Safeword

Safeword for what?

If she makes something for dinner I don't like then my safeword is "II'll make my own dinner, thanks".

 

Pumpernickel

 

Skooby doobie do. I can't often use it when I want to, I'm usually delerious. So the torture goes on for longer than I can consent to. I've never been tortured to the extent I've not been grateful afterwards. I'm not advising this system but works for us.

 

When we were a lot younger and new to bdsm we would make our safe words personal and meaningful to each other and changing them each session, we soon found it difficult to recall these at the point of breaking,
So it’s been simply just flapjack for many years.

 

Yeah we go so far now that I'm a bit delerious sometimes to say it although it's always been scoobie do, don't know why she picked that. No safe words now, just when she think I've had enough. Tears or unconsciousness but that's for the future. We both agree on it though.

 

Stoplight system here. Green, yellow, red.

IMO, personalized safewords can be 'fun'... but no one else @ the club / dungeon will know what "pineapple muffin" means, so that's why I stopped using them.

 

Yeah, we're boring in that respect. We just use the commonly used colors - yellow for a warning and red for stop.

 

Mercy: this is too intense/I want to negotiate or pause. If her goal is extreme play, she can push me through this.
Red: I am past my limit and/ot fear injury, we need to stop.

 

I have a safe word but have never used it. I try to take my punishment because I did something wrong and need to be punished for it. My wife is not crazy and will stop once she feels i have learned my lessen or she feels better.

Mine is computer

 

Mine is "stop". It works very well.

 

i says stop a lot of times but it dont. but Mistress always say before how many im having so i know when it will stop and i know as well She wont damage me.

 

We keep it simple, especially when you have a gag in your mouth or wearing a hood,. Red means stop immediately. Yellow means ease up a little and green means go on and keep doing what you are doing. None verbal is the old Shave and a haircut, two bits melody. Da da da da da DA DA

 

I do not have, or have need of, a safeword. I am 100% confident that Princess Di will push me right to limit of what I can endure, but not a fraction beyond that limit. I have complete faith that she will cause me some pain, test and challenge me, and explore the boundaries of our BDSM/FLR relationship, but in doing so, she absolutely would never "Harm" me....

 

We never got round to having a safe word.

All started off as more of a fantasy for myself and we would talk through things. 2 years later she's really taken to the roll and will push me to my limits and beyond saying we dont need one.

 

I don't have a safe word because iM a TwUE nO liMItS SubBy wUbBY

But in seriousness, when I did fake BDSM with my ex the safe word was shoehorn. Not that we ever got anywhere near that. Thinking back now, the idea that we had a long discussion about a safe word is kinda silly and obnoxious.

Now I'm a fan of the stoplight system because I can actually trust myself to be able to use it, even when in altered states of consciousness. And the tops I have played with value that far more than a novel, personalized safe word. Has worked for me, and whatever works for you is what you should use.

 

Red and yellow for us.

I think they should be tested from time to time. Knowing that she'll respect it and I'll use it promotes mutual trust.

I want her to be free to push my limits. My best experiences have been right on the edge of what I can endure. To know where that limit is she has to be unafraid to cross it from time to time.

I've used it once in the last couple of months when she managed to crush one of my balls like never before. She let go immediately, we talked about it, I took a few minutes to recover and then asked if we could continue. Thankfully, she agreed.

I trust her, but we're on a journey that incorporates things and abilities to permanently injure me physically, and perhaps both of us mentally. Trusting that either one of us can call stop should we feel the other is getting carried away is the safe and sane thing to do in my opinion.

 

Not that I like getting caned but, sometimes knowing how many strokes we're getting helps us endure them.
Are you caned jemima?

 

For those who feel they need one
I would recommend your partner only accept a number of consecutive correct pronunciations without fault of the term.....Worcestershire Sauce ... as pronounced by the people of Worcestershire and not some idealized version on a dictionary website



joking aside you should have one

 

Do you mean in the context of chastity or rahter painful activities like caning?

 

That's my opinion as well.
I don't beat him so we do not need a safe word.

 

please i am usual paddle with my strap but i have been cane as well and its more horrid i think and hurt more. it good that i am not cane a lot.