Lifestyle Choices

Thanks Jasmic we are having an away weekend this weekend which I will post about shortly but I have been caged all week and Miss is looking to be far more controlling moving forward. We chatted on the way to our hotel and the rules look to have been really tightened up. My main news though was Miss now feels that I perform better if I am kept caged so her plan is just to keep me caged as much as possible moving forward with no set release schedule but I should expect months not weeks between releases. I am in awe. She has also stated that if I touch her without permission then I will earn a severe caning for our Lady and she will report me to ensure it effective. I am going to try really hard to avoid this but I love touching her I only hope she gives me permission soon. Last night was cuddled but I was not allowed to touch her even over her clothes. Ouch it's a challange. I will post the weekend later but it's pretty full on.

 

Ok we are back and it was a very interesting break. I was under instructions to follow the original protocols so when we left home I was dressed normally except for a pair of PVC pants as underware over the cage which had been on for 5 or 6 days. During the trip we did talk about a lot of things both FLM and normal. Regarding the weekend I was to be very submissive and not discuss anything nor give an opinion unless asked which we tried to stick to and that pretty much worked ok.
Second I was to wear a leotard as underwear using a thing backed on on Saturday whether in or out of the room. In the room I would wear whatever I had worn previously except when directed to change with a strip order being down to the leotard. Upon arrival I duly changed and after a short rest we went to dinner I had to wear a jumper to hide the strap lines but it worked ok. I should note that a tight leotard is not too comfortable for a lengthy period when moving about. On our return to the room I was told to strip and shortly after I was instructed to wear the skirt tha I had brought. Miss seems to like me in this it is quite short but purchased in my size and almost decent. Miss put on a short skirt and a teddy which was great but I did not know this until later as Miss made me wear a blindfold for most of the evening.We did have a lovely cuddle but I failed to get Miss going and was not allowed to touch her down below even over her clothes very frustrating so we eventually went to sleep however I was allowed to share the bed which was nice.
In the morning I was back in the skirt to make the the teas etc before breakfast and then had to put on the thong back leotard. This is ok as it's quite old these seem very hard to find and Miss really likes me in one ( I really like her in them as well but that's not happening at the moment.) We had breakfast and then went for a drive and some shopping which Miss enjoys much more than me. On the way back to the hotel I was advised that Miss has deliberately not brought the key as she felt that it was not a good start if I always got to make love on our anniversary which was both unexpected and rather hot. Miss also advised me of the base criteria for a chance of release which is good behaviour for at least a fortnight and Miss has to be in the mood and remember, I am not permitted to remind her nor am I allowed to ask. Wow that's pretty strict when Miss does not remember one week to the next. She went on to say that really she thinks two to four times a year is more appropriate but wants me better trained so she is using this to train me to behave how she wants, then it's up to her so it's a minimum of two weeks but really probably much longer. She also explained some of the things that I do differently when caged so in reality keeping me caged is the right thing for her to do.
Once we were back i was bakck in the skirt and we watched the rugby then dressed and went to dinner so nothing much. After dinner I was stripped into the skirt again and Miss rested for a couple of hours. I was then blindfolded and Miss changed into my favourite thing and a short dress. We cuddled and I performed much better eventually getting permission to go under the thong. I used every thing I could think of being very gentle and soft for ages and teasing both her clit and g spot gently aye was very turned on so I was able to give her oral on her clit and a finger or two on her g spot this really got her going and we spent what must have been a half an hour working in different ways until a got a bit firmer and eventually she came long and hard. I truly love being able to do this especially when locked with no way out its really hot and that makes the cage hurt where I try to get hard and squeeze the sack more than usual. It's well worth it. Once she came down I was told to get changed into a swimsuit and shorts again tight for the night. I was permitted to see her in the thong so that was great as well. From there it as a bit of an anti climax as we both had poor nights due to the bed and both woke up very sore and stiff. I was put in a thong and skirt for the day and kept in this with the exception of breakfast until we left, getting dressed was the last thing I was allowed to do.
Miss certainly has stepped up with the restart and she has said that now she wants this for her so I have created a beautiful Mistress to server I just have to learn how to serve and change some of my behaviour, which is what most of this is about. I do have to do a carry over punishment of cleaning our bathroom in a thong leotard and skirt this one is really tight so it is a punishment and I need to do it ASAP. I did manage to avoid any additional penalties which is always a good sign. Well it's off to sleep now sorry for the long update. Oh PS I no longer have weekly cleaning rights Miss will advise me when I can have the cage off for cleaning and it's likely to be longer than weekly and I must keep the stainless cage on until further notice.

 

Well after my last essay things are pretty normal I did get a session in with Miss on Thursdat night but nothing more than heavy petting. Miss in her leather shorts ( She is great in them but they are hard to get her going in) and me in PVC pants. Still caged and no views on getting out anytime soon in fact it's at least a week before I am even eligable so more time to focus on Miss. I am still trying to do the chores but with work and decorating it's tough.

 

Just another week really still locked well over two weeks with not even a clean. Miss has had me in the PVC panties quite a bit and Lycra shorts but nothing really apart from that this week. We have not even talked about anything. Life's feeling very hum drum right now I feel I need some excitement of some description but there nothing on the horizon not even much work really.
I suppose I am craving a distraction hopefully Miss will allow me to pleasure her soon.

 

Well it's still a normal life struggling with work and not getting any play time. We did manage a hot tub session and for the first time I got to play with Miss. She told me she nearly came which was awsome and she wants tokay this way again. One slight down side the hot tub is outside and it's cold at night this time of year a second is she says if she really gets to liking it that way then I can remain locked. I am not sure how to rationalise tha comment but Miss did let me know I have been good so I expect a release this weekend. Miss did suggest that I will have to clean up orally after every orgasm in future so we will see, still caged still in panties and still subservient so things are progressing somewhat. It just feels so slow but that probably just as I am so horny all the time now. On a positive note I have managed to not get the morning wood the last couple of days which means I am settling in to the cage. That took just under three weeks and I have not been let out at all now for a bit over three weeks so he is getting used to being small. I wonder what will happen this weekend will Miss actually let me me cum or even make me ? I hope so in some ways but it would be awsome if she let me out just to tease me then locked me back up again something she has never done. Just a point for any Mistresses out there looking for some hot tub action wearing a tight swim suit makes it very hard to get in right position for maximum pleasure giving I hope Miss will wear a bikini next time.

 

Ok it's not been the weekend either of us wanted, we both have a cold and felt pretty crap all weekend. So no play time Miss did however let me out for a clean on Sunday night and I was told to have a release. Miss felt that I had earned one by being good but that she was not up to providing it in any way, a real but understandable let down. She did say that Friday ish I may get a proper reward. So I am back in the steel cage cleaned and shaved then it was back to the swimsuit and shorts for the night.

I hate a cold but at least I am feeling better today I just need to keep doing what I have been and then improving. The colds put an end to any hot tub thoughts though over the weekend but when we both feel better we do still want to explore that some more.

 

Well I am glad the sites back up due to both of us being under the weather nothing is happening right now but we are both feeling better so soon. Miss let me out of the cage for a business meeting and I have been on trust ever since which has been fine. I am feeling much better now just a lingering cough etc so with a bit of luck it's back to our normal soon.

 

Ok we are both pretty much over the colds but now life is digging in I am likely to be working away for several months and Miss has hurt her neck so she wants another time out. I cannot say she is wrong but it feels like the lifestyle is slipping away. It always takes two and I am very lucky that Miss is willing and she has stated that it's a time out not an end so there is that. We're were doing so well but her health is an issue and she has had some bad falls recently but it's a real disappointment. I will continue to update but for now the just nothing happening or scheduled to happen. All the best everyone.

 

Just a thought as this is sort of my blog. Why am I so concerned whether I am in a cage or not it's Miss's choice not mine. In hindsight I think I have been over concerned about something we have agreed I have no say in.
That said we did manage a cuddle yesterday for the first I've in ages. I was not caged but in a thong back leotard and short skirt which Miss seems to like me in at least she selects if fairly often. I was unable to get Miss to peak but we or at least I did do my best but she was just into much pain, which is really our main concern right now due to her falls. Well she is seeing the specialist tomorrow and how soon things escalate will go from there. I still feel really lucky to have a partner willing and now wanting to develop this type of relationship. Miss even talked about working towards two or three orgasms a year for me in her words at most. Wow that's a challange I still struggle to go a week without but that's what the cage is for. We did try the hot tub as well but Miss found the lack of lubrication an issue but we had fun trying. Well back again soon.

 

Well I am locked agin but probably only for a few days I am due to start a new contract and we are agreed not to risk a cage until we know the situation as its with a large company. I will have to stay away all week but needs must. Miss does still want me locked and with the potential improved finances then a new custom cage is a distinct possibility, ideally Miss wants me locked unless she want to play. We did manage a cuddle just before I was locked again but it was very one sided as I was in a swimsuit and shorts so really only Miss had any stimulation. Unfortunately I failed to achieve our goal before her issues arose and it became too uncomfortable for her but we both enjoyed trying. Anyway the out come after our session was that I would server her for the week as a slave not just as an FLR which we do occasionally to step things up so the cage is mandatory in slave mode and I now wait to serve. Miss is getting much better at accepting a one sided session where it's all about her but she says she feels guilty, in her words as I rarely have any chance to get any any way when there is a chance she feels I should get it. We have discussed this and I am certainly not hoping to never have PIV but it should only be when it's what Miss wants so one sided is fine whether I am caged or not. This is slowly sinking in but Miss has eluded to a very long locked time to help her adjust. She is talking about in excess of six months probably over a year which scares me completely as if she decides on this then she will do it . In many ways this is what she needs to be confident but I like sex and do not want nothing for a year. That said its no longer my choice and if it's what she needs then I will have to comply but we are not there yet. Miss is not sure about where we are going with our Pro Domme as finances put a stop to any sessions over the last few months but she is thinking about it and will let me know. Reading back I do not seem to have made the changes Miss has which is really not what I expected but Miss is happier and content with this so that's ok. She always reiterates that she is committed to an FLR now and we just need to decide how that will finally look. In my view it's always changing so it's best to look at short ish term goals anyway. I think I have rambled enough for now all the best.

 

Ok tomorrow I am being let out ready for my new role as we do not know the security on the site. I have been caged for the last week which has been OK it's a little strange how at first it takes an age to get used to the cage but after a while even after a long time free you settle back in quickly. Miss has asked that i use the honour system frame Wednesday which is fine I am relaxed about using this as we have used it fairly often and it makes sense. Friday night was nice as Miss had me in PVC panties and a short skirt in bed and we played a little and cuddled ( caged of course) I got very turned on and Miss and I both had fun but nothing beyond a nice cuddle happened. We have one of the kids friends staying for a bit so that was the last chance for anything before I go away and it was good to have a cuddle.

Nothing but life happening really right now so there it is.

 

Sorry no updates for a while I am exhausted with the new job. It's only a six month contract but at present I away 5 days a week. In fact last weekend I managed to get in trouble for the the first time in a while. We had planned some us time and I was still unlocked but had been on the honour system for a few days so I should have been ready but I was just so tired. I wanted Miss to cum and I really tried everything I could think of for a couple of hours she was right on the edge but I could not manage to get her over it. Miss actually prefers this as an orgasm hurts her afterwards but she does enjoy it and it's been a while. Well after a while she asked me to make love to her and I refused not because it did not want to.but I simply did not want to hurt her and PIV is always painful to her, something we are working on and one of the reasons for having me caged. Anyway once we finished I had to agree that our rules state she is 100 % in charge when it comes to sex. We do have a fixed penalty for this but Miss has decided to think about how she wants to punish me. The fixed penalty is a trip to,our Lady for a caning and she is very severe. I hope Miss takes some pity on me as it was for her but on the other hand she should throw the book at me. I will not find out for a week or so and this work does remove the financial issues that prevented recent training sessions. I am nervous and we have agreed not to lock me for a couple of weeks to let me get used to the job but I must be on the honour system from every Wednesday until the cage goes back on. This is so I can get used to the hours and working away as well a ensuring that it will not be an issue where I work. That's it for now I will update with what Miss decides when I know.

 

Another fairly pointless update Miss is reviewing things in light of me only being home for 1 actual night a week due to late home and early off on the other days. All penalties have been dropped for now. I hope Miss has some thoughts moving forward as it feels very blah to me right now.

 

Things are starting to settle I am now home more than away but Miss is dealing with family issues and has little time for our project. That said she did say she would review our book of rules etc and then we would update them over the weekend. In addition she want me back in the cage at least part time soon.
I have not updated as life is pretty vanilla for a while now but I hope we start moving again soon, not feeling quite so blah now as Miss insists she is targeting full control of me over time but we will see.

 

Well I am really confused now, last night we had a great night lots of cuddling and Miss kept on edge for quite a while. I was blindfolded and Miss wore a great PVC thong that I simply loved touching. It was great. She got me hard and we made love. Then I got soft,we tried again same result so Miss gave me one more try. I was tired but should have really got going that said third times a charm and with a threat of a serious penalty for failure ( still undisclosed) I was told regardless I am going back in the cages straight after. Well the combination got me over the line, thank goodness and I thought well that's that. But now I am now back in the cage after several weeks out for however long Miss wants. She has not said anything but I may be locked for a few days weeks or months only she knows and right now I do not care as I am in that happy glow only 24 hours after having a great night.

Well I have no idea if this is back to our her plan or just a one off but I am back locked so soothing is happening.

That's all for now

 

Well it update time. Miss has said I am locked for at least the next two weeks. I am working away and locked since Friday but I have settled in quite quickly. I an as I said in the HT 2 and I have tried the heat trick to reset the cage which seems to work. Miss did confide that she still wants to move to a more in depth FLR but may not be ready yet as life continues to get in the way. I will find out in another week or so. I long for the collar and cuffs and do miss visiting our Lady. Regarding that Miss want to restart that now money is better and she has decided it would be good to start me back with a good spanking. Bearing in mind what happened the last two times I am very nervous about that but that's a few week away at least. I do not know if I can take what is likely to be 50 plus with the cane or strap and although safe wording is an option I am very committed to this so very unlikely to use that option I will just have to take it. Having to count. is I find really hard even without the extras this always adds.

Well that in the future and who knows Miss may take pity on me (not).