I normally don't do these forum introductions, but the more I dig into this new lifestyle the more I see how my situation is "different". My wife and I are in our mid thirties, we enjoy some kink in our sex lives, nothing over the top or 24/7. About a month ago my wife approached me with the idea of locking me up in chastity. Up to that point I really didn't know that male chastity was a thing. Apparently she had been doing her homework and came to realize all the benefits it held for her. She said that it was fine if I said no, but if I said YES, there was no backing out until we give it a fair shot. I read into it a little bit and looked at a few off the shelf devices. The whole idea of surrendering my sexuality to her was exciting to be honest. She knew that I would jerk off in the shower before bed, not because we don't love each other, but because our work schedules just don't line up and it was a matter of convenience on my part. She picked out a device and ordered it for me, a few days later the Vice was at our door and she had it ready to put on me when I walked in from work. It took a few days of trial and error to find the right fit before I turned over the keys to her, which she snatched up with a big grin, "From now on this only comes off when I want your dick inside me" she said. The next few days changed me, to say the least. For the first time ever my dick was no longer at my disposal to play with as I wish. I found myself trying to be as close to her as possible, being more affectionate than I've ever been towards her. Going down on her became the norm, a duty which I have neglected over the years. Each time with me expecting her to unlock me so we could have sex, but sadly it ended with her saying "Thanks, I needed that". From time to time she would unlock me, but it was on her terms, when and where she wanted it. This whole journey has been amazing to say the least. The sleepless nights, the frustrating days, making sure she gets to orgasm never knowing when my next one would be. I guess you could say we gave it a "fair shot" as I am now locked into a MM Jail Bird, the lock only comes off when I am cuffed/restrained. After just a short month I'm starting to forget what it was like to be able to touch my own dick or make myself cum, with no end of chastity lock up in sight. My wife has changed as well, her confidence is at an all time high and she no longer wonders when she will be sexually pleased. It has brought us closer as a couple, and we feel like we know each other better than we ever have over the past 10 years of marriage. I no longer look at other women in a sexual manner, I no longer visit the usual porn sites. All I think about is HER. Am I just lucky to have such a woman in my life? I have read a lot of stories on here about the man approaching their wives/girlfriends with chastity, and they get shot down and have to ease their significant others into the idea just to TRY it. So anyway, HI! I'm new here and enjoy reading up on chastity and learning as much as I can!
great story and makes a pleasant change to how a lot of us got to this point. does your wife know you visit the site and if so has she any plans on joining us? her viewpoint would be most welcome.
Certainly adds a new dimension to a marriage! Glad you are both having fun. My MM Queens Keep is locked in place 24/7 for months at a time. When we travel abroad it comes off, only to be replaced with the trusty CB6000s! Haven't cum for 9 months now! Enjoy.
In a word, Yes, you're incredibly lucky. Your wife didn't like you jerking off and she did something about it. You're learning -- by your need to be as close to her as possible, by being more affectionate, by giving her the oral worship you "neglected over the years," by how much closer you have become as a couple -- the price that your masturbation was exacting on your marriage. You probably didn't even know what you were missing. I love the effect this has on your wife too -- like mine, you can see her confidence growing and you can see her realizing her full person-hood in your marriage. Ask her and she'll tell you that she's now getting the intimacy and closeness she's always wanted. And at such a cheap price to you too! You're just as aroused as you ever were, only now your arousal gains you a deep connection with your wife instead of a few quick squirts and a come down. Yes, you're very lucky, so many of us struggle so hard first to realize we need this ourselves and then to convince their wives to try it and understand what's in it for them. I hope you *and your wife* will be post here. She's an example to us all.
Great story and glad it is working out so well. Your story has a lot of similarities to mine including the device we are locked in. The difference is it was my idea as a way to stop the jerking and initially I had a lot of resistance. So far I have been let out every weekend because she is enjoying my intensity so much after a week of lock up. She said it is like when we met in our early twenties. I hope it continues to work out so well for you.