Uncaged chastity methods

When I was experimenting with chastity before i had a device, I used clothing to do the trick. I wore a leotard or one piece swimsuit underneath a pair of women's skinny jeans with a belt. I put an extra hole in the belt where I put a small lock through to keep the belt on tight. This kept everything tucked tight and very difficult to access. The leotard is easy to hide under just a tee shirt and you could wear short cut off jeans under normal pants if you don't normally wear women's jeans. Lol only problem with this is using the bathroom. Kinda difficult haha
I'm interested to see what other people have tried because it'd be nice to have options if the device has to come off.

 

http://healthysexymarriage.tumblr.com/ is the best blog I've read on uncaged chastity. Only found it recently but highly recommended!

 

I have not long started the no device chastity.... Ruined orgasms and denial seem to work..... Not sure if the need for a device is needed.... My bitch has lasted now 4 weeks without cumming and he always pleasures me without question...... I don't know if to get one and lock him away would benefit us

 

Hi Katy. Thanks for starting this thread.

I have just started thinking about denial/chastity/cage etc in the last few days (found this site thru google search). I was thinking a cage would be a bit problematic because of little kids burtsing into the shower/toilet etc unannounced. Then I noticed your thread and that is one of the reasons you mention for going uncaged.

At this stage I don't have any great thoughts on how to go about denial successfully without a cage, so I will follow this thread with interest. I will check out the site mentioned above as well.

One thought I have had is to put a ticker on my signature to count how long since my last orgasm (which was only a few days ago lol - just before I joined this site - but you have to start somewhere). Have never really taken any notice of how long between orgasms before, so this could be interesting 'research'. Might give me an incentive to try to get to a large number of days without blowing my load. And if/when I do give in I at least have a 'personal best' to try to beat next time.

My aim will be to only blow when my wife is with me (probably her stroking me or me stroking myself while she watches). She is going into hospital for surgery in a few days time and then will have a reasonable amount of recovery time. So, if she doesn't blow me in the next few days (and I can exercise some restraint!!) I might be able to set a reasonable starting PB that I need to beat in the future.

Not sure how this will go. But it is a start.

 

Thanks for starting this very interesting thread I will take into consideration to have such a section for non-device chastity when we are somewhat restructuring the forum anyway

 

The more I'm reading the more I'm preferring the subs self discipline and commitment to me.... I trust my bitch implicitly with knowing he's not going to touch play or cheat....... So maybe a device is not for us at this time...... Will continue to stay in group to still get ideas and tips and maybe one day we will try a device...

 

I am wearing a black, opaque, Holy Trainer as a way of allowing my Wife to have sexual contact with me without having to see or use my Penis. It is a symbol of my chastity promise, and my promise to not masturbate. When I started I would have found the transition to this lifestyle without a device almost impossible but now, six months in, I have realised how much better things are, and would be able to maintain it. If it was not for the sexual dynamic that the HTv2 enables I would not need to wear a device to keep that promise as I fully understand that trust is absolutely critical and my Wife trusts me.

By the way thanks for the tips about the Gaff underwear option for cross dressing. I am still very new to this and I will definitely be buying a pair to see how they improve my figure.

 

I suppose you could call what I am doing voluntary, no device "chastity" - my SO has expressed a preference for me not to orgasm without her as it improves the intensity for her when my need is higher. She's not interested in 'controlling' my orgasms, though, and has made clear my wearing a device would be a turn-off for her.

I've found it easier than expected to adjust. Couple of things that helped - consciously trying to break any triggers I had - for me it was masturbating while watching/reading erotica. So I could watch/read erotic stuff or pleasure myself, but not both.

Another was wearing a type of restraint when I did want to masturbate - a cock ring, or a ball divider - I particularly liked a cheap little 'english cage' - which is just an adjustable cockring attached to a ring on the shaft by two straps. This makes masturbation a little harder, making things easier to 'anticipate' - though I have ended up ruining myself a few times.

Couple of consequences I've noticed - my desire is pretty constantly higher, and I've become much more interested in other sensitive areas. These give me the arousal, without as much risk of tipping over the edge.

 

I have always been chaste without a cage. My first girlfriend already kept me chaste, that was years before I even heard of chastity devices. So I never really got a chastity device fetish or needed it for chastity. Right now, I'm chaste for 11 month without a device for my girlfriend

 

I have been searching if there is a thread dealing with a topic of self dicipline in a situation when Ds/chastity relationship ended and you are single without keyholder suddenly. I didn't wanted to start new thread as I think this one is somehow close.

So... after long time in Ds relationship where I was kept chaste I am in situation I am alone without keyholder. As submission is important part of my personality I cannot say all these things dissapeared suddenly as the relationship ended. It was several years long and during that times I have learned some routines. The rules I had to adhere I accepted as a normal part of my everyday life. Moreover I have to say the lifestyle I have lived made me feel good and it suited me well.

In current situation I try to continue to adhere most of rules even I am alone. Of course some of them are less suitable for life of a singler, but many of them were pretty practical and I am able to continue without feeling I am doing anything strange. However even as I am natural sub there are moments when I am tempted to be more relaxed and lenient and put this discipline level far inches lower than it used to be. But everytime it happens and I made some shortcut I always feel guilty or at least something deeply in me tells me I should do better. If I can speak about topic of chastity (which is just one of many topics I am writing in this thread), even it has been few months I have still not misbehaved, but I have not worn chastity device as I used to. Today, after a discussion with one lady, it made me think about it again and even I never broke mental chastity, I restrained myself again and put my device on again.

I would be interested if anyone ever dealt with similar situation and how he was able to deal with self discipline. Please I would prefer if this would be more about psychological aspects of this situation.

 

Outside this forum -- the use of a device is largely looked down upon as: (1) a fetish driven item of the male mind; (2) a sign that a man lacks will power and fidelity to his partner; (3) a pain in the ass for a woman to manage.

Here you get the countervailing -- enthusiasts view of the device usage.

Anyway --- to tackle your question: my thought is that a Mistress could imprint her partner's penis with secret markings or stamps visible only under ultra violet light. Any unauthorized touching of the penis would smear the markings and provide visible proof of cheating. This method is just something I've imagined, and I've never read about it as an active practice.

 

A very good thread. .
I have written this on here before but I regularly go without orgasms.. it's self control .. being able to control your desire to orgasm and communication with your wife/mistress is very important. I have never been a great wanker I did that when I was 16 ... chastity is as much in the mind as in any device.
Hugs
Lucy x

 

Sitting here in a steel cage, not having masterbated since the end of April,(6 months) it would be easy for me to say that I have the self control, discipline, and devotion to not cheat.

I can't actually say it. I don't know. I'm sure it would start off innocent enough, just seeing if it still works, I'll stop before, oops I didn't mean to but since I already came I might as well have a few more.

My hats off to all those that can do this without a physical barrier.

 

My situation is a little different but not unique. not the medical spelling but same meaning.
I have a blown hydra seal. that allows fluid to drain into the scrotum. with the base ring the fluid won't equalize. and migrate back into the body cavity.
So I need the honor system. And do as told or asked.
If someone is willing to give me their time I would do as they say. And be honest if I cheated

 

I'm a little surprised, that I didn't find this thread earlier
I have great success with hypnosis. I'm allowed to masturbate regularly, but I have been conditioned to stop when I'm on the edge.
I have also learned to enjoy being horny, an orgasm would end this feeling.
I'm now past 100 days and I will not cum until next year.

I sometimes post updates in this thread: https://www.chastitymansion.com/forums/index.php?threads/50-days.18279/
and I have daily updates on my blog.

 

what @occorics said is the key to uncaged chastity I think: You have to learn that horniness is much better than the brief flash of an orgasm can ever be. See 'leaking' as your new climax. Know that what lies behind the edge is always disappointing and unsatisfactory. But also accept your urge to go over the edge, accept that you want an orgasm, sometimes desperatly. But learn to love your arousal even more.

Also, nipple clamps help to keep your mind of cumming for a short time. Use them in a crisis situation when you know you're in danger of loosing your chastity. But after using them again and again for that purpose, I discovered I've become quite the pain slut Now the pain turns me on even more...

And finally, writing your feelings down helps big time. In fact, finding this thread while desperatly browsing this site for emotional support (oh yeah, felllow chastity comrades help a ton) incredibly horny and just short of ripping off my panties and rubbing one out, and then finding this thread and needing to focus in order to write helped me take a step back. Writing is a powerful tool. And hey... as long as your hands are on the keyboard...

 

Great to hear from you again @KatyTwilight - and you are so right. There is no one way to do this, and your way is the right way for you.

Did I tell you that several weeks ago I tucked with my Wife watching and she loved the way it made me look all flat at the front? She still wants me to be locked up though, that is her preference, so that is right for us.

 

I've been doing this for some time as well, and agree. The key is definitely the realization that male orgasm is inherently disappointing. In fact, i introduced Mrs to chastity by explaining to her that i simply don't like to cum, and would much prefer to experience her orgasms vicariously.

Having said that, i find there is something... comforting about being physically locked. To address the comfort, hygiene, and "management" issues you rightfully raised, we've chosen to go the PA + ringless-tube route, so with any luck in a few weeks i'll be locked up in my new Ti-550 and be the happy subby-hubby i've always wanted to be