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    #1 Thjeepster, Jan 5, 2020
    Hello everyone
    We my gf and I have been practicing honor system chastity where I’m not wearing a cage but I don’t masterbate.

    We have used a cage on and off in the past year. My shortest time was 24 hours my longest was 3 weeks.

    My question is we are getting married soon and it will be on a cruise. We will not be sharing our room the night before and I will be going out with the guys and drinking.

    I know when I go back to sleep in one of their room I will be very tempted to jerk off my last time being single. (Before meeting her I jerked off twice a day and she caught me a few times and hates me touching myself)

    Last time we fooled around I blurted out while I was horny and getting blown that I will probably be so horny the night before the wedding I will probably jerk off...
    She was not amused and stopped blowing me and said you best not. I was like it’s my last time being single.

    What should I do?
     
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    #2 Byrdie, Jan 5, 2020
    Consider: your even mentioning the idea that you were considering jerking off stopped intimacies with your wife. What do you think her finding out that you actually did so despite her specifically telling you not to do so will bring about?

    If you're using chastity and haven't been masturbating, you've pretty much already handed over control of your orgasms to her. Is one last wank really worth a rocky start to your marriage?
     
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    #3 Thjeepster, Jan 6, 2020
    I’m not saying I will definitely but I will be kinda drunk and I get big time horny when I do

    Should I bring my cage?
     
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    #4 HappilyLockedMan, Jan 6, 2020
    Yes, Yes, Yes.

    Bring your cage.

    Use your cage.
     
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    #5 Thjeepster, Jan 6, 2020
    So do I put it on before we go out separate ways that night? Do I tell her and give her the keys?
     
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    #6 MissyB, Jan 6, 2020
    I think it would be sweet to give her the key before the wedding. If you've already worn it for more than a week, do it early. That way she knows you'll be good and ready on your wedding night.
     
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    #7 Thjeepster, Jan 6, 2020
    But how would I get the key from her before the wedding?
     
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    #8 Audrey_CD, Jan 6, 2020
    You only need the key on your honeymoon.
     
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    #9 Thjeepster, Jan 6, 2020
    But idk if I want to be locked on my wedding day.
     
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    #10 corsac, Jan 6, 2020
    Ask her if she would like you locked for the night before and during the ceremony. She should have the final say I’d imagine.
     
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    #11 kelly_kali_girl, Jan 6, 2020
    Easy. Ask her what she wants you to do. Do that. Start the marriage right. Doing what she says.
     
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    #12 Skyhigh, Jan 6, 2020
    Don't think so much. If you are not sure, ask her and let her decide. Don't do anything yourself, and don't lie. Always the truth No matter how osinful and embarrasing it is.
     
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    #13 Skyhigh, Jan 6, 2020
    spot on!
     
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    #14 Thjeepster, Mar 8, 2020
    Well my wedding on the cruise is happening in the next 30 days.

    I haven’t worn the cage much in the past couple months. A few days here and there.

    I’ve been masturbating a lot more lately and also had a few wet dreams where it wakes me up in the middle of the night with a warm feeling in my underwear.

    I don’t know what to do.
     
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    #15 jvabox, Mar 8, 2020
    Wow what's to consider .. tell her you love her and offer her the keys let her decide and if she tells you to lock go for it it's a dream come true what you cant go a couple days with out masterbation save that load for her . If you are lucky you will only get to please her on your wedding night it may change your life
     
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    #16 MissyB, Mar 8, 2020
    Well I think it is up to you. We can offer advice and opinions, but if you can't make a decision or ask her to make one, then it will be status quo. In any case, good luck.
     
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    #17 Thjeepster, Mar 8, 2020
    I want to stop masturbating but need her help.

    I’m conflicted about the cruise and wedding
     
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    #18 MouseTee, Mar 8, 2020
    @Thjeepster : What is actually the problem?
    Why don't you give her the keys the day before your marriage and let her decide when you'll be released? Let her do the thinking.

    Succes!
     
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    #19 John, Mar 8, 2020
    Don't touch yourself...stay pure for your wife :D
     
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    #20 jemima, Mar 8, 2020
    I wud ask Her what you shud do then you wont get in trouble.
     
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    #21 tomf_22033, Mar 8, 2020
    So how did it go?
     
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    #22 filltee, Mar 8, 2020
    I wonder why you are confused>

    Why on earth would you be getting yourself in a quandry over this when there may not even be an issue?

    Ask your Lady if she would like you to be locked from now until you are married and tell her after which time you fully expect to have no say in the matter, such future choices about your state of denial or being locked or not are all hers.
     
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    #23 Thjeepster, Mar 13, 2020
    Looks like it’s off.

    The cruise has been cancelled. We might plan it at the end of summer now.

    I just wish she was more into telling me. I need her to be more controlling of my penis.

    I used to have a huge problem masturbating, years ago I would do it 3 times a day. Now that we have been together it’s only like three times a week. But once we get married I want to stop but I’m weak. I need her to help but she hasn’t gotten into it much. Months ago when I was wearing she liked knowing I had it on but didn’t enforce it and I gave up do to lack of help.
    Now I’m all stressed about the cruise and wedding being off all I want to do is masturbste. It helps release tension.

    So confused.
     
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    #24 Alana, Mar 13, 2020
    It sounds to me like you already made the decision that you want your future wife to control your O's
    It also sounds like she is not amused by your masturbation habit, and that you don't trust yourself not to masturbate if you've been drinking.

    This sounds to me like the perfect recipe for chastity, ...so why the conflict?

    Lock up and offer her the key. ...If she doesn't want to accept the Key, you can always use a timesafe.
    You can set the timesafe to unlock before the ceremony if you feel that is appropriate.

    ...But DON'T start your marriage off on the wrong foot. She has told you already she does not want you to masturbate before the ceremony. Is a quick wank really worth her disapproval? Or worse, starting off your marriage with a fight?
     
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    #25 Thjeepster, Mar 13, 2020
    Thank you for the help!

    Problem is now the wedding has been postponed and we have to reschedule for probably another 5 months.
     
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