The 0.01%

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    I have a hypothesis. Take all of the D/s relationships, where the vast majority are predicated on the dynamic of mutual satisfaction. She gets her feet worshipped, he gets told to do it. He disobeys a command, she whips/spanks him etc. But within all of the various D/s relationships, the 0.01% live. These are the relationships that do not operate a mutual satisfaction activity, these are where the devotee gives all, the devoted takes without reciprocal activity. That's not to say the devotee never gets any consideration, but he never knows whether it will be proffered and if ever, soley on her terms. We certainly subscribed to this flavour of the lifestyle, it seemed so right for us. But I would be lying if I said I never yearned for some vestiges of the 99.99%ers. I'm not saying one is more genuine than the other, but this level of commitment really does test the devotees investment in his Mistress. So are you one of the 0.01%?
     
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    Your .01% doesn't sound like a relationship. What's the point of committing to someone who doesn't reciprocate in any way? Service for the sake of service is fine, but you can literally do that with anyone, why do it with someone who doesn't appreciate it?
     
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    Interesting perspective. I didn't say doesn't reciprocate in any way ever. It's the not knowing if/when that plays with the mind. And I certainly didn't say it wasn't appreciated, but that depends on ones view of how appreciation is shown. The air of ambivalence and superiority can be quite intoxicating, but that effect would depend on how ones mind worked. Thanks for your thoughts.
     
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    Going a bit off track here.... but I'm pretty sure foot worship is 99.9% a male fetish, I do not know any women who like it, unless they are pro dommes who pretend to like it for money, or findommes who tell men what they want to hear, or femdom porn stars who are paid for it, or men pretending to be women.

    Or women are doing it because they think "That's what dominant women are meant to do".
     
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    Definitely not off track Mistress Lucy, thats my point. Women generally do not like foot worship, it's males that want to do and be commanded to do it. Yes, they may well get some forms of servitude from their submissive/slave, but it comes with strings attached. The group I call the 99.99%ers.
     
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    I think the head bowed to the superior female is the correct form of deference. I would image Her feet being licked etc could be quite irritating.
     
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    I wake my wife up on weekends by massaging and kissing her feet. She has told me she loves it.
     
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    Do you happen to love it? She might be telling you what you want to hear.
     
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    She might not love the kissing, but I bet she enjoys the foot message.
     
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    I do. However, she brought it up in a conversation once without prompt and gave this opinion.
     
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    Concerning the foot worship issue, I personally do not get anything out of it, except that if I am told to do it, I do it for her pleasure and as a sign of submission.

    Some of it on the male side has to do with the fetishism of female feet by society, just look at the footwear many women wear. And, women don't wear high heels just for the men.
     
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    This is very true. I have given many foot massages where the receiver got immense pleasure from the sensations.
     
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    I do love my wife's feet, and enjoy caring for them. I also believe that my enthusiasm for worshipping them regularly provides a reinforcement to her that I believe in my role, being below her in our relationship. We are not that far in, so keeping myself committed is important for growth between us.
     
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    I am just saying that it is not a fetish for me. I don't get a high from the specific act.
     
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    Couples living these types of relationships experiment and then do what they think is best for their relationship. I'm sure a lot of different kinks are acted out over the course of time to see what is liked and what is not liked, what really works and what is pure fantasy. However regardless of whatever you think about the kinks or acts, if it achieves the desired result from your sub that's all that really matters. When my Miss and I met she didnt like her feet touched at all. Over the course of our relationship her comfort level with me rose to where I give her foot rubs nearly every night even before Chastity started. This morning I was rubbing and kissing her feet, yes it was me wanting to kiss them and not being told. I wanted to kiss them because I want her so bad in every way right now and she knows it. She allows me to kiss her feet because it puts me in the right head space and she enjoys how grateful I am to kiss her feet therefore she enjoys the act itself.

    That doesn't mean I can just kiss her feet anytime I want, it means she has to be in the right mood for it and there are no acceptions. It's a tool she can use to keep me where she wants me. If she hated it or even remotely disliked it she would tell me to stop and not do it again but she hasn't. I'm not a foot guy but the longer I'm locked the more things I find I appreciate about my Miss and would be willing to try different things. I'm at the point right now where I am purely flattered that she would allow me to kiss her feet.

    There is no way anyone does anything with out sort of liking it or having motivation behind it. The OP says there is no reciprocation from his mistress for anything, he has to personally enjoy this non reciprocation to a certain degree or it would become unacceptable to him at some point and cause problems in their relationship.

    I think one thing we all need to remember is that when you're in a relationship with someone you love and you're trying something different/taboo with them and you know how much it means to them to try it, you're more likely to enjoy it when you see how much it means to your partner and what it does to them physically and psychologically (I.e. Chastity).
     
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    Who doesn’t like their feet massaged?
     
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    Same. My wife tells me she loves having her feet rubbed. She also has told me she loves it when i suck on her toes.
     
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    That sounds a bit too severe for me. No reciprocity wouldn't work.
     
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    My wife loves her feet worshipped. She often presents her feet to me to kiss, massage and lick. It’s a definite fetish for her.
     
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    and as for the feet fetish thing, I had an ex who loved having her feet rubbed, but that was more because they were tired. It was never particularly sexual, on either of our parts.
     
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    Hmm.... 2 things
    The foot fetish thing although fascinating is off topic.
    Reciprocity or ones version of it, is subjective. The sub/slave who receives little other than subtle gestures is by no means not receiving anything in return. The level of sacrifice the 0.01% offer for a selfish Mistress (I have used the term selfish to hopefully show some clarity) does not come without an emotional reward for the sub/slave. The non physical cruelness is more powerful than a whip, cane or other humiliation substitute of your choice. The power of the mind response for the sub can be quite intoxicating. Rewards come in many packages, extreme apprehension can be quite a trip.
     
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    I was never into feet before I met her, preferred to nibble an ear or a neck.
    Long before we started with chastity, and it's never stopped, her favourite thing is for me to massage her feet when we're on the sofa together, or to start in bed by starting with her feet.
    Now, I too get pleasure from adoring her feet, but it's always been her thing, which she never hesitates to ask for. In fact you've now made me realise it's the only thing she regularly openly asks for.

    So in this neck of the woods, it's definitely her foot fetish, not mine.
     
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    I have to disagree with you LUCY. My wife loves her feet rubbed,massaged and her toes sucked on so wouldn’t That be a foot fetish.
     
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    I need to introduce you to my girlfriend. She absolutely loves it.
     
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    I guess there is a huge difference between foot fetish and foot massage.
    My ex-girlfriend totally loved a relaxing foot massage after a long day, however neither of us had a foot fetish, to me, it was the same as giving a back massage to her.
     
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