Tell vanilla wife what locktober is?

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    My wife is rather vanilla but has accepted I enjoy chastity and has even held my keys.

    She currently has my keys locked in a safe and I'm hoping to do all of locktober.

    Should I explain what locktober is or just let her know it's my goal to stay locked for the whole month?

    We are sort of at the stage that I think she will unlock me anytime I ask.
     
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    Take it slow man… don’t freak her out. Could tell her your goal is 1 month with out orgasm but she can use it when ever she wants. Figure out what she gets and not only yourself.
     
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    You know her better than us. If you do tell her about it, make it informative rather than a request. "Did you hear about this Loctober thing? Some of the women who are into chastity keep their guys locked up all month...".
    Make sure she knows it is up to her if and when she wants to take that much control and that you will be happy either way...
     
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    Talking to her about the concept of locktober is a good way of having the discussion about your chastity. Good luck
     
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    Go with your gut on this everyone is different my kh is well was super vanilla now she no pro Dom but she is going that way. We started but me telling her the day before locktober started 4 years ago and we have had some hick ups along the way we are very happy and she's found her stride now
     
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    My wife knows exactly when Loctober is LOL
     
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    Your have done the hard part of discussing chastity with her, I don’t think telling her about locktober will put her off.
     
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    I've been in chastity for 5 or 6 years with my Wife as my keyholder.

    But I have refrained from mentioning locpornographic, as She will likely consider it as pornographic/fetishistic and distasteful
     
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    Mentioning loctober
     
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    Last year I mentioned it to my wife. We had been practicing chastity for around 6 months and I just causally said it was a sort of celebration/challenge month for people in this lifestyle and if she wanted to try it we could, if not there’s no pressure but either way I felt she should know it exists. I left it at that and a week or so later she approached me with her decision. Needless to say I was locked up for (most) of the month.
     
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    Don't listen to naysayers are scardycats like this.

    Instead go all in and let her know that you want to be caged 24/365 and that you're getting a PA piercing tomorrow, along with a $400 titanium cage. Tell her you have found a guy with a big cock that will fuck her while you watch, sitting in a chair in the corner while dressed in a schoolgirl outfit and answering to the name Janice.
     
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    Thanks for all the input and suggestions. I'm probably going to use the approach of it's a personal goal to last a month and tell her what locktober is if she agrees. She hasn't expressed any interest in unlocking me yet so I won't push it.
     
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    Tmi on your part lol
     
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    Even when we first started, and I sent her a pic about Locktober, she said that idea was cute. I replied cute? “That you’d think I’d let a calendar decide for me” and that was that.

    I sometimes go months without being unlocked and sometimes get unlocked 3 or more times. It all depends on her mood and timing I suppose. She has never been a fan of set days, random time frames, or lock up as punishment. I’m locked until I’m not. So far it has been a Locktober, but it has nothing to do with the month, she just hasn’t felt like unlocking me.

    There was a blog that was a wife’s perspective on keeping the month fun. It was filled with ideas about tease and denial. Whoever her hubby is, is very lucky to have someone so into it, but if you are looking to spice things up, I would give a search for “loctober blog” or something similar. Very hot ideas.
     
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    I see you are in the market for a sense of humour upgrade.
     
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    Just wanted to update. After some intimate time with me still caged, I told my wife I wanted to try to stay locked up all month and asked her if she would tell me no if I asked to be unlocked.

    Her response was that it's up to her now and I'd have to see.

    I did make reference to today being locktober 14th and later asked her if she got the joke. Apparently she knew what locktober was and said I mentioned it before.

    Still locked for now and not sure when I'll be out. On a side note we have both been extremely happy lately.
     
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    Maybe
     
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    Don't forget that after Locktober there's still No Nut November!
     
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