Glad you’re open minded enough to give it a try. Still struggling a bit with my other half. Need to get her reading some of these articles.
Thanks yall. So I sent my verification in. Hopefully I'll be verified soon. My next question is, what are some good punishments ? I dont like anything that takes away the manliness from my guy.
So you're saying you kind of manipulated him into chastity as a "new game" without telling him about the potentially increased submissiveness that would make it more difficult for him to change his mind about it?
Ah so many choices . Make him sleep on the floor at your feet, but unless your really annoyed let him have a thin blanket as it gets cold in the early hours most times of the year. CP from a hairbrush over the knee (humiliating position) to paddles,crops,canes and whips largely on order of the severity of the instruments used. Keep a record of things done you don't like and have a weekly or fortnightly punishment day when things are adressed. Add protocols or rules he must follow for a while as punishments ie not allowed to sit or lie down in your presance without permission, have him do increased household chores whilst you take it easy, kneel whenever you enter the room. just a few ideas
Welcome to CM. I am sure that you will enjoy your visits here. Please do keep us all updated on your journey
Welcome to CM, @MrsT ! Open communications are the key to FLR working out, IMHO. You might also "encourage" him to join CM so that he can read and learn new techniques and tip to better please you - without you having to proactively direct him. Best Wishes in your FLR.
I'd second what Donna Sue said about communication and letting him be on CM. You might want to limit his participation on the site initially, so he isn't privy to your posts. I think keeping what you learn secret from him might heighten his enjoyment. Perhaps have him read posts to you, so you know what he's looking at. As far as punishments, I always felt mixing pain and humiliation was a good approach. Not a lot of pain, just enough to catch his attention. My first wife used this once in a while, like when I did a poor job ironing. She had me pull my panties down and hold up my skirt, while standing by the ironing board. She then spanked me and I had to stand there, my red cheeks exposed for 30 minutes. After that I never rushed my ironing ever again. But mainly you have to find what works for you, customize it, to suit your needs. If you're keeping him masculine, then find what his weaknesses are, and exploit it to your (and his) advantage. Remember the goal is to encourage him to serve and please you. If your happy then he will be too.
And,@MrsT , you will notice a new post on here about the psychological aspects of the Domme/sub and FLR relationship. Sometimes, just a nod or a look is enough "direction" to let me know how my actions have been viewed and I will alter my behavior accordingly - without a word being spoken by Her. She can torment me with a simple word or a mention of something and I will find myself thinking about it for the rest of the day. Your "Control" as KH need not be loud, outspoken or even physical. I find Her psychological torments to be more effective and long lasting! Once you have your hubby focused on pleasing you, it will become increasingly easy for both of you to adjust. But, as always, open communications is paramount.
Welcome to the Mansion. I also began by reading an article, my wife was septic and does not thinks it could ever work. After 2 years she find life a lot better and would not reverse it. Everything has improved for her in all the aspect of life and for myself I like in a kinky world , a real life fantasy that fulfill me. Her name is Phebusa, she is on the forum. I can give advice (as many here) to you husband, feel free to let him come here, he will have plenty of questions to asks.