INTRODUCTION If anyone has read some of my other postings, you will know that I have a vanilla wife that I am interested in opening up to about some of my desires that exist in connection with chastity cages and related dynamics. This thread is more of a psychological question based on some recent observations. These observations could be accurate, or they could be, admittedly, me just seeing what I want to see. BACKGROUND Regardless, I have read and heard a lot from various sources (on and off this site, including advice given directly to me) that basically say: if your wife is vanilla and you want to get into a FLR / WLM, you need to go above and beyond in terms of doing chores for her (clean bathroom, bring cofee, etc) and she will naturally begin to expect more and more and get drunk with power. Boom! Instant FLR. This seemed like one of those things that I could see working on occasion but not necessarily be a tried and true formula. MY POSITION Mind you, I have never thought to put all of my eggs in the basket of this approach. However, I have gotten closer to my wife more lately and I am naturally a pleaser, servant type of guy. Her love language is Acts of service, so it works out well for both of us. In the past couple of months, I have stepped up the service for her, mostly out of love but occasionally just to see where it goes. I have been making her tea without her asking. I have been anticipating things that need to be done and doing them. Cleaning a little more, bringing water at night, taking care of some her routines etc. I still have a lot more I could do however. MY OBSERVATIONS Last night, we got back from a walk and she was taking off a shoe. I decided to get on a knee and untie and take off the other shoe. She made the comment "Can I leave my hat on?" That was funny and interesting but outside of that, I have noticed that she has become just slightly more demanding. She has begun telling me to do things instead of asking. Sometimes I get a "please" but sometimes not. There generally seems to be more of an expectation that I will just do what it is she is telling me to do. Again, maybe I am just paying attention to it more (perhaps she has always been like this and I haven't noticed), but it seems to be tracking with the whole idea of "the more you do, the bigger the expectations will grow". QUESTIONS Has anyone else experienced this? Any personal stories? Has anybody really used this approach to naturally evolve into a FLR that is recognized by both parties. Any thoughts on my situation? Does it sound like things are really following the formula?