Our chastity and denial has evolved into me being locked up all week and then released on the weekends. This works best for her as she likes to have full access to me all weekend long and still keep me from taking matters into my own hands on the weekdays. Well this past weekend she came down with the flu and didn't feel like doing anything, including unlocking me. So hear I sit Monday morning going on week two. This is the first time I will be locked for two weeks straight and can only imagine what I will be like come Saturday. It's going to be a long week but I want to make sure when Saturday cums that she gets the most out of me being locked up for two weeks straight.
I think that's one of the situations where partners start to see the benefits of chastity Weekends used to be our only time for sex, but when she got her period, she'd still perform duty releases for me (HJ and BJ). When we started chastity, the sense of obligation for these was removed and we'd just go about our day. Now, when she does HJ or BJ, it's because she wants to, on her terms.
We use to use chastity as an enhancement for sex. would be locked up on a Friday, teased all day Saturday while doing errand or by the pool, and released at night for sex. Then it became lockup on Sunday evening and release on Saturday evening. Over time it extended to 2 weeks at a time and the beginning of observing Lent and Locktober. Once she sees you handle 2 weeks at a time, your schedule may change as well.
like you, we too started off with weekend ‘releases’ - her preference - but my first full fortnight was a big surprise after we had a row on the middle Friday … <makes mental note>
In my case the longer I lasted the more she wanted till I got so use to having it on it felt abnormal when it did come off.
Same here. It’s a strange feeling to be unlocked. Since Christmas Eve I have only been unlocked for 4 hours on January 6th. That was 24 days ago. The plan was 1x month but, she didn’t say when. Last weekend she said Valentines Day was coming up
@Coffeeandcaged You will be just fine - even if it ends up being 3 weeks. (says the person who's longest continuous lockup has been only 2 weeks) What helped me was to let go of trying to fit our arrangement into a schedule. Too many variables could set it a-kilter. Locked most days. Released most nights. That's about all I will let myself expect. But, I also expect that can change at a moments notice. The Unknown begins to bring its own comfort of sorts - at least for me. I am not a psychologist - so if anyone can figure that out, please let me know. Not a laughing matter but I found this quite funny! Thanks for the guffaw.
I'm sorry to hear she caught the flu. I work in retail and I can truthfully say that there's all kinds of bad stuff floating around, especially this time of year... I know you will do just fine going 2 weeks without being unlocked and I think you may even enjoy it, because I myself found that going a couple weeks without orgasm makes me very horny and it also gives me major "T" boost and I have alot more energy from it. I think you should try it more often to see if you like 2-week lockups better than single-week lockups. You never know until you try and sometimes it takes an unforeseen situation to make us try something new.
Longer lockups seems par for the course. After some working up to it for me two weeks is for now about the ideal time. Long enough to want to climb the walls to cum but not so long I despise it.
Enjoy it, this is pretty much how we have run it, we dont always see each other so sometimes a week goes to 2 or 3. Recently she has started to not always unlock and just have her pleasure which is hot but she feels guilty about keeping me locked sometimes which im trying to change.
Congratulation! You both are getting into this game. How on earth do you know she will unlock you next weekend? Enjoy chastity, thats what you were dreaming of.
I just got through a 12 honorable denial. By day 12 I was feeling like Superman in the gym and I had incredible focus and energy. After my release I felt ruined and acted like I was on my period. I’m now 3 days into my current denial cycle and my goddess does encourage edging but no ejaculation. Edging just seems to make me want to cum quickly so Im better off just completely refraining. My goddess plans to deny me for 24 days this cycle but im gonna try to negotiate a birthday release.
My longest was 23 days and energy levels through the roof but duty called to satisfy my queens request and the feeling was gone… lock back up and start over … so that’s the cycle that’s what keeps me going and it’s the way she wants it, I’m at her beck and call. I guess you could say she owns me.
It's probably not so much to do with not knowing, as not having, or even being able to have the responsibility or option of deciding when you're going to be unlocked. You know that being locked has it's benefits, so does your keyholder, so having given the decision making to your keyholder, you can no longer "fail" by deciding to unlock yourself. The comfort may come from knowing that giving control to your keyholder ensures success.
I had a similar experience - my KH usually allows me release of some kind every couple of weeks, it's usually a ruined orgasm, but even that does release the tension somewhat and resets my libido. Due to illness and life getting in the way, she left it for 5 weeks - about half way in (maybe three weeks) the horniness began to ebb away to a background level and I started feeling really good. It's difficult to describe, but I all but stopped craving a release and instead actively didn't want anything to stop the feeling of being at ease that abstinence brought with it. I was also much happier and less irritable, which pleased Her no end. The other thing that was odd was that instead of an orgasm, I was really craving impact play - more than usually, the endorphins released by being restrained and paddled seemed to give as much pleasure as an orgasm, but without the psychological aftereffects. YMMV, but I would seriously suggest you try extending your lock up to four weeks or more and see if it benefits you both. We still do extend my lockup periods from time to time, but She loves PIV and one thing often leads to another...