The real feeling of Chastity

Please dont let SPAM like this ruin Mobis thread!

 

uh oh!

 

M
you wrote:
"at one point, Ms. Cathy offered up Trace's dick to her; which she declined. But her eyes never flinched."

Do you think Ms. Cathy was offering your wife a decision for you? Either you could watch your wife have sex or you could suck another guy.
Your wife stayed true to her agreement of neither option.

How was your weekend?
SFD

 

Very interesting SFD.
I thought similarly when I read the post about that event with Trace too. I still think M will be performing fellatio before too much more time passes. I see a scenario much the same as he recounted with Trace and Cathy with M unlocked and being edged as well. Anyone who has ever been edged knows they reach a point where they would do almost ANYTHING to have an orgasm after edging for a while. I see Trace and M so overheated by their edging and the offer being put to them that if they want a nice gut wrenching orgasm with no strings attched that they can slip into a 69 with each other and fellate each other to completion (swallowing each other's entire load of course) OR do without an orgasm into the unforseen future and suffer some kind of punishment as a result. No forcing...just erotic coercion. I think a moment of weakness WILL come for M in which he will be choosing this as opposed to more teasing, denial or punishment. Time will tell I guess. I have never been in the situation but the choice of being beaten to the point of bruising and need for ice, etc. versus blowing a guy to entertain my Wife/Mistress would be a no brainer.

allaboutHer

 

Allabouther/SFD you are both very funny - mobico69 has already stated what his boundaries are - we already know he can say NO or break it - he did both and he obviously has principles of what he feels is right and decent...

He orgasmed through pain - dont you both think this was his wife's intention - she obviously wants to remind him she's in charge and gets the power from the thrashing he got - and in turn he has found hat it turned him on the extent he had an orgasm. I am no pain lover - but certain pain in a certain way can definitely bring me to orgasm...

I did 50 days with no orgasm - not in his intense surrounds but with tease and denial all the way through - others on here have done a lot longer - but if you said to them they could only have their orgasm if they sucked off another guys cock do you seriously think they would do it? I know I NEVER would ...

I imagine mobico69 would have been punished but we all know the best punishment is no punishment because you never know when it might occur.

Mobico69 is on a journey - I think we should listen to his journey - a lot of us would like to be where he was and swap places with him - but I bet he would rather never swap! He has told us he is having his time of his life!

 

M
Do you think your hands were unrestrained as a safety condition while she face sat on you? It left you a signal means in case you needed to breath?
SFD

 

Hi phil.
I understand the point you are making. I too, just completed a 271 day stint but without any of the activities which M has experienced. That said, thrust into a room with another couple in which the male is being fellated was admittedly a huge turn on for him. If his wife had started on him at the same time and proceeded to overheat him while Cathy proceeded to overheat Trace don't you think an offer to finish each other off or do without just might receive 2 resounding OKs given their comfort and prior knowledge of each other? I am in M's wife's camp....I think she will be able to make him do it and it will be by his own choosing, "hard limits" be damned. Just my opinion...and I agree, let's enjoy his journey. I am in no way trying to tarnish it, and yes, I am jealous of SOME of his activities. :>)

allaboutHer

 

M
Did you survive Sandy ok? Have things settled down with your wife - it seems like her blitz klieg has quieted since she said that she sees you as a slave again?
SFD

 

I think it's good that you didn't get lockup time in your cell. You mentioned talking about it to your wife so I assume she listened to you and devised another punishment in its place. If this is so, it shows she's more respecting of your limits, or at least respecting something you find quite unpleasant and that, to me, is some good progress.

I appreciate what you said that 2 years ago, you had sex about once a month, and now it seems that eroticism is a daily affair, even if it doesn't directly involve sexual contact.

 

M
What's happening?
SFD

 

Yikes.

Yeah, conditioning will do that.

Hopefully she'll eventually recognize the difference between masturbation stimulation and fantasies and stimulating reality.

*crosses fingers for you

 

Hi Mobi its strange but i get a sort of feeling that maybe this little scene is something along the lines of the last set up you
went through with your wifes friend and the mock shock that entailed from that situation when in fact it was all a set up
hatched by them to make you feel bad for something you did, now here you are having something similar happening to you
again. Maybe you are being played again mate? nothing should surprise you now!

All the best
stroppy

 

Sorry for you, mate. Your wife has again broken your trust. I feel for you. She shouldn't have asked if she couldn't deal with it. What did she expect, some vanilla stuff from Playboy magazine? Also, the female BDSM stuff was there before the start of the chastity. My feeling is that chastity should be a game, your wife seems to feel different, like you really are her slave and deserve no respect. Where's her compassion for you? I don't think any wife could deal with her husbands porn collection. That's just the way men and women are built.

And you're looking for a release after your 90 days? I can't believe that would be happening the light of all of this.

You don't need to feel ashamed for your porn collection. We all have stuff like that. Perhaps your wife wanted to see it to get ideas of what you like. Maybe she thinks you really have a deep down urge to hurt her, like your collection depicts.

She did ask you, and you were in a situation you couldn't refuse. Now you're stuck and I feel it will be a long time until this is cleared up. And I think your wife is still thinking of an appropriate punishment, and it will be bad. I don't think this is all planned, as stroppy said, since it seems her anger at your collection was genuine.

My thoughts are with you. Keep us posted.

 

One more thing, just curious as to your daily life in terms of what your wife is doing to you (aside from the humiliation you speak of). Is she sill doing some of the things in your previous posts, doing it harder, or is she taking a bit of a break? Are you in constant slavery mode when you come home from work, as it seems you were a few weeks ago?

Again, thanks for sharing.

 

While it can really open up your relationship to show Her things you would like to have done to you and/or that you would sincerely like to share with Her, you should take that stuff very slowly as it can be quite overwhelming. Start with a couple carefully selected images and then give her time to process them.

However, there may be stuff you should really NEVER show her. I personally had to dismiss a very special boy because he kept posting pics of degrading things being done to women on his Tumblr account. Even when he explained that he fantasized about having those things done TO HIM, it was simply too much to see those women in those positions.

I had another long-term in-person relationship with someone that I usually think of as very soft and caring. I know that he has a cruel side that he expressed via fantasy and he is very careful about it because he does not ever want to express it in reality. We mutually agreed that I should never see any of it because I never want to think of him in that way.

That's the big problem: once she's seen this stuff, she's seen it. You can't take it back. She has no way of knowing, without you going through it with her, which parts you would actually want to do in real life and what you would absolutely leave to fantasy and going through it would just make it worse. Even the fact that you would consider it okay to look at some of it, much less would find it exciting, might disturb her so deeply that she'll never think of you the same way again.

 

I know that urge to show your porn to your woman. I also showed all my girlfriends where my porn is hidden. Luckily, they all liked it. Some of my girlfriends liked to roleplay some femdom (not all of them really had a dominant side) after watching the porn. One of my girlfriend just liked the porn with lesbian action (she was bi). I also like to share my porn with my mistresses. But I only got femdom porn. Since I'm 11 years old, all I think about is femdom. No single girl got hurt in my collection, but many many men

But I also got some more extrem things that I dont share too easily. Like castration fantasies. I just show that part of me to mistresses or girlfriens that can handle it and know its just a fantasy. My girlfriend likes to tease me with castration fantasies
But you never know how someone would react. She could also feel like she just isnt enough and that you need something she cant give you.

 

Hi M & All.
I will open with "...because she asked me to.". Need I say more? You know my feelings. I STILL truly see you being broken like a wild horse to do whatever your Wife asks of you...and very successfully I might add. ...and yes, I see you becoming sexually active with a man and given how you and Trace seem to being socialized to each other I predict it will be him..."because she asked you to". I know you and some others disagree with me and in NO WAY am I trying to be disrespectful or controversial by mentioning this. None of us would be in chastity if we did not get something out of it, but once we start our surrender I see and experience that it can and does get like the snowball rolling down the hill. Many of us claim that we wish our Wives/Mistresses/Keyholders were more "into" their roles, but as we see, we DO need to be careful what we wish for because with some women the slope is VERY steep and others, like my Wife it is more of a gentle incline with no visible abyss. We can all say "No", but if it means the permanent end of our game/lifestyle it forces us to make a choice whether to stick to our principles or subjugate to keep the"game" going and fill our bloodstreams with the endorphins of excitement we all feel as men submitting to their woman. Banned from the computer? Apologies to other women about the porn we have watched? Maybe I am a lone voice but I see your slope as a very steep one M and if that is what you want, I am happy for you, but remember, its NOT about what YOU want or like, it IS all about HER, and it IS you that will give her and do for her anything she wants because you (and many of us here) are allowing yourself to be conditioned to do these things "because you want to". Good luck and keep us posted.

allaboutHer

 

I just read your entire story over the course of a few days Mobico... I have to thank you immensely for all the time you spent documenting everything along the way! The way you describe the emotions & feelings throughout the experience have really allowed us all to relate to you & be able put ourselves in your shoes!

That being said, I have a lot of things on my mind about your situation & I'll talk about them later when I have a chance to spend more time on my post...

I just have two main concerns that I want to bring up ASAP as nobody has ever mentioned them in this thread.
1st: You mentioned that your wife agreed to her never forcing you to give another man a BJ. The part that scared me is she said "she would never force you".... What about her putting you in a position where you basically have to agree to giving one instead of being faced with some other choice such as contract extension, being "outted" to your friends, etc? What about her getting Ms. Suz (or somebody else) to force you? She has already shown interest in forcing you past your set boundaries in order to prove her power over you. Another angle is that she never promised that she wouldn't have another man give you a BJ & I think that she could possibly force you to get one as a way for her to skirt the rules that you have agreed to.

2nd: You make mention multiple times that Trace has no idea about certain sex acts that Ms. Stacy has performed on other people because. What is to make you believe that you are not in the same boat as him? How do you know that your wife didn't give Trace a BJ as a reward that Ms Cathy had arranged for him? Your clone-a-willy was given to Ms Stacy after she gave you a BJ, so how do you know that Trace's clone-a-willy wasn't given to your wife after she gave him a BJ? that would certainly explain his "shit eatin grin" he gave you when you wife got his clone-a-willy! From an outsiders point of view, your wife seems to have fell in love with the overall Dom lifestyle & who's to say that she isn't living out more of it withouth you knowing? The way in which she nonchalantly explains that Trace doesn't know everything really scares me! She doesn't seem to have any problem with Ms Cathy's deception of Trace! Your wife is surrounded by people of this type & I'm sure the other women's treatment of their "slaves" is reassuring your wife that it is completely fine to act out with other people in this lifestyle while hiding it from you!

I'm not trying to scare you or tell you that your wife is cheating on you by bringing up those two points, I'm just trying to make sure that you are thinking these through with clear eyes. It's hard to think about such things objectively in situations like yours, so I want to make sure that that you are aware of the possibilities (however slim they may be) so they are in the back of your mind during future "play"...

 

I don't know why I referred to Ms Cathy as Ms Stacy in my post haha
Sorry bout that!