So on the weekend, Mrs Sen was recovering from a minor procedure and she wasn't wanting stimulation herself, but she did instruct me to remove my cage so that she could have some fun with my penis. After she was done (and well before I was near orgasm) we were cuddling when she said "you can have your fantasy if you want and mess over my body". I thought about it for a minute, it was about a week since my last orgasm and I was just getting into that horny headspace, so I declined the offer. If she had worded it as an instruction (do this) rather than an offer, I ofcourse would have obeyed, but it wasn't. What experiences do others have, declining a release to stay in the right headspace?
I have done this also, it had a two fold benefit, it kept me in the right mindset, and when my madam asked me why I said it was because it would so much better if it was her touching me farther than myself. Madam was pleased with my dedication to her and with my ability to think beyond the short term gain.
Mine is a more physical issue . I'm little l e, no staying power, just fast on the trigger. Long recovery between orgasum. My hotwife / owner is fair. Everything she has a orgasum, she will unlock me and let me have one. Sometimes when she is with her lover she can cum 3 times in a night ?, on some occasions 4 times. When she gets home , if she is satisfied, she will unlock me and supervise me jerking off as she describes her date to me. Once I cum , that's about it for the night. If she came 3 times, she will offer to allow me to jerk off 3 times, but I have to pass. I do remember once or twice when she told me in such sexy detail what they did, I was able to squeeze out a second time. But 99 percent of the time it is once. She has dated on 2 consecutive nights. As usual she comes home and will unlock me. But again most times I can't do it 2 nights in a row and have to decline her offer.
LOL-I haven't had the opportunity to decline a release for the purpose of a penile orgasm in a while, but I get your point! After a while, you become almost afraid to orgasm. Pretty common, I think.
Within me exists a fierce battle between wanting it and wanting to be denied. My wife has not offered me an "optional" orgasm as of yet. I am always instructed to orgasm or to not orgasm; I have not been told to orgasm "if I please." If she gave me the choice, I am confident that I would take the option.
I did this in the very beginning when I want locked for more than a day or two. Anymore, I don't even get the offer until at least 6 weeks, so I'm not saying no.
Pretty much this. I always try to take care of her needs first, and I will always accept her choice over what happens. Tough spot to be in, but I'm learning.
A few nights ago after I gave her a lengthy massage which had nearly put her to bed, we were cuddling and she asked if I'd like to be released for PIV sex, but that she didn't think she could do much work. (It was late and she's quick to fall asleep.) I declined because, she was too tired, and I figured she'd be fast asleep before I got to the bathroom, cleaned up, and came back. If she'd told me to do it, I would have of course done what she asked, but she was sort of offering a me a mercy cum and so I declined.
I have passed on a release, when given permission, because i wanted to show my fidelity to my Domme. It was a tough choice, and actually lead to a much longer time without a climax. But i never regretted it.
Once or twice my wife has asked me if I wanted to cum in the middle of a big teasing session with butt play, if I’m lucky. I’m usually blissed out and incoherent. I never know if she’s just messing with me or if she’s serious. I usually reply “Yes and no.” To which she chuckles, says, “Good answer,” then continues teasing me without release. I think she’s always left me locked after one of those events.
Back in the old days, whenever Mrs Edge asked, I'd bite my tongue and tell her "I sort of want to, but I'd rather leave it up to you." That was *always* the correct answer.
I can also wait as long as I can give herself an orgasm instead, I need that connection and her pleasure to sustain my appetite for a couple of days but make no mistake I'm always very hungry for more and my wife is well aware of it too