There seems to be a body of thought in the male chastity world that searches for ways to improve mens staying power. Don’t get me wrong I am all for a long luxurious love making sessions unfortunately, reading some posts it seems some guys want to be jackhammers. (pretty much older posts I have to say, I have been reading a lot of them recently) I don’t want a jackhammer, I don’t want my guy concentrating on how long he can keep going, I want him concentrating on me. One of the main reasons I love male chastity is because rather than the typical Radio Moscow behaviour there is care and sensuality. If you have problems with premature ejaculation when being allowed to make love to your partner then I get the point of delaying tactics. However, if that is not the case please be sure that your partner wants these tactics, maybe she would prefer other ways of making things last than you being a jackhammer.
I was allowed to take Viagra this morning, and if I was a jackhammer, I would not last a minute. I have to go very slow and when I'm about ready to go over the edge, I ask for a 2 minute break to cool down. After about an hour the Viagra stopped working, even though I did not get off. The hard on left but the pleasure was still there, and the danger of going over the edge.
I think a lot of the male concept of a jackhammer being a good thing comes from porn. These fake scenes where a woman is moaning and flopping about while a man with a giant penis jackhammers her. I can just see the post scene tub soak and percocet afterwards. I do have to say though that one of my complaints about my wife is she wants to sprint to an orgasm as quickly as possible and be done. I'm lucky if foreplay, oral and toys lasts 5 minutes, 10 tops and then she wants me to put everything away and go to sleep. I know it's all about her and what she wants, but I get frustrated as I love being intimate with her and I love worshiping her all over. I would love to spend 30 minutes building her up to a glorious orgasm, but she calls the shots and I do what she wants.
After chastity got serious and I was locked for what I'd consider long periods of time I would ejaculate prematurely nearly all the time. It bothered me thinking that my wife was bothered by this. As it turned out it is one of her favorite parts of chastity, she loves that she can have me done in under 15 seconds if she wants too. I also realized that this kind of control really plays a role in my level of submissiveness. Since a lot of men pride themselves on their lasting power, the fact that this was taken away from me was very emasculating and humbling. This also makes me focus a lot more on her and enjoy our intimate sensual time together.
I am confused But, I have spent most of my life that way and it has been a fun ride! if a male suffers from premature ejaculation wouldn't being a jackhammer make him cum even quicker? if you are good for 30 strokes would not spreading them out over a few minutes be better then jackhammering 30 times in few seconds? And what you all seem to forget is the word FOREPLAY. I am new here so maybe my ideas are a little strange--But, it seems male chastity is a cure all from everything from the common cold to cancer and everything in between. If the male was not caring or sensitive to his partner before caging why would he change? Sticking his penis in a cage is not going to change him the change will be phony and self serving so he can get off every now and then And if it is because of what I said then there is a problem in the relationship. That also applies to the woman, if she doesn't care enough to discuss her wants with her partner, she also is to blame for having bad sex. -- A simple act like doing the dishes shows your partner you care but if you need to have your penis in cage to do the dishes--You are not doing it to please your partner-you have a not so hidden motive! OK, I ready for the abuse.
Please don't take the following as bragging - it's not meant to be. I've been blessed - or cursed depending on your viewpoint - with the opposite problem; I can go all night without cumming. One of the benefits of wearing a cage is that my Wife can enjoy a 10 minute 'quickie' as opposed to a 2 hour pounding! She likes it when I cum, and if she wants more afterwards it's either a 5 minute breather or magic wand time. I've often joked that I missed my calling as a porn star! 2 hour film in one take? No problem!
OK, you have a right to your opinion, but so do I, I have always been totally devoted to my wife, but before chastity, I was lazy and did not show my devotion in the manner she deserves. Now I show that devotion, and yes, it is for selfish reasons...but the only reason, is that if I can make her happy, it makes me very happy.
@imasissytoo I think what mistress Jules was referring to is the ability to keep yourself going for long periods of time when it's not pleasurable to your partner, not necessarily pounding away like an actual jackhammer. Moreso the male train of thought that longer is better which is a common misconception. No couples practicing MC have forgotten forplay, if anything the cage is a huge reminder of who the pleasure is supposed to be about.
If that is the case, then my wife is the opposite. When she allows my orgasms, she tells me to slow down and take my time. That's why she allows me a 2 minute break whenever I get close to the edge. Then I usually can last 30 to 40 minutes, and that's the way she likes it. Of course that's only once or twice a month.
One of the things I advise men when they want to discuss chastity to their partner is to lay off the whole "I'll be more helpful around the house, attentive etc". Their first response I would guess would be "why do you need me to lock up your penis for you to act that way?" Behavioral changes do occur. It's human nature. I liken it to priorities changing. Example: she goes to bed early. You are not tired and you know you aren't going to be touched in a sexual way. You stay up watching tv, maybe get yourself off and go to bed much later. Or you are caged and horny She goes to bed early, your not tired and know you aren't going to be touched in a sexual manner. You go to bed with her anyway, hoping you can get as much intimacy with her as possible. It's not some plot to get laid, your priorities change. Before when she kept on you to do stuff around the house, you might put it off. You might even ignore it because you haven't been getting attention. You take care of your needs yourself and her list of items becomes almost contentious. When unable to take care of your own needs, it is natural to try to make her happiness a priority. It just happens that way. Maybe others can say they aren't different after an O, I for one will be the first to admit that once I finish, I'm really not motivated to do anything besides what I want. As far as the jack hammer...it depends on her desire at the time. When using a toy on her, she likes to start off slow and get faster as she nears the finish. With me...it doesn't really matter much. Sometimes she will tell me to slow down, mostly to prolong my experience...not hers. Usually after several needed stops she just says no stopping and then it's over within seconds. Others here have this conundrum of her wanting long sessions of lovemaking and still practicing chastity, we don't have the same. She is much more sexually satisfied if I am not "hammering" at all lol.
CBT.....not that perverts, Cognitive Behavior Therapy. This chastity is one form of cbt. I'm my opinion as long as it makes both parties more attentive, caring, open, happy, and results in a better stronger relationship who cares about why it works. Just one opinion