Wife finds out before I even begin!

Slow weekend as far as sexy stuff goes. Wife was on her period and always feels down and out during those times.

I did make a point each night after the kids went to bed to ask her if she needed a massage or anything else. Friday night she got a good long foot rub, Saturday night was a massage and Sunday night she sat in between my legs while we watched our show and I ran my fingers through her hair. She loves a good scalp massage and someone playing with your hair, I think, is a great pleasure most of us enjoy. I made a point to rub her shoulders through the day and do what I can to take some of the load off her with the kids.

We had a nice Easter morning with the little ones and then brunch with family. I had been locked up since Thursday night. This was the first time I had actually been around family while caged and aside from being conscious to turn my hips when giving hugs I think I'm pretty much comfortable wearing it in most settings at this point.

Monday was a different story though. I think my wife had some of her playfulness back. She was complaining of a sore back so I started massaging her lower back while she was leaned against the kitchen counter. I do this often when we're just going about our day. Either a short back or shoulder rub or and embrace from behind with kisses on her neck. Just general affection that we both enjoy a lot more these days. This time though as she was bent over she began to press her backside into my firmness and glanced back with a sly smile. She really knows how to get me going especially since I knew nothing was going to happen. Kids still up and I was leaving for work in a couple hours. A couple more comments and a bit more attention in general had me in a good state by the time I left for work.

Work was slow and dull broken by the occasional random erection attempt that always gets me thinking of my wife these days and those keys... Those damn keys... As if she knew I what was on my mind, near the end of my shift I get a picture. This is how she presents the keys to me as a gift.



She now keeps them in the box I used to propose to her and something about that just turns me on to no end.

Along with the image was the following:
"Going to bed now. Have a nice relaxing shower tonight But lockup before you leave the bathroom. No funny business downstairs after"

This is in reference to last weekend when I took the liberty of pleasuring myself twice. She knows right after unlocking I'm ready to go right away and just do it in the shower with just my thoughts of us and no extra distractions. But usually when I take things downstairs to my computer I'm obviously watching porn. I think she is starting to really like the fact that she can tell me not to watch porn and that even if I'm doing it myself I'm still thinking of her. I used to watch a lot of cam girls online. Never paid or even chatted at all. I just prefer the unscripted amateur stuff over regular porn. She always hated this. Said it felt like one step before cheating. In typical horny male fashion I just told her it's what I've been masturbating to for years and it's what I like. Promised there was nothing going on with it and it just became an unspoken thing we never brought up. I think those days are now over lol. Now that she can tell me when and where I can do my thing I very much doubt she'll allow me the freedom to go back to what I used to do. I'm not mad about it though. My alone time is definitely not as fulfilling as being with my wife but I am now getting off to my thoughts and fantasies with my wife instead of clicking through 100 tabs of porn and cam girls for over an hour and I think that's just one more step to bringing us closer.

At the beginning of all this when we first had that talk about it after she found me out she had said she wasn't interested in a lifestyle change or anything that would turn into more work. She said we could play with it here and there to spice up our weekend rituals. Well looking back on the last couple weeks I've definitely spent more full days locked up than unlocked. I've met up with friends wearing it, I find it normal going to work now wearing it, I had a large family gathering over the weekend while locked. I think my wife is seeing some of the benefits in and out of the bedroom, plus she knows I actually do enjoy wearing it, and this is slowly becoming our new normal. She's definitely getting more confident at telling me to put it on. When we unlock for fun or showers when she's home she makes a point not to let me touch the keys. She unlocks me and then takes the key herself. I don't think either of us knew how fast this would progress, and while she's still not comfortable denying my pleasure for long periods of time yet, I can definitely see we've both come a long way in a very short period of time.

So here I sit, locked up and horny all over again while writing this out. I do have access to the keys since she leaves them out for me before she goes to bed when I'm allowed out during the week. Normally I would definitely take the opportunity to go for round two at the computer when aroused like this but I gave her my word and don't want to risk ruining what we have going here. So even though I already had release tonight, my greedy side wants more but he'll just have to stay helpless!

 

Pretty quiet couple of days but today after we put the kids down for nap I had a little bit of time still before I had to leave for work. She said she was getting in the shower so I followed her and offered to join and helped her undress while kissing and rubbing her body. She told me she didn't need me to join but I should go look for the keys and see if I could find them before she's done showering. If I found them we'll have a quickie if not then I'd have to wait till the weekend.

Luckily for me my wife isn't a great hider lol. I found them in the kitchen drawer fairly quickly and she told me to go wait on the bed. Was this a planned easy hiding spot? She says no and she'll be finding a better hiding spot for next time.

After we were done and getting cleaned up I started getting dressed. Normally after sex so far she's let me stay unlocked at least over night. This time she says "Umm excuse me, lock up mister". Well instant boner again haha... I jokingly said "oh wow no free time?" She replies in a more stern tone but still with a smile "Are you complaining? Because it sounds like you're complaining."

The tone surprised me and I said absolutely not! And went to the bathroom to get the cage back on. She came in as I was finishing getting it on and she clicked the lock and took back the keys. I love when she wants to do the locking and unlocking and not let me have the keys at all.

She's definitely getting more confident and comfortable telling me to lock and the game of having a time limit to find her hiding spot was a huge turn on as was her tone when telling me to lock and not complain. The comment about next time makes me think I'll definitely have a much harder time winning this game in the future!

I've been trying to be more aware of my post O mood drop and learn to recognize it so I can make an extra conscious effort to show her more affection after an O. I've noticed the drop is more prominent after she allows me to pleasure myself in between our fun. The experience on a whole isn't as fulfilling than being with my wife and I think it contributes to the low whereas when I'm with my wife I'm able to dwell on the moment longer and recall the moment afterwards to get my arousal back up much quicker. It's very interesting being aware and keeping track of these effects as it's something that was just the norm before when I was doing stuff once or twice every day.

 

I don't think she would go for no piv at all just yet. She's actually talking about making the key hunt a regular thing once or twice a week lol. Her libido has really shot up and I'm not sure if it's the chastity thing or hormones after having the baby or both but I'm not complaining either way.

I was thinking of mentioning the no masturbation thing to her at some point soon. I don't feel I need it anymore. Especially with the increase in sex between us. But I'd have to have a conversation with her. It would be weird if she leaves the key out for me one night and I just decided on my own not to use it.

I really hope my new cages come in soon... Last night while soaping up everything was just super loose and I just flopped out the top lol. I was good though. Gave it a quick thorough wash since it was out anyways and slipped it back in. I wear a strap all the time when not in the shower so I have no issues during the day or sleeping but the cage is definitely not proper size and if I go down a ring size I can't wear it for long at all. New ones are smaller so hopefully it'll be a better fit.

 

Yeah it's been pretty great so far!

She hit me with some heavy unrelated life stuff last night while I was at work so we're going to have a sit down talk this weekend about some things we will likely disagree on. We're both in a very different headspace about something family related. These talks are usually productive and we reach a compromise but sometimes we can both be pretty stubborn and it turns into a fight. We're not FLR or anything close to that right now and both consider each other equals as far as life out side of the bedroom and family decision making goes so it'll be interesting to see how this may affect chastity in the immediate future if we do end up having a disagreement or a fight.

I can see things getting tense and me not wanting to be locked up for her especially if we're on bad terms for a spell. These things always work out in the end and I'm sure we'll go back to normal play and lockup but even if something goes down I'll still try and keep my cool as far as the cage goes and stick it out.

 

I'd actually be very interested to hear how others navigate marital issues and chastity. Obviously those in a complete FLR or who totally submit in all aspects of life will see this as a non issue. She gets what she wants. But for us this is just a fun thing (for now). We are both very stubborn and opinionated and as I said consider ourselves equal partners in most things.

For those of you reading who may be in a similar relationship to mine how do you approach such issues? Do you take a step back from chastity and reconvene when the issue is settled? Or do you push through it?

 

Sorry everyone for taking a bit to reply to comments! Between our discussion and we were getting quotes for some renovations to the house so I've had a bit going on this week!

Yeah my demeanor has definitely changed a bit but I'm more of a plan ahead logical overthinking type of person and she is more of a live in the moment and figure it out later kind of person so a lot of our disagreements end up being me telling her all the ways her idea is not feasible long term lol. It's rough sometimes but we usually find middle ground. We're still on opposing sides of this particular issue but we recognize that and it's something we will revisit periodically as time goes on and our situation changes.

And yeah I think I will try to stop the masturbation even when allowed although the temptation will be there! Currently unlocked since we had sex last night and today I had some skin irritation from where the ring usually sits. She told me to stay unlocked to let it breathe for a day or two but I'm not allowed to touch myself tonight so I'll have to fight the urge for sure.

Yeah we had our discussion on Saturday. It didn't devolve into a full blown fight but there were some tears and the issue isn't totally resolved. The cage never came up that day as well as no teasing or play but later that night I told her I was going for a shower and she did say I should unlock for a good clean but lock up afterwards. So even though there was no play she did not forget about it which was nice and we were both in a better mood the next day and had some teasing throughout the day followed by sex later that night.

Thank you for this! Sorry for generalizing and making assumptions. It does make sense that certain life aspects you really have to separate the kink and talk like a team. And yeah she wasn't as assertive as in a stern "we are going to have a talk" but it was still a "I'd like to talk about this" and there was no way I'd be able to avoid it even if I wanted to.

Although the issue isn't resolved entirely it was a productive conversation and I feel chastity has made me a better listener and I am able to see her side better than before although it's still hard for me to lower my guns on everything.

Thank you!
Yeah the way it started was pretty awkward I think for both of us but it really has brought us closer together. I've asked her a few times if the cage turns her on or off and she's said she's pretty indifferent about the cage itself but she loves the changes she's seen in me since we started with it. I love it too.

We were talking last night while I was massaging her and I told her I've always loved massaging her and I would've done it more but when I used to offer she would refuse. She said yeah because she knew I'd expect sex after. Now a massage is just a massage and she knows there's no expectations tied to it. So it's a win win. I told her I just genuinely enjoy touching her body and making her feel good and she enjoys a nice massage or foot rub without the expectations tied to it.

On that note the massage oil we use leaves her feeling sticky after and if it's late she doesn't always shower right after and feels clammy and sticky the day after. She loves the massage but hates that she can't just roll over and go to bed after being so relaxed. Does anyone have any recommendations on a good oil that won't leave a residue after?

Not much of a real update to tell. Most of it has been covered in the replies here. I'll likely try and lock up again tonight or tomorrow morning if everything down there is good again. Not sure when I'll be unlocked but I'll probably try and control my urge to touch myself when/if she does let me out. We'll see!

Thanks everyone for reading and for the replies!

 

Thank you for reading! I'm glad you've enjoyed it so far.

Not yet I ordered China knockoffs from eBay so they're taking forever to get here... For a kink that's all about delayed gratification I'm still super impatient! Lol

 

Hey everyone not a whole lot has happened since my last post but a couple small updates.

So Thursday I was let out with permission from the wife to have some fun. I planned on just edging and re locking buuuutttt in the end I didn't have the self control to just stop so I think if I am going to try and stop pleasuring myself all together I'll have to stay away from temptation and not try to get cute and edge or anything like that. Just clean and lock back up.

Saturday I woke up with some pretty bad razor burn and I was complaining about it. She asked if I wanted to be let out and I tried to tough it out but then ended up asking to be unlocked by the afternoon. We let it heal and she told me no funny business while unlocked and I was true to my word.

I was actually kind of enjoying the feeling of being free again but this morning she asked me how I was feeling down there and if I was good to go back in. This was unprompted and we hadn't really talked about the cage at all since I was unlocked so it was obviously on her mind! I told her I was good to go back in and when the kids went down for nap I'd lock back up. As fate would have it I checked the mail and one of my new cages showed up!

The HT knockoff version showed up and it definitely fits and feels a LOT better than my CB. It's a lot less bulky and the ring feels a lot better. Plus the internal lock is so much nicer than the padlock. There is some flashing on the inside of the ring that I will likely have to sand off. I had a bit of ring burn earlier but it's not bad at all right now. The tube is definitely smaller and fits me much better when fully soft which is nice since I don't really have to mess with lining up the opening when having to pee.

She had me take a spare key to work tonight just in case I have any issues. If everything seems good over the next couple days then she'll take that key back or we'll tape it up and make it a true emergency key. I'm thinking once I get that ring sanded a bit we'll be good to go. I still also have a kink3d knockoff on the way as well so we'll see how that one goes when it gets here.

This weekend overall was super busy as I had some builders in to do a rear deck and then I assembled a gazebo and patio furniture so we all have a nice place to hang out all summer now. While I was busy that left her with more to take on with the kids and I was obviously a bit less attentive so she was super tired and not in the mood for anything. I gave her a massage Saturday night and she just crashed last night before I was even back in the house lol. It's nice though that usually before she would feel obligated to make some kind of effort to have sex or have an excuse or explanation as to why she didn't want sex but now it was just never brought up. She knows I don't have any expectations and even though I was unlocked she trusted me to not do anything.

I think she's really starting to enjoy that feeling of it being on her terms and she doesn't feel like she has to have a reason anymore.

Hope everyone else had a great weekend!

 

Yeah it definitely got me a couple times! Not bad once it's on though. Like I said I'm also going to file down the inside of the ring a bit but I've had it on for about 10 hours straight now and no issues with comfort so far which I'm happy about.
Going to do some sanding tonight and then relock and see how sleeping in it goes. I never really had an issue with the CB and this one is a lot more comfortable so I don't see any issues.

 

It wasn't too bad overnight. I woke up with some pretty good morning wood and some bad ring burn. Took a pee to relieve the pressure and put some oil on and it was good. Only issue I've found is when my wife was teasing me a bit this morning the whole cage twisted. It felt like I almost popped out but it was all still holding on just really awkward position. I'm using the smallest ring too that came with it.

No I just make it up as I go. I've gotten a lot of massages myself and I've given plenty to other partners throughout the years so I just kindof do what I think feels good. Get feed back from your partner too. Ask them what feels good. Is it too hard, too soft, any specific spot they want you to focus on. Also avoid rubbing directly on the spine. That doesn't feel good at all. I massage up and down along the sides of the spine but don't put any real pressure right on it.

Lighter touch for a more sensual massage. More pressure to help relieve aches. Back of the neck down to the jaw line is a good place to massage as well.

 

Bummer today. The kink3d clone came in today but they really messed up the order. It was supposed to have the curved ring and they sent the straight. Also they sent the wrong size. Worst of all the quality is terrible. The finish on it looked like someone had just taken a low grit Dremel to the whole thing and you can see scratches and sanding marks all over.

I reordered from a completely different store so hopefully I get something a little better or at least the proper size. I did try it on though and the wife likes the look of that one the best. I had high hopes for it but back in the HT clone for now!