I have pretty good stamina. Sometimes, she would get tired and our love making became a chore for her to finish. We start having less sex. During a discussion to understand why we were enjoying sex less, she asked if we could just stop when she was done, even if I had not. Although difficult, I agreed. So we started with what soon became denial. We began having sex more. That naturally escalated to tease and denial because she was enjoying my frustration. Then chastity. She really began to like the power she had. At this point my submissiveness surfaced. This was a surprise for both of us. Being submissive has never been a fantasy. We are now in a FLR and I am a true service submissive. Submissiveness just has not been part of my programming at all. I've been a logger, welder, pipeliner, helicopter mechanic, computer designer, programmer, and management. I take cars apart and put them back together for fun. I build custom racing motorcycles. I'm never been a flaming alpha type, but I've not been submissive either. That has changed. I don't like being locked. I don't like being denied. Yet, if I am left unlocked, I become very conflicted with my new submissiveness. I guess I haven't completely accepted it yet. Conflicted or not, I want to serve her. If I am locked, denied, and disciplined, I can relax into submissiveness without feeling conflicted. It's when I am most at peace. The more intense, the more peaceful. I struggle with this. If you have faced this kind of conflict, how do you manage it? If you have been at this for a while, have you gotten over it?