Revelation: Why horny is different now. Harder.

Hey Thatguy,
I think you've hit the nail on the head. I haven't had an O for a month now, the second time we've hit a month. And I haven't died from lack of it! The tension and uncertainty of whether I'm going to let out and then whether I'll get to cum is addictive as you say. If this weekend it extends beyond a month I won't be too disappointed, I'm interested to see what happens and to extend the run a bit longer. It's all up to her.

 

For me it is the anticipation of an orgasm, rather then the orgasm that I enjoy from chastity. I liken it to my teenage days when I never knew if I would get lucky on a date. Even now I will shower and shave before sex all the while feeling that same anxious feeling that I used to have when I was dating as a teen. I was going to be with a girl who I did not know how far she would let me go. That is what makes chastity special for me. I do not know how long you go between orgasm but for me it can be months. I usually start climbing the walls after a month so we may stick to orgasm denial for a 3-6 weeks to give my wife leeway to surprise me. I do not like firm dates for my orgasm although we do sometimes use them for target dates just to give me hope. If I have no hope for an orgasm, I lose interest in sex. I prefer sex when there is a chance of an orgasm, no matter how remote that chance may be.

I also enjoy the sexual energy I have after about 3 weeks of orgasm denial. a length of time which is too long under the honor system. So my pleasure is from the anticipation fueled by sexual energy with no place to go.

 

You have uncovered the absolute joy of being chaste. We don't realize how easy it is for us to 'break the tension' and how thoughtlessly we rub one out to satisfy the need. When you're hungry you eat, when you're tired you sleep, when you're horny you orgasm. It is as natural as breathing but it CAN have an unintended outcome of becoming corrosive to your relationship.

When I figured this out and realized how emotionally satisfying it is to focus my needs on my wife and thereby focus on her needs first, I became a fan of chastity. Yeah, the metal can be uncomfortable, the nocturnal erections can be harsh at times, but the end result is worth all of it.

My wife is decidedly not kinky and struggles to deal with my varied interests. She has taken to locking me up and teasing me like nothing else in our marriage.

 

Very well put.

 

I have taken it to a different level this time. I'll use him when I want to get off, tease him other times and recently we signed up for a one month subscription to femdomempire.com. I am in the process of finding and downloading videos that I like and sending them to him. I NEVER liked him watching bondage porn (his old fallback) so this is a nice compromise for me since it's solely Femdom. It keeps him revved up in his horniness. In fact, he was so SUPER horny and relentless last Sunday, pestering me literally all day, I finally gave in and let him have his way with me resulting in a very nice, simultaneous release. It's those moments (and even the moments in between) that make Chastity oh so special and totally worth it. The feelings of closeness are definitely amplified.

 

I hear ya, this a whole new level, especially when pierced. Yes I gave up control, but a new level of crazy horny has popped up.

 

Love reading your journey ,especially seeing as you both are different from the vast majority where @Thatgirl was the one who initiated this ,rather than us men initiating this .
Please keep posting so we can follow your journey

 

Yes, it seems as though @Thatguyontheinternet is the odd man out. We kinda initiated it together though. But with me making it firm (heh...).

 

@Thatgirl can I clone you please ? He he he (i'm teasing of course) i'm so happy that you both having a great time and enjoying your journey together and thank you both so much for sharing your journey with us

 

Lol, no problem! I like posting and writing because, unlike you locked boys, I don't have a cage around my cock to keep me reminded of it 24/7.

 

I'm currently "free" so I look at all the couples /partnerships on here with a bit of envy .
I love seeing people's journeys and seeing how they grow and develop in kink but more so in the chastity journey .
Reading how ,at first, the wives/partners are reluctant to do it then the part when they actually take control and the point where the man realises that she has "found herself" and has taken real control ,if that makes sense, and his realisation that she is now taken it seriously . That moment when the game changes from her "doing it for him" to doing it because she wants it now and she is definitely in control of it and makes her own rules etc and he is in a kind of "wow she has taken control now and I'm shocked and don't know where she is going with this " kind of thing .
I'm so glad you like posting and long may it continue and long may both or your happy journey continue too .

 

I have masturbated once since we started this chastity based journey in October 2015. I can't remember when it happened but I distinctly remember the event. I was naked, kneeling on a rug in front of my Wife. She was sat on her bed, fully dressed. She was looking at me dismissively, telling me I was only allowed to go as far as a ruined orgasm, no further and only had a few minutes to do it. She had totally become my Mistress, there was no play in that moment, it was all completely real. It remains one of the singularly most amazing experiences of my life.

The point is I don't miss masturbating one little bit. Like you I am utterly dependant on her for any release, apart from when my body decides it's time for me to have a clear out and gives me a hands free ruined orgasm. That almost always happens now after she has been teasing me, making me aroused without any mention of relief. She recently told me she was really happy my body was doing this as she felt that she was still responsible for the orgasm, and felt really turned on by how my body was responding to her touch.

I am being reprogrammed. We have been married for nearly thirty years. I have always been attracted to her but, since she has become my only source of sexual relief, this attraction has reached new and unforeseen heights. A few nights ago she started giggling. I looked up to see the look of glee on her face. She had exposed a breast, initially inadvertently, but had noticed how I reacted. She had then started doing it on purpose, each time making it look like it was accidental. I was so aroused I could barely breathe. This is a breast I have seen on numerous occasions, yet the power she has over me how is so intense even a glimpse affects me.

And you are so right. The denial is so powerful that when she reminds me that only she is going to orgasm, that I have a long, long time before it is my turn, the power she exerts and my willingness to submit turns us both on.

 

By the way, she gave me one of those hands free ruined orgasms night before last. She made me cum by stroking my ear and my side for about ten minutes. No genital stimulation at all. To say she felt happy about this is a huge understatement.

 

The interesting thing is that I don't even notice it most of the time. Right now, I don't even feel my device being on. You can get used to almost anything within reason.

There are times, though...

 

To be under a lovely woman's control is very exciting to have her share the experience with others here is something most of us can o lye dream of. I have a fantastic Mistress but she has no interest in posting her opinions or thoughts. Your situation is unique

 

It takes about a month for me to fill up enough for a spontaneous ejaculation to occur, and then a good tease session from Elle to get me started, and then something that arouses me but doesn't necessarily involve any huge stimulation. After that it sometimes happens, sometimes it doesn't.

One time it happened when I was reading an erotic story, one time when I saw a short Tumblr video of a woman who had a body shape like Elle having great sex with a black guy. This time it happened just after I had left Elle's bedroom but luckily there was one occasion that it happened when I was lying next to her, both hands on my e are my four ruined orgasms this year.

Trouble? Elle doesn't see it that way!

 

That should have said both hands on my iPad and those are my four ruined orgasms this year

 

Stay Horny

 

oh, he is

 

I have routinely asked myself...what the heck am I doing?! I am constantly looking up things to text her, dirty Tumblr pic, etc. Texting her what I would like to do for her, pretty much getting more crazy by the minute. Why do I do this to myself when I know I can't do anything about it. You are very accurate in the Möbius strip we travel.

The fact that I know I can't get hard or cum, doesn't seem to deter my desire for stimulation, even if it's just mental stimulation. We talk about being trained and accustomed to things a lot here, weird that I haven't learned that it would be easier on myself if I avoided so much stimuli.