Enjoy my rant, I was smoking at the time. Chastity offers a man, a way to be broken, into submission, and truly being owned and controlled by their Mistress. The beauty of sexual frustration, the surge of frustration and failure, but at the same time, the tease arouses us. But the control is not ours, and the frustration, and the teasing, and the desperation continues to tell us, that the control is not ours. And in that moment, in the deepest pit of the man, he breaks. He surrenders to her control, and stops trying to fight it. He stops trying to dominate and control her and the terms. He is finally and fully broken to the fullest extent, and is fully surrendered. The emotion experienced in this process of being broken, the claimed, and fully owned is life changing.
It may start as a sexual thing but it only becomes real - that is, the moment when he is broken - when it stops being sexual and starts being mental. That is why most men on here haven't reached that stage.
You may think that you’ve reached the stage where you are the property of your Mistress and than you realize that your still not All the way their. It’s a Journey that can be long and have many curves and valleys in it. This probably has a lot to do with keeping us motivated to continue on where never sure what is around the next corner.
The last few days I have been reading posts about breaking a man. Now we have this post wanting to be broken. Why would any Mistress want a man who is broken? The same thing with posts where guys see themselfs as useless males. My submission to @Mistress Jules makes me complete not broken. I am far from useless or broken. I stand proud as Mistress Jules slave and do all that I can to please her. We are not on a battlefield we are in a loving D/s relationship.
But what if she’s only breaking you because she knows you like and want it and it turns you on? What if she’s only breaking you because you begged to be broken?
Likewise thinking, i am self imposed locked at the moment, it is an emotional need to reach my target, very little to do with sex (arousal of course does aid the servility). In fact, the thought of getting out and having to take release brings me fear, to be instructed by a Superior to fail in my intentions, it would be a mindf**k and not a pleasurable experience. This very much held true in the past when i had a Girlfriend who kept me in chastity for Her purposes and amusement.
To be broken in the sense of this thread in my mind is to also be liberated. Liberated from selfish desires that bring in attitude and neediness into the relationship. I feel like I am in a cycle of being broken because in our battle of wills, she always wins, and I eventually reach a point of surrender and serenity and devotion. My goal is to break the cycle and live in the devotional space. She deserves as much.
I suppose then, it's kind of her to take my pleasure into consideration. But of course the way you are brought to your brokenness is important too. The dominant has to be intimately involved, disciplined, and dedicated.
if breaking means making men nicer and them doing more to help in the house i think its a good thing. Some men dont do nothing and say its not what men do. my dad is a bit like that and my mom is always going on at him but he stil dont do much.
Regardless of gender Horse Breaker V Horse Whisperer Who gets the best long term results? But if breaking is what is asked for let them think they have been broken... Surely though....they can't actually be broken though because by requesting it then it appears to me that they were already broken.
I look at my submission more in the light of serving Her needs than being "broken" by Her. It's a love affair and I demonstrate that love through serving Her and She shows Her love for me by providing me the direction that I so badly need. It's a great situation for both of us!
To the OP... Please read this ^^^ again and explain to me how this is submission. The entire post is all about you, you, you. Npt a single word,or thought about your Mistress and what SHE might want. This isn't submission, this is a woman being kind and selfless enough to indulge your sexual fantasy of denial. If anyone is acting submissively in that scenario, it's her. Ask yourself this. All these wonderful profound feelings you're feeling and expressing in that post, I'm sure it's all very real for you, but put yourself in her place. What is she actually getting out of it?
Yup I'm so selfish for asking to pbe in chastity and please her and be denied myself. Thanks for educating me.
It's hard to comprehend why, when someone is attempting to share their own thoughts about that side of the slash, they are often criticized for not speaking on behalf of the associated Dominant, 100% of the time... I, for one, would be irritated beyond imagination if pet presumed to speak for Me, as if he knows everything that crosses My mind... and I'd be incomprehensibly bored if he had no thoughts of his own, individual, personal experience as a participant in our D/s relationship. I would guess someone prompted him to feel this way, @Cuckster. Why is it so improbable that she would enjoy making this happen? I know I sure do. No need for so much snarky, sub-to-sub shaming around here! Anyway... --- This seems like another case of semantics. To Me the OP is discussing a situation in which the acceptance of being broken (liberated, enlightened, humbled, etc) is the result of a process in which both parties are actively participating... and likely enjoying, else they probably wouldn't have reached that tipping point. Or maybe I'm wrong. If someone already considers themselves an 'unworthy doormat', chances are high there's not much for a Dominant to work with... since a 'sub' like that is usually unable to offer anything of substantial use. After all, strong spines help one stand up straight... I prefer his to remain intact. Having an eager, pliable, and trainable mind is what truly matters most to Me when 'breaking' him. Devices or not.
I was going to leave this one alone, but seeing as I've been named directly, I'd better correct some misunderstanding. @Breathe where exactly did I (or anyone) suggest the s should "speak on behalf" of D. I'm honestly at a bit of a loss as to how you came up with that one in the first place, let alone attributing it to what I wrote. You seem to be confusing considering someone else with speaking for them. The OP put the final nail in it himself by pointing out that he *asked* to be put into chastity., and in the thread title of his "need" to be broken and owned. Doesn't seem like much "prompting" was needed after all. But hey far be it from me. Whatever floats your boat and all that. It just sounds a lot like topping from the bottom to me.