less interested. When caged, I agree with the above, it is hard to not keep bringing it up. I just keep telling myself its all about her, so I get my head space in how I can best serve her, weather it be quiet time to allow her to read, etc. I just keep focusing on how to please her without being wimpy or whinny.

 

I wouldn't say me wearing the cage is making my wife horny (or more horny). We are both in our early sixties, so horniness takes a little longer to boil up.

Mostly, she's acting as if the cage is not there, and making no reference to it. Recently, we had an argument about whether I should be "wearing it all the time." (She was against this, calling it "the elephant in the room.")

Trouble is, if I'm not locked, I find I'm less out-going and less focused on what she's talking about and her needs. It's been totally true for me that the cage has made me a more attentive and caring husband, regardless of how it might be affecting the frequency of our sexual encounters. It's like magic for me, but she's taking a while to process and recognize this benefit to our relationship. (Time. I must give it time.)

 

Sounds like it's going very well for you both. You're quite right - don't obsess. Just let it flow. Glad it's working out for you both. Keep going.

 

We were having very little sex after 5 years of marriage. Once every few months. After I suggested chastity (I said I has been watching too much porn and jerking off, but really I just wanted to try the chastity 'kink' ) the fetish flood gates have been opened and we are being sexual and physical with each other all the time. She's so happy and excited and confident and empowered.
However, it's clear that I will not be having much if any PIV sex from now on and will never be jerking off again.
So much more sex, yes. But in many more different ways than I imagined

 

Every post so far, yes THAT.

Yes, she's far more playful when I'm locked, and she has all the orgasms, more than when I'm not. She loves to occasionally grab my package when I'm caged, something she'd never do when I'm not.

 

That's the way it should be.

 

PIV is often not physically comfortable internally for my wife (it's not that I'm any bigger than average, she's quite petite) so when we first started and she unlocked me it was often for me to masturbate lying next to her. In some ways that was frustrating too, that she was lying naked beside me, but I could only use my hand and not feel myself inside her.

Now it's getting that I really don't want to have a full orgasm, the high doesn't compensate for the lows afterwards, so I'm tending to not want to play with myself at all if she unlocks me.
But good intentions often fail when the action gets real! I dread it when she makes signs that she might unlock me.

 

Lucky for you! Sounds fantastic!

 

I could only hope...

 

I agree also, my madam is always turned on at the thought I am locked and helpless, and it makes her want more sex, just not with me!

 

Ironic you say that. Same thing here. If she wants me to get her off with her toys, she grabs my cage as she goes over yelling that she wants a real man to fuck her while I watch.

 

You may talk about PIV sex I guess.
Since chastity we goes for 2 time less PIV and 3 time more sex but also non penetrative sex and many pleasure that does not exist before.
Also now she is in charge and have a lot of orgasm she enjoy sex a lot more than before and she initiate it.
on that point we go to zero to 2 time a week at least that my KH want sex or pleasure (but maybe not PIV)
So I will say, yes, more and better quality but no more "quick and easy" PIV.

 

Use your hands to create a "barrier", so when you go full-deep you are not really putting it all in, because your hands are creating the right "space", but you are still pushing, so it's somehow satisfying...

 

YES! unqualified yes! My beautiful wife/KH has had many more orgasms since I went into chastity almost 2 years ago. And, BION, I've had almost as many as I was having before (which tells you how bad our sex life was) and orgasms for me now are WAY more fun! We'll never go back-i'm locked for as long as we are both alive.

In fact, I ordered a new Evotion device today, to allow for some variety. Plus, just last night, my wife/KH and I discussed the possibility of getting complimentary tattoos. I'd get " (Her name)'s cock" just at the pubic hair line. (as if I had pubic hair anymore, LOL) She'd get some kind of decorated key on her breast and/or pubic area. Can you tell we really get into this?

 

I found the reason today in my mailbox : https://www.neonmag.fr/addiction-au...ec-locytocine-lhormone-du-bonheur-538465.html
It's in french so go google translate.
It says that when your Ocytocyn level are high you are sexually aroused and happy because of the high level of the hormone. This hormone is high when you are chaste.

So being in chastity makes you addict to happiness and sex and a better life, you wife is also happier, the perfect life.

And yes my KH a exploded in orgasm since we are in chastity and FLR.

 

We seem to have less sex than ever even though I spend more time Locked. I want to believe that a large part of it is that we have a 2 year old and 1 1/2 month old baby at home! My wife’s libido is probably sitting right around zero percent. To compound the issue is that even though she is breast feeding our son she just started her monthly woman event even though breastfeeding mothers aren’t supposed to menstruate. I feel bad for her because she has the stress of being a new mother again and that going on.

Hopefully thinks look up in a few months. Until then I will do my best to support her and be ready for and if she is ready.

 

Cages and penis jewelry made our sex lives a whole new thing. I would say that the quality of our sex is better as well. Mrs. Encased always likes a new bit of jewelry for my bits, and when a new one arrives addressed to me, and I know I didn't order it, the excitement of what is to come just adds more fuel to the already burning flame.