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    I dont want to sound bullish but I have a strong opinion on what being in a chaste situation means, if you can easily pull out and slip back in to whatever you are locked in then how can you call it locked in chastity, surely you are doing it of your own free will, why not just promise not to touch yourself it would be just as secure in your mind ( not secure in anyway) and your wife/kh knows you would never ever cheat ( ha, ha,ha) so why not play the game for real ?
     
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    There's no right or wrong way to practice chastity. It's about whatever works for the people involved
     
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    So some think chastity is a mind game and not a case of even if you wanted to you could not, seems to make a lock pointless.
     
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    I stand by my original post. Chastity is about what works for the people involved.
     
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    @steph17 is both right and wrong… everyone can, and often do have varying definitions of “what chastity means” to them. I subscribe closer to what the OP posted, and that’s why I’m pierced and the cage isn’t removable without the key or some serious damage to mr happy. (Or power tools but that’s a big hell no).

    For most it’s the denial and control aspect that “gets us off”…again there are varying degrees and definitions on what that means too. None are exactly right and none are exactly wrong for all.
     
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    I just managed to work myself free from the ropes and chains where I was bound in the sewer, forced to subsist only human excrement, and ...
     
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    You certainly do sound bullish.
     
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    Thread closed.
     
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    100%agreed, you are spot on.
     
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    Define “real”. For every possibility.

    Short of a PA, a chastity cage is very symbolic, much like a wedding ring. If you have made a commitment, what is your word worth?

    I think you have been around here long enough to know the answer to your question.
     
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    Sits down with a big bucket of popcorn, to watch.
    On side 1 Holier than though your chastity isn't real but mine is.

    Side 2. Chastity is whatever you and your key holder makes it
    My money is on the real people who make it what they want not some pompous persons opinion.
     
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    Each to their own.
     
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    Dude, there are different levels of security.

    I am inclined to agree if you can flop it out then you may as well not be wearing a device.

    If you are interested in chastity then its YOUR JOB to make it secure as humanly possible.

    Its taken me 13 years to be finally satisfied that it is as secure as can be.

    Sure I can slide a screwdriver under the brass tab and break it any time I want, but then my partner would know.

    There is NO WAY I can pull out of my device without my partner knowing period.

    I can not orgasm without my partner PERIOD, UNLESS I went and bought another another of her wands and that would be like premeditated murder.

    So there is elements of the mind here as well, you can make chastity the ultimate discouragement, but in the end it is still a matter of choice. We all have our weak moments. When i have mine I am glad (and at the same time really pissed off) that I am locked. Breaking the lock is something I wont do.
     
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    IB-Chaste Chastity Superman.

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    Exactly right! That why I’ve superglued my butt hole shut! If I can play with my prostate it’s not REAL chastity.
    I assume you’ll be doing the same…
     
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    I'm with you. Except I'll add it's also where you are on your journey. To a beginner a few hours of being locked up is exciting and edgy. To many with years of experience it's quaint. To the old hardened longtime hard core maniac it's 100% escape proof and nothing less is ok.

    I exaggerate and generalize to make a point and be humorous, but we are all different. And no one is the authority. I've voted for Ms @L-u-c-y to be dictator but she hasn't taken control of this mess of a planet yet. So we're stuck as is for now! (More attempt at humor)
     
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    I’ve worn a wedding ring for over 31 years and managed to keep my vows somehow, I think I can handle wearing a cock cage and telling my Wife my erections and orgasms are hers to control and have some self control.
    But to each their own lol, if one can’t control the need to fondle one’s self, I hope they’ve secured any vibrators and possibly even the washing machine?
    And IB-Chaste is correct, better secure that hole with access to the prostate immediately!

    And has anyone addressed what happens when your caged, pierced and have a spontaneous spurting event? Is that time for full manhood removal at that point?
    These threads are entertaining at least :)
     
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    The eye of the beholder. If it doesn’t feel real without security then it doesn’t feel real. Nothing wrong with that. It’s certainly not for everyone, and how they feel about it is what matters.

    It might even be different between the partners. I was content to have a normal cage. We did this for several months. She asked if I needed to be unlocked to clean or anything. I said no, I can pull it out the top and get to it pretty easily. She said “you mean u can just pull it out?!” I said yeah it’s very squishy. She looked dejected. I said short of a piercing to attach to the cage, you can do that with every cage”. Her next statement was probably the one that I’ll never forget. She said “when can you make the appointment?”

    It didn’t matter to me, but to her it did. She was the same way with me having a spare key. She said “it doesn’t matter if I’ll know if you use the key, I don’t want you to have the option”.

    Now that we have done this for 7 years now, i don’t even think about it, and would probably be just as chaste with the honor system…but she prefers me locked.

    Not sure why this same right/wrong, real/fake, obtuse view always keeps coming up.
     
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    Little people with big egos is why.

    loOk aT mE I'm dOinG chAStITy diFferEnTLy sO ALl oF yoU aRe wRonG anD Im riGhT waaaaahhhhhhh
     
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    I think someone has had a bad month and is a little grumpy. :oops:
     
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    I'd be grumpy too, if my butthole were superglued shut :p
     
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    #22 steph17, Jan 30, 2023
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    I just think a few people have lost the plot and flung the toys out the pram, so to speak, it does seem that if you think being locked and chaste is out of the locked persons control then you are doing it wrong,it does not make any sense to apply a lock to the situation, it is not the meaning of chastity (I have had enough) that is just the start when you want out, some people really need to think about why a lock is involved.
    But there seems to be so many people against my thoughts on this I must be wrong?????.
    Dream land and fantasy are so far apart from reality.
     
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    Calling the way that people like to practice chastity "wrong" is exactly why you have had the responses you have. If you fail to see that, I think you need to find another forum to post in.
     
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    Although, I actually agree with what you’re saying. ‘What’s the point in locking if you can get out anyway’…
    There has to be some realism to this. Even if you had the cage surgically grafted to your penis you could find a way to orgasm. So yes, the lock could be deemed pointless in one persons mind, but so could the cage in another's. There has to be a certain level of submission to make it work.
     
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    Yeah it was like that with the steelheart, I showed her how fast I could pull it out and put it back in while I was flaccid, Even though through the use of a titanium urethral insert I had devised a system where I could not get it back in without her knowing....She said "fix the tether"

    She doesnt want me to be "able' to pull out, and now I cant pull it back more than a 5mm
     
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