Male virgins?

how horrible.

 

I’m sure there are many reasons a man may retain virginity into his 20s. What I write next won’t apply to everyone, could be generally wrong, and may not be so applicable to young people. With those cavities, I suggest that sex is not that important to someone who remains a virgin into their 20s. As an earlier poster put it, locking a randy cock may create much greater frustration.

Take me. I love PIV. It is absolutely the best. Because I know that, taking it away from me is a bigger loss. That is what makes chastity hot for me.

M, my partner, likes PIV too. It is really her favorite. Often she will use numbing and condoms (one, the other, or both together) so that she can have PIV. I’m not totally missing out but, especially with both, I’m not getting much pleasure. Possibly this is as frustrating as not getting any.

Occasionally M will let me have PIV with out any obstructions. I always find that I’ve forgotten how fantastic it feels. I can adapt to the new norm of diminished pleasure. Often these reminders are limited to 3 strokes. I find that reminders refresh the sense of deprivation.

There is a version of this fantasy where the guy is put in chastity BEFORE they beating their sex life. Before they are able to experience anything, it is taken away from them. This allows for taking total control of a guy’s sexual experience for their whole life.

I’ve been an inversion of the locked version scenario. Frustrated, I find more women sexually attractive. I think about how enjoyable it would be to have sex with them. This is really just me wanting satisfying sex, which M does not allow. I imagine that M discovers these women. Some are interested. M invites them to come have sex with me. I’m tied up and all the techniques that prevent me from enjoying sex are used. I get to have sex with more women than I ever expected, but I never really get to “have” them, it is just barely pleasurable, and never, ever satisfying.

To be clear, that is just a fantasy and I doubt M is interested. It strikes me as an inversion of the virgin fantasy.

 

I was a virgin until I was 33. I often tell to on-line acquaintances I hope I still was, and that I feel I wouldn't have missed anything if that was the case. When I was 18 or so I was ready to die a virgin. Girls seemed completely unattainable to me and the whole idea of getting a girlfriend was simply preposterous.

Truth to tell, when it comes to traditional male to female vaginal intercourse I really don't get what the big thing is supposed to be. This is partly due to the fact I had already started to become impotent, thanks to type one Diabetes, when I met my first girlfriend. That fact was a huge issue to her for whom sex was all about intercourse, with no funny business thank you. I have been expected to perform vaginal intercourse a few times during my life, but it has never felt it is something I should be doing.

I don't look hideous, and I have no problem talking to women, but I feel approaching them romantically would be wrong of me, and a waste both of our time. I am well aware there are other ways to make a woman orgasm, but the whole thought of finding a girl you really care and vice versa, and then having to say to her: "Oh, by the way, I can't get it up, I hope it's not a problem to you?" is just too dreadful.

In a way I still am a virgin, inside my head that is, and most likely I will always be.

 

Virgin here, self locking for as long as I can. Interestingly, admitting one being a virgin in front of friends is super embarrassing, however, it feels hot as a chasted boy here. Hell, it even makes me wet hearing the fantasy of enforcing a male virgin in permanent chastity!

 

Virgin here, locked by my self and have found a master so i dont think i will lose my virginity. I want in permanent chastity

 

Yep! Virgin and locked here! Maybe I'll find a dominant woman someday. Who knows though, she might want to keep me a virgin!

 

As most people have said, there are 2 sides to the coin.

First is, you cant miss what you have no idea of. If you do not know how it feels to have your cock inside a woman's pussy, you wouldnt miss it when you are locked. Getting locked from a very enjoyable sex life focussed on PIV intercourse is a major drive for most men involved in chastity.

On the other hand, there are very little number of people who would want to take the other route. Extremely submissive males, with some kind of sexual dysfunction like micropenis or ED might readily accept chastity as a virgin. But in today's digital world people are well informed of sex and porn and kinks. Guys grow up watching cocks ramming pussies and dream of doing that themselves one day. And men are more visually oriented. So, denying a man of that possibility can be a hot thing, especially from a third person's perspective. Alternatively, it can be presented to him as some kind of big reward. Maybe an age criteria or relationship wise.

And there is the thing that the concept of virginity is mostly based on PIV intercourse. Which is a small part of the sexual spectrum. A man can be pleasured in plenty of ways besides intercourse and they are easily satisfied. So, virgin chastity also depends on the partner. If she is not a big fan of PIV or if she is a hotwife, it will be easier to make it happpen.

 

Possibly of interest to all you virgins: I've just posted a second chapter to 'A Useful Husband' in Member fiction. Peter is a virgin but Mistress Jenny does not know yet. When she finds out, she decides to have a deflowering ceremony but then her femdom sisters suggest another option...

 

Hello everyone, thank you for interesting stores and advice in this thread.

So this is a bit of a long post I am afraid. So I am a virgin never kissed a girl etc etc you probably have heard to story many times. I have always been interested in femdom and purchased a cage and some anal toys over lockdown. I also joined this site and have found it very useful I do feel grateful for the Friendly community here.

I decided to give it a break late in 2020 and try and go on some hing dates to try something new and see how it goes. First date went well she practacly dragged me back to here place that my arm hurt the next day. Nothing happend because I had no idea what I was doing just cuddled spooning and sleeping together. Which I really enjoyed but she ghosted me shortly afterwards I think because I was over texting her.

I had some other walking dates following Covid rules which went okish but we stopped seeing each other. I had a date recently which went really really well and we have a 2nd date of crazy golf next weekend. I am hoping to have a first kiss maybe but only if it feels right. I won't say anything about my inexperience yet maybe on the third if the conversation come up maybe. But I am just wondering when is good time to say I am interested in femdom and chastity if there is ever a good time?

If anyone one else has been in a similar situation?

Apologies for the long post any advice would be appreciated hope you have a good day all

Regards

 

I was a virgin until the day I got married. My wife, as I would find out 9.5 years later, was a closet lesbian and hated having sex with me. The idea of penetrative sex with a man made her skin crawl, and yet she married (long story if you haven’t already heard it, we’ve had a really weird marriage).

At the same time, I had been battling with gender dysphoria my whole life, and found the genital part the worst. Sex was very psychologically and emotionally difficult for me. The feeling of that thing being there and doing what it did felt so alien and uncomfortable, yet orgasm did provide pleasant sensations.

Through a combination of my own growing displeasure with using my appendage for sex and my wife’s hatred of penetrative sex, I was ready to stop using the thing after six years of marriage. We had average sex 2-3 times per year up to that point. I was the one who introduced a chastity device. I used to masturbate at the first feeling of an erection, because I hated the way they felt. I felt guilty about it (religious conditioning) but also really wanted something that would stop erections from happening.

I can’t say that chastity devices really stopped erections from happening altogether, but it was a big step in the right direction. My wife also found that she enjoyed being physically intimate a lot more with me being locked. We had three years of fair happy sex life, with me having penetrative sex about every 8 months or so when I just couldn’t stand the sex drive anymore.

Then I hit brick wall at full speed with gender dysphoria. I’d hit my limit and couldn’t keep living like I was. I came out and started transitioning medically with hormone replacement therapy (HRT). HRT gradually reduced my libido to almost zero, and also greatly diminished erectile function. The last time I used my penis for anything sexual was February 24, 2018. That was the night our youngest son was conceived. It was also the last time I could get hard enough to penetrate my wife.

In February, 2021, I had bilateral orchiectomy surgery (removal of the testicles). I didn’t think it would have any impact on sexual function, I thought I had lost all of the erectile function that I was going to lose. Turned out I actually could lose a little more. Now that I am completely without balls, not just chemically castrated, I can’t get hard at all. Not even a little. Just a small amount of swelling of the penis when aroused, but not even enough that you would know I was aroused by looking at it.

I will definitely NEVER penetrate a woman again, ever. I have effectively become a virgin again and will stay that way. The only penetration I MIGHT ever experience is if I someday manage to have GCS (aka sex change surgery) and my wife decides to penetrate me with toys (very unlikely, I think she would feel as gross about penetrating me as she did about me penetrating her). Though I definitely would experience regular penetration via dilating (a practice of keeping the vagina from closing up after surgery) though that is not a sexual or fun practice.

 

It is a fantasy of mine but I would like to have a vinilla relationship first before a FLR, I do enjoy chastity but feel I need help with aftercare as I sometimes worry about these fantasys affecting my self esteem in life.

 

please i wudnt say them thingys to Her till you know Her a lot.

 

Thank you for the advice, really appreciate it I wasn't planning until we had been in a relationship for a bit. I really do not want to shoot myself in the foot bring this stuff up at the wrong time. I do feel like I have a good thing growing just some things take time

 

The presentation might be a bit wobbly but ignore the wisdom of precious jems at your peril.

 

Yep I understand, thank you all for your wisdoms

 

I’d give anything to get my virginity back....dammit

 

Was it a bad experience if you don't mind me asking?

I was very close to seeing an escort just before Covid but got cold feet and didn't go. I am glad I didn't go

 

No, my first experience was good. But I was older than most at that time to lose it. She was my kinky first too.....she took me in a limo on the way to the beach

 

I’m a virgin (21) I’ve always been a bit of a sissy into panties lingerie dildos buttplugs etc and I’ve always been worried about how a girl would react to my sissy side and it’s a part of me I don’t want to let go. I’ve only recently got into self locking and I’m loving it

 

I'm 45 and still haven't had PIV. I've decided that I'm going to remain a virgin until I die. I've gone too long without pussy and I'm just too old to bother anymore.

 

I'm still a virgin at age of 39, regardless of being tall, normal weight and fairly well off.
The problem is that I'm an introvert and the school most definitely wasn't the best time of my life. I don't easily let people get close to me and nowadays I do have couple of good reasons to not let random people just walk into my life from date sites and bars (which I don't like at all).

 

Celebrated another birthday! 35 and still a virgin here

Locked back up and in search of a keyholder

 

actualmete tengo 20 y en unos dias cumplire los 21 y todavia soy virgen, mas aun ni siquiera he besado a una chica, esto se debe mas que nada soy bastante introbertido y me cuesta sentime como con personas nuevas, actualmente no tengo una jaula de castidad por lo que mis periodos sin fap son complicados aunque ya tengo algunas jaulas que me interesan, he pensado que una ves termine la pandemia empesar a ir a eventos BDSM en mi ciudad para empesar a inbolucrarme mas en la comunidad y con suerte encontrar una KH. debo admitir que la idea que mi primera KH me mantengan virgen mientras se burla de mi es extremadamentre caliente y esta entre mis 5 fantacias favoritas

I am currently 20 and in a few days I will turn 21 and I am still a virgin, but even I have not even kissed a girl, this is due more than anything I am quite introbert and it costs me to feel like with new people, currently I do not have a chastity cage So my periods without fap are complicated, although I already have some cages that interest me, I thought that once the pandemic ended, I would start going to BDSM events in my city to start getting more involved in the community and hopefully finding a KH. I must admit that the idea of my first KH keeping me a virgin while she teases me is extremely hot and is among my 5 favorite fantasies

 

Fascinating story, and I wish you the best.

 

Thank you very much, I am quite excited to have my first cage and to be able to immerse myself more in this lifestyle and community