On the slow track

OMG, wendygirl, how did you know about my bruised butt lol? I had done some complaining the other day about Lady M's busy schedule and apparently Lady M did not like it one bit. The next day when Lady M was on her way home from work, she ordered me naked and on my knees as I awaited her return. Upon Lady M's arrival I was ordered to the bedroom where I was then shackled and cuffed to the bed. Once secured I was wiped by cane almost to tears. I have been locked in chastity for a couple of weeks now and I'm wanting to spend more time with my Lady, serving and submitting to her will. I got out of line by questioning Lady M. and she wasted no time putting me back in line. I love the place I am in right now and I love the direction things are heading in. Lady M is much happier these days as well. I believe being a sub hub is my calling.

 

These things are turn on for us because we are ambivalent about them. It's a bit like jumping into icy water - you have to just do it.

Perhaps you need to build up with clearly defined lock in times, e.g. a week, two weeks etc.

Can I suggest two things:

1. Present him with erotic situations where the price is handing over the key.

2. Get a time safe. This locks out the possibility of him whining and pleading for early release and also lets you set firm lock in periods upfront.

So, you set up for some wildly erotic session; sex toys, porn on the DVD, sexy clothing... the works. Get him to put on his device. Reveal what's in store. When things start to get interesting and he's utterly turned on and subbish, present the safe and explain that he can leave the room while you masturbate, or surrender the key for 7 days. At the end of the 7 days, something even wilder will happen...

 

May I inquire, what was it that made you change from being a reluctant participant to desiring to enforce it 24/7? It's interesting that it seems to be such a common theme. Is it the power? The pampering? Please, if you would be so kind really think it through and either post or private message me. I'd greatly appreciate hearing your perspective and thoughts.

 

can u change the lock or add some kind of seal he'd have to break if he opened the lock?

 

I think you just need go all or nothing, give him 25 hours to give you the key and be locked up, or refuse to play at all.