The power of no

No, is especially powerful when given without an explanation. Just the denial because of who She is. Because She decides and if She wants to explain, She can. If not, so be it.

 

Well as a slave who has been on the end of this, i can contest to a great feeling of power rushing through one. And it's not mine

 

Is begging allowed......after you say "no" Mistress?

 

NO is indeed one of, if not the most powerful word! Like all things of such power (nuclear weapons, pussy etc.). Responsible use is required. Allow me to demonstrate. Mr Chaste - "Would you like to go out with me for a drink?" The now Mrs Chaste- "No I can't at the moment". So the slightly insecure Mr Chaste heard "No, I don't want to out with you at all". So Mr Chaste didn't ask again! About a week or two later the now Mrs Chaste said "Do you still want to go out with me?" "Yes" was my reply "Well ask me again!" So I did and here we are 30 years later 27 of them married! It turns out she was playing hard to get! Well I'm so thick I didn't know that! I just heard "No". I hate to think how my life would have been if she hadn't thought to prompt me again, it just doesn't bear thinking about! So "please can you unlock me so I can cum?" "No" well that's fine! But there are times when careful thought needs to be given to use of something so small with so much power!

 

My wife had trouble with no. I'm hoping she gets the hang of it as we go along.

 

Being told No is a huge turn on. Makes me feel owned and controlled.

 

No is the most powerful word in Lady Kat's vocabulary. When she says no, i'm allowed to beg or plead. Sometimes she may change her mind but when she says "that is a hard no " then i know not to pursue it any further

 

If you are submitted, no can be powerful. If not it can be even worse. If used improperly or harshly it can hurt the other partner or cause the other partner to react in an unexpected or possible harsh way. I think Chaste J got lucky. Could have easily gone the other way.

 

I certainly did get lucky! And I'm eternally thankful that Mrs Chaste didn't really mean "no".

 

Sometimes I wish @Mistress Jules would just say NO
I ask if I may unlock and she will ask if I need to unlock or just want to unlock.

 

Totally agree! No is one of the most powerful words there is, if not the most powerful my madam beams when she tells me no, she delights in it! You can se her revel in the power of it when she says it!

 

Yes, great isn't it! And the different ways they do it! Sometimes with a wicked smile and sometimes without even looking up from what they are doing!

 

well its not just asking bout a cage its a lot of things and i am told no to a lot of them.

 

Agreed, if the keyholder is also the leader of the house, family and relationship, then her word is final

 

my wife is starting to love using this word.
i enjoy the direction our relationship is going.

 

@L-u-c-y ... The power of no.

From a guys perspective, its a lesson in humility to accept one saying 'no' at its face value.
There is also an element of acceptance on my part when someone is saying 'no'.

I mean really accept it - as in be okay with it without needing to dissect it, make the other defend or explain their answer, lay guilt or judgement on another.

There is a simple elegance to 'no' ...
Embrace it - its beautiful.

 

When no means no, and begging only makes that no more resolute, then it holds true power. That one small word drives desire, passion, love, and obedience. “No” is absolutely how it should be.

 

I was guilty of trying to make my wife into a fetish dispenser. And it seemed I was never content. What I deep down truly crave is her dominance over me. It wasn't till recently that I started to fully relinquish myself to that position. Taking to heart and enacting in every way, making her life easier and more enjoyable. Letting her sleep in while I watch the kids, wash the dog, do the laundry, vaccum and wash the floors, gas up and wash her car, straighten up the house. Pretty much anything I can do to free up her time and have her life all the more enjoyable and stress free. Couple this with making a very conscious effort to not be needy or smothering with wanting attention or kink.

All I have to say is, I'm very glad I am on this site as others pointed out the above many times. There's ooh so much more to all this than simply giving up your orgasms. IMO, the beauty of FLR and chastity is not fully realised till everything is in place and the women in your life given the freedom, leisure, and power over us men.

My wife still insists that the single best part of chastity is it alleviates a lot of pressure she once had regarding sex. The thought that I didn't have to "get mine" in order for her to enjoy herself however she sees fit, was a foreign concept. Now it's the norm

Im glad to say I have no problems accepting her answer or NO on whatever it may be regarding. I view it as a challenge to improve myself and how I benefit my wife's life if there is something I want but she says NO to. Double down on being a better husband and submissive and next time she may say yes when the oppertunity arises. Or maybe not

 

@luckyhubby83
What you describe is some wonderful enlightenment & perspective. Liberating, isn't it?

 

Incredibly.
And that's a understatement

 

Great post showing great growth, we're envious. You are indeed a lucky hubby.

 

Isn't this usually the first word children learn that drives parents bonkers?

Eat your vegetables….no
Time to go to bed....no
Turn off the iPad....no

I personally and frequently love to use the powerful little word in conjunction with a pause and stare.

Have I earned a bit of free time tonight? ………(two second pause with wide eyed stare)…..….NO!

 

... "no" is especially powerful when trying to get a job, needing medical aid, fighting for freedom, asking for equality before the law - and of course: at weddings!
it's really a shame that no one in here thinks about that other little word called "yes"!