On the slow track

I would have thought he is broken in by October 1st. Lock him up and monitor as you go. See if he can go a month without issues.

 

The biggest threat you can give him is to refuse to play the game. If he doesn't hand over the key then you know where you are. If he does, then in his mind he will have submitted to you. If he does submit, dont be bullied into telling him how long he will be locked up. This is the only way you will get where you want to be.
I take it Chastity was his idea? It normally is the man.

 

With draw all privileges one by one till he gives you the key .
I have not gone back to your profile to find out what piercing he has. However from personal experience any piercing in your willy heals in days because of the high blood flow and irrigation from warm sterile wee simples.
So have a look . He is just making excuses.
If any doubt post some clear pictures so we can see if there is any reason for the problem.
Xx wendy

 

Hard to say 100%. Piercings can genuinely take time to settle and get to the gauge needed for a Lori. But as it was done December last year it should have done this and been 'broken in' some time ago now. So he's probably just making excuses.He needs to be wearing the Lori regularly now whether you have the key or not. Use whether he is or not as a guide till October and see.

Then:
A) He hands it over: fine. But obviously you'll need to check regularly there are no problems. In fact you can start doing this now.
B) He doesn't: then you need a handle/lever (or more) which can be anything at all depending on your relationship,non-compliance will have consequences he won't want. .Nathan and Wendygirl could well be right. But there could be other ways. Maybe make a mental list of his likes and dislikes: then restrict as much as possible if former and require the latter.

 

It all depends on what type of situation you are both seekeing. It sounds like you are ready to take control, and if so, no need to wait two weeks. Pick your own date, and after dinner tell him to do the dishes and when he's done have him report to you. Use a living room, bedroom, basement, play area, what ever YOU chose. Order him to strip, and explain the way the relationship will be run begining at that moment. Have him place the Lori device, then you lock it on, and take the key. His training begins right then, as this extablishes your control, starting with the time his chastity begins. If he hasn't been trying to get used to the Lori, then as others have said, start the monitoring process. You will know that night whether this is a play game, or if he really wants to submit. It takes two to make it work, as both people have to be getting something out of the dom/sub aspect of life. I have found that most men, certainly all men who are in posession of a chastity device, want the female to make the decision for them. It seems to me your husband has reached that point, but doesn't know enough about your feelings, and if this something you want. You can answer that question, and only you. If the answer is yes, then start right then. It's what he wants, and needs. Take control girl!!!
Mistress Suzan
(dickieinbraces decision maker)

 

Also just wanted to add...Your husband is very very lucky.
Most guys have to work really hard(including myself) to persuad their partner to even try chastity.

Just wanted to put that out there. Oh yes and if that is you in your avatar he is doubly lucky...

 

Nathan has it exactly right. if he doesn't turn over the key then you refuse to play chastity at all.

 

Lol think taking the card out the cable tv so no footy probably be far more effective.
Though from your picture just wondering about the house in that lbd and showing him what he is missing !!
Xx wendy

 

Lady M
Most of us on this fantastic site have at one time or another really wanted our spouse/girlfriend/lover to take control of the sexual part of a relationship. Many men are wired to be in control...then there are the rest of us..lol In order to find out where your guy stands, with YOU wanting control...simply TAKE CONTROL. He will follow, I promise you. If you have a chastity for him, and he is "on again, off again", do what YOU want. Place the device on him..check his physical well being every day, and once the "break-in" period is complete, sit him down, maybe nude over dinner, and talk about terms of his chastity, with you taking the lead, but asking for his fellings. Then YOU make the decisions...and you're relationship is THERE. End of discussion. I'm guessing that is what he's been hoping for...if not...then you must adjust for your relationship to be long lasting.
I've been married to Mistress Suzan for over 30 years. When we had BD/SM play sessions early in our marraige, I always enjoyed being "at her will". While over 20 years later, being selfish and having an affair, I never thought that, if caught, my wife would ever take control to the extent that she has. It's much more than I could ever have imagined. She is total control of most areas of our lives. I've been through being forced to wear braces as an adult for over 3 years, to taking hormones, to being kept in chastity for much more than any "play" period. Mistress always has something additional up her sleeve, with the possible beginning of various body piercings and tattoos, something she has never wanted to start in the past. At her domme girlfriends urging, I'm sure that somewhere down the road, she will agree to me being forced sexually with another man; either one of her boyfriends, her girlfriend's sissy who is feminized, but still has his boy parts, or some unknown partner she hasn't even met yet.
Enjoy your journey, and start it by TAKING CONTROL !

Dickieinbraces

 

Since he has been in for a week I think it is now time for him to hand over the keys. Or at least give up control of the keys.

 

Definitely from what you are saying its far more in his head rather than his supposedly tender willy.
I am sure that most if not all subs would go several weeks to get to play with you.
Any more questions about the device and fit and piercing post some clear photos and we will take a look at the problem lol.
Xx wendy

 

Important thing is you want it yourself, and you're prepared to do whatever it takes to get it.

He's got to have weaknesses: it's up to you to exploit them.

 

She certainly was clever tonight by finding my weakness and locking me right back up after a momentary release. Thank you My Lady for doing what's best for me.

 

So at long last lol don't expect a lot of sympathy from any one. Just get with the programme !!
There's a que a mile long of subs crawling over burning broken glass to serve your Mistress .
So your weaknesses how far away were we ?
I hope you haven't kept any keys nore are going to spend all your time trying to get out rather than as you should thinking of pleasing your Mistress.
We are looking forward to some amazingly positive posts from you both.
Maybe you Mistress might change your avatar to one she prefers .
Xx wendy

 

Thank you Wendygirl, each key made by Lorie is unique and cannot be duplicated, at least not by me. Unfortunately we had a falling out and I am currently out of chastity

This is not so easy and I'm not sure I'm the right fit for this anymore.

 

wow, less than 24 hours from accepting and content, to done and over.... Not sure what happened, but I hope the two of you can work it out!