Ok, here goes

Welcome to our community and I hope you find what you are looking for.

 

well you have writ lots and welcome to here and i hope you like it here as well. i try to read all your words and if you get a cage and try it then it migt stop you making a mess as much as you do now and then your wife migt like you having it lock on you.

 

Seems to me like lots of men are on here as a way of coping with a sexless marriage. How about you stop thinking about your selfish needs and actually make you wife cum. I mean REALLY cum. If she's self conscious offer to wear a blindfold...she probably grew up with gross religious programming and thinks that pleasure is a dirty word. Show her it isn't. You can cheat on her and sit around complaining on forums about your sexless marriage or you can TAKE ACTION and give pleasure to the other human on this planet that you promised to LOVE HONOR and fucking OBEY. Ask yourself, have you ever had sexual relations with your wife where you weren't thinking about cumming at all? Try only thinking about her pleasure. Whatever that may look like to her. Maybe it's rubbing her feet, maybe it's gentle breast worship, maybe she's gone her entire life never having a orgasm and that's partially your fault. Try working harder, cheating on her is easy, making her squirt is not. Welcome to Femdonia bitch.

 

Yup, that pretty much sums that shit up.

Mistress Davenport you rock!

 

Yeah man, I had the masturbation issue... once you stop doing that and start using that energy to be more emotionally intimate with your wife, she might start paying more attention to you.

I know deep down you feel bad about doing that 1 to 3 times a day, let her know that... let her know that you feel that doing it is hurting the relationship emotionally and sexually, but tell her you need help.

My wife was interested in KH'ing because there was a reason to do it; to potentially help the relationship.

Start doing more around the house, don't let her do the non-sense chores... get more done... she will appreciate the little things. Start doing it all before you even mention this chastity deal... then let her look it up on her own with maybe some guidance to websites and people like Davenport.

I would do anything for my wife, she means the world to me, but it is one thing to say it... and another to show it.

Shoot me a message if you want someone to vent or talk to, best luck.

 

Mistress davenport and Kinghippo hit the nail on the head. I played with chastity for a coupke weeks before talking with my wife. In that short period she noticed the extra stuff I was getting done around the house. My wife is the lease aggressive person In the world but she was will to take the key. In the short time it has changed our dynamics as a family. I am not interested in being a slave or stuff like that just want to be the best husband my wife deserves.

 

Don't tell her to be your KH, tell her how you see KH'ing will effect the relationship for her. Don't make it about you though, show her the positive sides of it, and give her resources that she can use to make it even better.

 

Welcome to the Mansion, Sounds like you're well on the way to the chaste lifestyle

 

the thing is, some people have low sex drives/interest in sex, and you can't really do anything to change that. There are many benefits for women from chastity that are not sex-focused, and you may want to explain those to her.

Good luck and welcome

 

Hi there and welcome to the mansion!

 

It's so true! Every man unhappy with their sex lives needs to read and enact this while they tell their Partner why they are acting this way. I tell You this in-person multiple times a day, but You are amazing, Governess.

 

Don't take it too hard, Bin. There are A LOT of us who understand that uninterested wives don't always become miraculously more interested in us just because we do more dishes, or go down on them more (because we already tried that), or whatever. If our wives were interested in being partners in our relationships, we wouldn't be here.

 

Some women are just disgusted with the idea of sex in general. My wife hasn’t grown up in a religious family. Her family was in no way anti-sex. She cums during sex, she just feels bad for doing it. She herself made herself ashamed about sex. No amount of reason and logic help. She doesn’t want to listen to me. I have also been unfaithful for some time now. My favorite girls are from here https://www.majorescorts.co.uk. I used to feel ashamed about it but I’m not sure what to feel anymore. I might file for divorce. I don't think such a marriage is ok anyway.

 

Hello and welcome to Chastity Mansion enjoy your stay here.

 

Welcome! There are lots of us here who’s partners fall into the not really interested category. We started our relationship by having sex every day we where together in one way or another. Now it’s perhaps once or twice a month at most and always when I instigate it. My wife has been surprisingly accepting of chastity play but then tends to locket forget me for weeks on end. Not a good combination and makes me feel resentful.

 

I feel the same way at times...locked and forgot. Sometimes you just want to rip the thing off for some relief!

 

It can be tough when you feel ignored or forgotten about . I just remind myself this is my kink not hers . I have spent years wanting to experience chastity in any form so I'll take it however I can get it .

 

We spent so many years without sexual passion. It nearly ended a strong marriage several times. For some reason, giving her control of everything sexual, turned things around for us. It has been a slow process, but has made all the difference for us. She has grown sexually so much in the last few years. It has been beautiful to witness.

 

My wife freaked out and hide the key/ lock to my cage. now I self lock when she isnt around and put the key and lock back before she comes home. My sex life is very mush as you discribed

 

Hello, welcome. I’m also new here. I’m in the U.K. thank you for sharing

 

Interesting

 

Yep they say the average wife has a interest in sex , the same or similar you had when dating only between 1 to 4 years into a marriage, After a while most don't give a shit about it. They would rather watch re runs of Friends or ER than please their husband. Mines exactly the same , puts in bare minimal effort, 95% of the time. Gets treated like a protected species by me...
She cums 90% of the time we have sex ,but if her tiny mind isn't interested then back luck its not happening.

 

Welcome. I think the others have pretty much said it all. It's taken me a while to sort out a satisfactory device. If you can manage to get your wife to bear with you until you find a device you can wear easily through the night, then persuade her to hold the key for just a few nights, if you are lucky she might find she likes the new you. You might find yourself more energetic and relaxed as well.

All I can say is to wish you the very best of success.