Serious question

It feels like this is the slowest forum but that makes sense to me. The CD and sissy stuff is a huge draw to this lifestyle and the excitement of that leads to more posts and spicy topics on the other forums. Taking that away there is still a draw but not the level of excitement. IMO

 

I think generally it's been fairly quiet the last month on CM. I welcome this forum.

 

Well, here's the thing: most of the other forums were created with the understanding that pretty much anyone could start new threads and comment in them. Therefore, there's no logical reason why folks should post threads here when there are already specialized sub-forums to post here.

The only reason to post here is for people who can't stand the idea of crossdressing or sissification coming up in the thread somehow. Most users just don't care that much.

The best way to get more action in this subform is to post threads that:

• don't rant about crossdressing or sissifiction
• don't complain about the lack of threads in here
  

It's kind of hard to find lots of new interesting content in a forum with an exclusionary title, but if fans of this subforum are determined all they have to do is remember to relegate their threads here rather than the rest of the Mansion.

 

My journey into chastity began when I would crossdress. That was years ago... I no longer crossdress but lock more frequently. Then it was perhaps a fetish/kink based on appearance; caged cock in panties - you get the mental picture. As I "matured" and no longer could, in my mind, pull of a decent crossdressing session, I found that chastity increased my playtime submission and as a bottom, made me focus less on my cock and more on my "back door". It's been a journey that continues...

 

There are new captions several times a week. ;-)

 

@Byrdie brings up some great points. We are not into sissification or crossdressing (outside, perhaps of the occasional tease or joke), but I still tend to post most questions or comments on the general forums, and will continue to, because I have learned to enjoy the variety of experiences even if (especially if?) outside my own.

I think those that really wanted this forum need to think of ways to make it entertaining and pull in discussions here. I would love it, for instance, if this became a place guys could bring their inexperienced partners to learn and get excited about chastity without getting turned off. A step beyond "Chastity in Vanilla Life". Maybe we could encourage others that have those types of questions to post/repost here (the "how do I get my wife into this" question seems to come up VERY often)?

I would hate to see things get divisive with the other forums so hopefully this forum can build up an interesting character of its own.

 

looks like more people like chastity with cross dressing and sissyfication...i do!

 

I wouldn’t say “more people” like x or y… many live their lifestyle and may read and lurk but don’t always post. Maybe it’s the more “conservative” nature of folks that don’t get into the sissification and cross dressing or the hardcore FLR aspects…nothing wrong with that, but I think that’s part of their experience, they enjoy posting and, frankly, writing a lot of fantasy land stuff that “gets them off”.

I personally enjoy my chastity life with my wife and we are “real life” with this, and I don’t post as often as many do, but I enjoy helping others and am very grateful for this particular sub forum so that some of the sissy stuff can get filtered out for those that don’t want to read it.

 

I’m no stranger to lingerie or pretty outfits, but in general, I post on the subject matter, not about what it’s not about.

Female led relationships, orgasm denial, general discussion. Wherever it fits, not “everything but that” category.

 

I live in South Florida and have several friends who do drag here. I respect them and why they do but I have never had an interest or desire to dress like that.
I am a gay guy, who discovered chastity a few years ago with a partner. I feel extremely masculine when a steel device is locked onto me. Stand a little taller in fact . just my two cents

 

I am mostly a lurker and enjoy seeing the range of dynamics across the site. However, many of the themes are not my thing so I just move along. The line between vanilla and this one seems faint.

in my mind this forum could be named something like: chastity for couples in a loving, understanding, non-demeaning relationship looking to improve communication, have some fun, explore new things, while growing closer. Of course, that doesnt just roll off the tongue.

 

The challenge with this specific example is that not everyone who participates in crossdressing or sissification finds it demeaning, so assigning such a relative value to such play / a lifestyle may not weed out the topics the original proponents of this sub forum originally wanted to avoid.

 

I get that. I personally do not find it demeaning at all. I just have no interest in it and think it is nice to have a place to step away from it.

As an analogy, I could imagine a car forum with a general forum for all things with four wheels. If every conversation became about tesla or ev charging, and what you were interested in 1960s muscle cars, you might grow tired of the forum. There is not right or wrong.

Given the number of devices sold around the world, it would seem we may have an over representation of hard core flr and sissification. I doubt this sub forum will being in the masses, but it may feel a little more approachable to a broader swath of people. Or at least for me, it piques my interests.

Edit: did not see the bolding until my post landed. Non-demeaning was not about sissification or cross dressing, it is more extreme power transfer in my mind. Many posts I see here are walking a fine line between consensual and human trafficking or abuse. Some could be verbal games for the internet, some seem a bit real and edging on human rights issues.

 

am i not allow on here then.

 

I think the intention of this forum forum is to not have people that are seemingly hell bent on discussing cross-dressing and/or sissyfication which does not rule out those members that do do one or both of these from being on here and discussing anything else.
You have been on this site longer than I have Jemima and you being able to share your experiences of being locked on an almost permanent basis and being denied for long stretches with others would be an invaluable asset to this small part of this forum.
Its never bothered me that you cross-dress as far as I'm concerned you are Jemima and your choice of attire is none of my business

 

well i dont really crossdress cos i am always in dresses or skirts and blouses.

 

This section can to expand and also be for other topics, but where we don't want to see men in skirts. Can be here for example: FLR, Femdom, beauty of a women, honor for women, female power, matriarchy, etc. But without feminization and crossdressing.

Do you all agree?

 

I have never thought of you as a crossdresser Jemima
Just someone wearing a cage and living the life you want to

 

Yes. That describes us. You and yours? We've played with chastity during sex, but in the last few months it has expanded out of the bedroom.

 

Once again, the forum is something of a failure, because people who are into cross-dressing - at least some of them, enough of them - can't keep their traps shut about it, even when they are asked politely to do so. That was the original purpose of the forum, because so many other discussions about chastity end up with someone blathering on about their favorite kink, no mater what the subject of the thread.

And this:

Is exactly why some of us want a place to get away from it. I can't let my wife see this site, because she would be so completely turned off by this idea, that chastity = sissies, she would stop being my keyholder because it would acquire negative connotations for her. I'm not alone in that either.

Is your kink cross-dressing, or exhibitionism? Do you think it's okay to foist your kink on everyone else, even when they've said they aren't interested?

 

100%

 

It's weird.

There's lots of reasons to be into chastity.

I'm personally more dominant by nature. Traditionally masculine. No interest in being cucked. Don't want to be humiliated or degraded.

But I enjoy my wife feeling empowered, taking some control, and some other fringe benefits like not watching porn/jerking every day. Definitely helps refocus all sexual energy on my wife.

And I can do all of that without wearing panties or pretending my cock is a "clitty."

It just appears to be all consuming for some people. I suspect they're STILL watching porn every day and finding sexual gratification away from their wives/gfs.

 

There also seemed to be confusion above—i believe this forum has nothing to do about the person but rather the topic of conversation.