We are having a bit of an issue on the mental aspect of a FLR as she is having trouble taking mental control. The physical part is going well. Does anyone have suggestions other than my being patience and supportive? Any good books or articles?
Yes, if you want a less kinky version of male chastity, there are two pretty good books, both on Amazon. One is locked in Love. The other is "Male Chastity for Modern Lovers". Both are written in a kind and loving way to help have a better relationship with your wife by controlling or eliminating masturbation. By eliminating male masturbation, your attention will turn toward her. Both books are really good.
I disagree, I think she is trying to do what you want her to do... and it isn't a natural thing for her. That isn't a FLR. If I were to give her any advice it would be to mold the relationship as YOU see fit. If you want to give your partner some leverage, that is your decision that you are making. Honesty and communication go a long way.
You do both have to consider that you are going against a lifetime of patterned behaviours in your relationships that have been ingrained in you over a lifetime. Her as a typical female, you as a typical male. Now the roles are reversed and She is not exactly sure what to do with that. It happens (I think) quite often. It's good that you are looking to educate a bit more. We did a couple's book by Georgia Ivey Green we found on Amazon, called Setting up a successful FLR. (Something like that) and it breaks down 7 areas of control in a household and allowed my Goddess to identify which things, if given the chance, She would want to control. Things like sexuality, finances, large decisions, small decisions, chore delegation. It gave it all a voice to work towards. We are in a wonderful FLR six months later and still go through this on both sides. Sometimes I am not in a place where submission comes naturally too. Stick together, talk about things, love each other, and continue to put effort in and the results will trickle in until they get to where you would like to see them. Most of all, have fun. M.
I think you have to seriously ask her if she's enjoying it. And if she isn't I think you need a long conversation about whether to continue it. If she is enjoying it then discuss what, for each of you, is going well and what could be developed. Don't allow it to get into a blame game though. good luck