For you locked guys, are you allowed to initiate sexual contact? For you Key Holders, what’s your policy on your locked male initiating sexual contact? Why? For me, She’s never discouraged me from initiating. In fact at times she’s said she wishes I would do so more so that it would be easier to keep us in a friskier, more playful mindset in general. Sometimes, if She or both of us are in a bit of a lull, It can feel like a stalemate, where If I don’t initiate nothing happens, but yet I don’t feel like I should because what if she’s purposely avoiding any sexual play right now for some reason? After all she’s in control of all sex related stuff, so if she wanted to play, we’d be playing. That’s how I think I think at times, despite her saying previously that it’s actually helpful when I start things up. It’s strange because I’ve never had any issue initiating at all, until Chastity... something about being locked makes initiating feel somehow wrong, as if it’s not my place to do so. And then there’s the whole strangeness of initiating sexual contact knowing there’s no way it’s going to end the way a lifetime of conditioning has taught me it will end. The result is I tend not to initiate nearly as often, despite knowing that she doesn’t mind, and that at worst she’ll just brush me off. I never thought about it before, if I was in the mood I went for it and the chips fell where they fell. Now, with chastity, I sit there and contemplate whether I should or not, and for whatever reason I often end up just not going for it. And neither of us are necessarily pleased with that fact I don’t think, but it’s just what happens. So it’s an odd thing that I wonder if other people think about.