In a community that is very much focused on women being better than men, why is it that men still keep posting deprecating or insulting comments about themselves using terms for women? If you describe your penis as a "clit", but you think the clitoris is part of a better person, you are actually complimenting yourself? If you enjoy anal sex and call your anus your pussy, then likening it to the vagina which you miss means you are more than you were? IMHO using those analogies doesn't insult you it demeans the women on here to be even more "objects". Perhaps with the extra time gained by being locked up this community could come up with some better derogatory terms if that is what you are into.
Ok, lots to unpack here. I understand some people find feminine things insulting or derogatory, but I'd argue it's far more complicated than that. I'd say that's more your interpretation and not necessarily the views of the person saying these things. If you would like to learn more about what someone thinks when they use these terms, perhaps ask them directly? Other than that, apply YKINMK and look elsewhere. Not everything is going to sound good to you and that's absolutely fine! If it isn't hurting anybody and it's between consenting adults, it's fine in my book.
I very much agree. Early on in chastity, I called my dicklette a clit and my KH got upset. She said a clit is a powerful, feminine part of the body and my dicklette would never deserve to be called such a thing. Yes, it elevates the sub / man and demeans the woman (though not in a way many men could understand or be willing to accept). I suspect you’ll get pushback from the men on this site for that very reason. But you’re absolutely right.
Although I find using the word “clitty” shudder, like nails on a chalkboard, I would have to disagree with most of your post. I don’t believe women are better, superior, or more than. I do enjoy when my partner is the dominant, and we both enjoy our roles. I’m not sure where women are better comes from.
It’s funny, I am not a fan of using clitty or asspussy, or any of that…I had a thread about it ages ago. But I have different reasons for hating those terms. I find it cringy. To each their own though
It's pretty simple really. Without getting into the whole "trans" debate... Why do they not like to be misgendered? Is it because they see the other gender as inferior or because they don't identify with it? Flip back to our situation. Is it because we view women as lesser so it's an insult? No, it's because we're not women. A feminine man is (arguably) a lesser man than a manly man. A feminine woman is a perfectly good woman. If it helps, just think of it as "misgendering."
Feminine shaming tactics. No actual engagement with the point, just, "Ew, I don't like it." It works for women because we care what they think. Less so for men.
First and foremost, I encourage everyone to be tolerant. I think many sissies don't find the terms clitty or ass/boi pussy degrading. Rather, feminizing. Emasculating, to be sure, but again, that is not a degrading term for someone who wishes to be emasculated. The terms feel more "woman-like." Objectification? Can it not be thought of as emulation? When a sissy dresses, are they reducing a women to lingerie, dresses and makeup? I have no fantasies that my perceptions are universal. But I do not think I am alone in these thoughts.
i think that the man on here is try and start another row and i am not gonna say no more on this one.
If a person is a sissy because they enjoys humiliation and find being dressed as a woman degrading, then that does suggest that person may in some ways think women are lesser? Perhaps that is something they need to work through. The thing people think is. Why is it humiliating to be a woman? Is that the right question? If not why? If it is because expressing their feminine side is their truth, then it seems likely that they may think better if women. There is obviously a difference in wanting to dress like a girl and wanting to be one, though I imagine there is a wave of crossover. I don't know TBH. Just a thought. I'm not for or against the slang used to describe sexual organs, I mean there are so many anyway, and times change.
If a man wants to use diminutive language to describe his body, I’m all for “dickette,” “mousie,” “rosebud,” or “boi hole.” Using language that commonly - for good or ill - is used to describe parts of women’s bodies sets my teeth on edge. I don’t speak out about it because certain groups have been insisting on doing so for decades and it’s a choice these men are making. As far as I’m concerned, men who use such language are self-selecting to be filtered as incompatible with women who hate it. Though granted, there may be men who are willing to be trained into using different pet names for their bodies if it means a relationship with a potential key holder. I once got into an argument with a friend of mine from college about such language. He tried to run circles around me verbally to get me to give up my position until I told him a story about someone sticking their fingers in my vagina immediately after having had them in my ass, and the burning sensation I experienced. Every time I encounter the term “boi pussy,” I have an unpleasantly visceral reaction to it. Once I said that, his response was that we never discuss it again. I believe the only behavior he changed was not saying it around me, which is all I wanted and had asked for in the first place. If I held the key for someone who used such language to describe their own body, I’d present them with a similar requirement.
I love women, and I am fully accepting that transwomen are women, if they present as a woman, dress like a woman, act like a woman, etc. I appreciate that many transwomen are embarrassed that they still have male parts under their clothes. That usage does make me cringe, though. I am not sure why. I find it almost impossible to know my own motivations. "I wonder; is that really why, or a post hoc rationalisation of deeper motives?" Where the OP goes in an unwise direction, IMHO, it is by imputing motives. Telling others why they do something, in a way that may well cause offence. The truth is, even they can't know their reasons. So it behoves us all to avoid imputing motives in all circumstances. In my household, if the words are used in that context, I will say, "Be honest girl, you've still got a cock, and only a surgeon can change that, wishful thinking won't. So please don't do it again." My house, my rules. But if used in public, I accept that it's everyone's right to express themselves the way they wish. Even, perhaps especially, if it does not do them credit.
Since I find both the "women are superior" and "my sissy clitty" talk extremely tiresome, I'd be fine if y'all stopped with both, but I know you won't. Weeble is however, quite correct in pointing out the incoherence of someone doing both. I love my wife. She isn't superior, or inferior, to me. We are partners in life. She does however, keep my cock locked in a steel chastity cage and only unlocks it when she wants to use it. I enjoy sexual submission to her because I enjoy the kinky aspect of it, and because I enjoy making her happy, not because I think women are supposed to run things.
This is an interesting topic. I don't use either term - clitty or boi pussy and the like. However, when I see these terms being used when a guy is describing his activity, I often wonder if the guy using those terms is not expressing a subconscious envy of the female anatomy. A woman's clitoris is a very powerful erogenous zone enabling her to have multiple orgasms where men can't. Once a man comes through penal stimulation, he's done - game over. A woman can have multiple orgasms through both vaginal and clitoral stimulation if her lover knows his partner and knows what he's doing. When reading the Pegging and Strap on section on this sight some men want to experience anal / prostate orgasms through anal penetration and seek to experience one. The same goes when reading the Forum on the Aneros.com website. On that website the goal is to have multiple, full body orgasms through anal and prostate stimulation. It's the closest thing to experiencing what a woman is able to experience, thus the man may use the term boi pussy. Could the using of that term be a subconscious envy of what women are able to experience? Reading the Aneros Forms a lot of guys, including myself, are chasing that experience. Just a thought.
I have wondered this myself time and time again over the years. I 100% agree with you! A connected thought I have to what you shared is when men dress up as women to feel 'submissive' yet they want to submit to the woman who is dominant?! I do NOT get it at all. I feel like that has the potential to make some women feel as though they are secretly viewed as weaker or 'less than' by men and not strong/capable/confident/leaders/insert other positive adjectives here. I adore cross-dressing men. It's not the cross dressing I have issue with. It's when they put on the feminine clothing and then act like they are weaker or less of a person than they were when they were in men's garments. Okay, that's the end of my rant.