New Wife and New Life

Chastity can be a good solution to a cheating problem. Best of luck to you!

 

A secure cage is a good thing for any marriage. Not only with your issues with him but, stopping masturbation and turning his focus on you.
I masturbated too much. Not anymore!

Good luck and welcome!

 

I’m very sorry to hear that your husband hurt you this way.

Although I don’t believe that chastity can fix a broken marriage, it is a way for him to atone for his past mistakes. I also want to say that forgiving his behaviour does not make you weak or gullible. It makes you strong…and his agreement to be chaste is his way of admitting to you he lacks strength. I think he might be trying to grow for you…and in a way that is evidence that he really loves you.

As you enter this lifestyle, please remember not to get absorbed into his kink and fetish. Remind him politely that you call the shots and that his chastity isn’t just another scenario in his life where women do his bidding. In other words, he has to de-centre himself….something I often fail to do myself…


I Hope the very best for both of you.

 

Welcome to our community. I hope you find it helpful and good luck.

 

Hi there and welcome to the mansion!

 

Good luck

 

that last part about chastity not being “another scenario… where women do his bidding” is a very wise insight, thank you for expressing it so clearly.

 

Two observations:
1) the cage itself doesn’t ensure his faithfulness but his commitment to wearing it shows his sincere motivation to change. In a way there is only the honour system, with the cage as a helpful obstacle to acting on dishonourable impulses.
2) It’s unfashionable nowadays to see masturbation as anything but harmless fun but it’s really not. Dopamine addiction is a powerful thing, especially in a world saturated with sexual stimulation. Just as constantly watching TikTok leads to a dwindling attention span, masturbation can lead to disinvestment in real relationships.

 

Welcome to the mansion

 

An habitual cheat will always be just that. He may have held onto a key before handing a bunch to you, throw those keys away and choose your own lock and keys or suitable numbered seals that will need to be broken in order to remove his device. I wish you well.

 

I have to admit that I am a bit torn on the best way to reply. First off, I am the disgraced husband this Queen speaks of. I am not proud of what I have done and I can not make excuses for what is in the past. The advice to have doubts and not fully trust me is probably good advice but I can assure her and all her, when I handed her all the keys, she held them all. Now, with the upgrade to my new cage, it was keyed different than any other lock I have gotten. She has one on her key ring and she let me hold on to the second till I was sure this cage and ring fit. It does and a few days ago I gave her that key and she now holds the only ones that fit this lock.

Ruffian, my Ice Queen, I love you and swear this is how I feel and I will do everything in my power to make up for my past. These past few weeks have been some of the best weeks we have had in a long time and my only intention is to continue to put you first and pleasure you in every way that I can.

 

Hmm. When things aren’t as sweet, what’s to stop you slipping out of the base ring and knocking one over someone online?

Get booked into that piercing shop!

 

Please, don't give her that idea! But if she asked(or told) I would would be compiled to give that a lot of thought.

 

Hi Claud_Bear you May be wearing a chastity cage now and you might have told your wife that you are sorry but you have hurt her and that is something that cannot be undone. So that must to be tackled first before you and your wife move forward.

 

I wish my wife would ask me to get a PA. I've been wanting one for years but vanilla wife won't go for it!

 

I honestly believe, if anyone needed a PA… it would be in this scenario. Imagine how secure your wife would feel knowing you’ve made the ultimate commitment.

 

Oh yes it’s the only way to go

 

I would think she would want to be present to watch him get his piercing.

 

In your situation chastity isn't the cure, you both have to want to save your marriage. From what you say that's obviously the case. Chastity is certainly a good tool to use in making your decision to stay together more likely to succeed.

Even without a PA, a chastity cage is like a wedding ring... it's a constant reminder that you made promises and should be devoted to that single person. It's more difficult to be unfaithful wearing it than when you're not. I could easily defeat the lock on my cage. I never have and except in a genuine emergency I most likely never will, even if only for my own self respect in making the decision to wear it for her.

 

I think if the aim is genuinely to show that you are not ever going to be unfaithful the way to go is a wide gauge piercing and a cage that can be anchored using a separately purchased, high security padlock, and you never have access to a key or the serial number.

 

We are in a really good place and we are enjoying this ride chastity play has put us on. We are communicating more and having much more intimate time with each other then we have had in years. Our situation is very complicated but we have made it through and are stronger or it. I don't think we are at the point of poking holes in my junk but again, if that is something she wants to talk about, I'll try to be open. But come on guys, help a brother out. She is already all sorts of ideas from the mansion.

 

I suppose my only concern (if I try to look at this from your wife’s point of view) is that you still seem to be seeing it as “your” penis rather than hers. Perhaps that’s the root of the problem…