We’ve had threads about chastity becoming mainstream and why (some) want that to occur. But I would like to ask a different question: What happens if/when male chastity becomes vanilla? (or "normal" if that's the preferred word) This does NOT mean mandatory chastity laws, all men becoming slaves, or other things that are pure fantasy. I humbly ask we don’t derail the thread in that direction. This WOULD mean chastity being unremarkable, a lot of couples use it, maybe the majority. Everyone is at least aware it exists as a practice. Its treated the same as any other intimate topic, not something to bring up at the dinner table, but among adults talking about relationships it could be an unremarkable topic. Devices are sold or advertised alongside “vanilla” items like lingerie and lubricant that you would find in most places like. Its regular to see locked males during intimacy/nude scenes in movies, mini-series, at nudist beaches, etc and no one thinks anything of it. Do you think there would be any notable changes to society/culture if this were to occur? -- Personally I don’t think much would change. Male chastity seems to be promoted by some as a “fix all” especially for heterosexual couples. But there are so many more sources of tension in a relationship besides sex or power dynamics. Male chastity doesn’t resolve financial issues, solve the challenge of raising kids, or fix extended family drama. Maybe some men would behave better, maybe some women would feel more empowered, maybe some couples would be happier; but I don’t think if chastity was normal there would be any big change. Of course that’s just me, so what are your thoughts?
I can see chastity becoming used as a tool by therapists in the future to aid couples where the female may have a much lower libido than her partner or the male is a slam-bang thank you mam lover. It would be a way for the woman to control when and how sex happened and may allow the couple to have a better physical relationship. It is not a cure for a broken relationship but as an aide for sexual problems I think it could have a role to play. We just need some "Out of the Box" therapists to make it happen. It certainly helped us. I don't see it becoming mainstream as a kink or for promoting FLR.
*shrug* The main thing is that by being well known, it wouldn't be so challenging for some men to bring up the topic with their significant other ...
An excellent question. And I like how you carefully phrased it. I think once it became "common" something big would happen: Women in general would gain more confidence in matters of the sexual dynamic. I don't mean "dominant". But more confident. The hard penis seems to traditionally "demand" servicing. (I am speaking in the broadest terms here, and mean no value judgement on the statement.) Whereas a locked penis presents no such visible "need". In other words, I think a very large number of women would move from the "passive" end of the continuum towards the "active" end. Again, I don't mean dominant.....I mean active.
My kneejerk reaction to the question was; Not much would change. But then I thought about it a little. Perhaps women would feel safer around men. Maybe women might get more pay equality and better working conditions, etc. Might be less wars. I imagine more men would meditate, certainly more men would learn to cook and do massages haha. I imagine a lot of businesses that take advatange of male urges would go out of business (e.g. porn), and fresh new ones replace them (e.g. chastity device technonolgy). I'm pretty sure as a result of frustration issues everywhere would legalize weed. If it was mainstream more people might share the experience, pros and cons, such that the charlatans and fantasists are obvious to everyone.
I am being a bit humorous here, but I also think it would give men another way to compete with one another: "What? You only stay locked for one month? Wimp. I can go a lot longer than you."
haha, that's ture. It used to be me but I no longer want to be locked for longer than a month at a time ha!
If this is a serious question, then I would be worried about a serious backlash. The way society is today there could be a large, vocal ( and possibly violent ) group that would be VERY threatened by this 'assault' on their masculinity. I hope I am wrong
I hadn't thought of that ... but wow, you're almost certainly right. The crazies would jump on this as their next "cancel culture" moment.
It's a first world issue. There are so many parts of the world that don't treat women equally, whether that be actively (laws) or passively (cultural). Most intelligent folk in the rich west, like myself, probably now embrace, if not at least accept sexual equality. Men in these societies have had time to meditate on the changes in our own lifetimes, and think about our previously "given" conjugal rights, but most have not. I ramble, but my point is that we have a long way to go yet, though not perhaps as long in the secular west. Despite my awareness, I'm better caged. My animalistic self is better tamed than feral.
In public, chastity appears to be no more a topic of dinner time conversation as does anal rimming. But then, my wife enjoys both, she will occasionally talk about my chastity but in my presence she has never, and probably will never, utter the words "anal rimming". On that unrepresentative survey of one, chastity is far more mainstream vanilla than many other common sex topics!
The benefits would outweigh the disadvantages. Yes, there would be men by who is didn't like the course of events, but remember in the OP there was strictly no coercion. And there will always be malcontents: currently we have the incels. On the plus side, for many women the sexual dynamic would be framed in a much healthier and safer way.
One thing to consider is the fact that many women measure their desirability by their partner's ability to become erect. Erectile dysfunction adversely affects women too. If men couldn't become erect, a woman, and women, would have to measure her/their self worth in another manner.
I highly doubt women measure their self-worth by how many erections they ellicit. That sounds like a male fantasy to me.
It's a dick centric, penis pill peddling world that thinks women measure their self worth by how hard a dick is, lol. Penis pill peddlers all around the world celebrate ever time one of their adverts is seen as truth. Try dating women who know their self worth without a man even being around, and perhaps try dating women with a bit more depth.
Impact of erectile dysfunction (ED) on sexual life of female partners: assessment with the Index of Sexual Life (ISL) questionnaire https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/15205072/ Observe the related articles mentioned at the bottom of the article. Ever wonder why so many men on here can't get their partner to lock them up, even if they don't have sex? I am not saying this is the sole or primary reason, but an erection demonstrates a woman's desirability, regardless of whether she desires sex. A virgin making out with her boyfriend receives a clear indication of how he feels about her, admittedly a shallow one.
Well yes, everything has an impact. That wasn't the discussion. This was... I still maintain that women do not measure their self worth by the hardness of dicks. Well, maybe if they only see themselves as a hole to fuck then yes, perhaps you are right.
I think self worth is more likely to be related to self image, work and home life, but I can see that if ED isn't properly understood, that it could lead to feelings of inadequacy or unattractiveness in both partners. But we digress...So.... Male chastity becomes vanilla - what then?
if it becomes Vanillia or normal to you I would think that its because you were doing it for you instead of for her
That is a very interesting, and possible, outcome. For women to feel more at ease in a society where men are likely in chastity could be a game changer.
Sory being late for tis.. i think its great if d male chastity bcoms mainstream n not just som sex toys sold at sex fairs.. n yet many women wil frown upon such items at d 1st glance.. n tot oh… y..? I mean traditionaly d male virility is a celebrated cause.. n of course its marketing efect.. . but d reverse of it?? As in preventing even d male erection..? Its a paradigm shift n of course d mindset.. of maried couples or even about to get hitched couples to find d male chastity a reverse in roles between d male/female.. where d initiation of sex shifts to d female n d provider of sexual fervent lies with d male.. n if d concept caries further.. d male maynot benefit frm such intercourse.. such as orgasm denial.. n retention of semen/testosterone for other greater chanels.. i find it awe inspiring if the xchg of vows one day result in honour being dedicated to d female in regulating d sexual afairs of d male.. n surendering of his manhod..