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Discussion in 'The Pedestal' started by RexVa, Aug 2, 2017.

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Does highest chastity device security make a better submissive?

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  1. Yes

    37 vote(s)
    84.1%
  2. Not necessarily

    7 vote(s)
    15.9%
  1. Well, it appears we have uninvited opinions, but at least they appear honest ("most" males will cheat/disrespect).

    Hope is given, but stimulation is earned --everyday.

    But most importantly, submission --yes, total (is there any other kind?)-- should be non-negotiable once agreed. Ladies, are we on the same page?
     
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  2. I'm proud to say that i've been denied orgasms for the whole 2017 and not once thought about cheating, yes i'm on the honor system. But i'm still looking to get a chastity device with a piercing as i know it'll make a difference on my behavior knowing that i solely depend on her to free my crotch. I won't fail although it's hard at times (especially lately as it's been nearly 8 months...) but a secured piece of metal between my legs that can't be opened unless she says so will force a lot more respect and attention towards her, i know that :p
     
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  3. I think the psychological effect of a device that requires a genital piercing and cannot be pulled out of would encourage submissiveness over time. In the end I think it's mostly going to be the behavior of the keyholder that will make or break their sub. A very secure device is a great start though :)
     
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  4. I may have spoken too fast...
     
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  5. yes you maybe on the honor system and not orgasm. But you can get hard and the half of the point of the cage
     
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  6. And forgot you can pee standing up
     
  7. @Mash2214@Mash2214 you are so right with that and we also need to remember that Respect has to be worked towards and shown by both key holder and locked alike ,
     
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  8. Interesting how you say uninvited opinions on a public page @RexVa@RexVa
     
  9. She said that because the thread was directed to the ladies of the mansion.
     
  10. If you Ladies want to have a one sided discussion. Have Fun
     
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  11. Are you asking? Or just making a comment @RexVa@RexVa
     
  12. Good example of the kind of unsolicited, passive aggressive post this thread's participants hoped to avoid. Right from the title, it's pretty obvious to anyone who cares to read it that Ladies were invited to share their thoughts. This page being public doesn't disallow or prevent Ladies' thoughts (keyholders and Mistresses specifically) from being requested for the purpose of a female-led conversation.
     
  13. It's a rhetorical question.
     
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  14. Thank you Vinny for a very telling part of long term chastity and being able to masturbate in any device. How many devices have you been privileged to wear? Also the insight into the fact of chastity being a mental more than physical. I myself do like mental engagement more so than just all the physical.
     
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  15. Perhaps we have to clarify a couple of things: 1. actual hand-to-penis, satisfactory masturbation, versus ejaculation --if anything, a device should significantly restrain erections and help control the male's masturbatory urge, limiting any pleasure he might still get from clumsily trying to come while locked up. If it accomplishes that, a device is fulfilling its purpose. Otherwise, as just a 'symbol', there are probably others out there males can wear that would be more hygienic, comfortable and less expensive than a useless metal cage stuck between their legs. 2. my question was about highest security contributing to more SUBMISSIVENESS. I want my males to respond better to my teases, control and attention, and I was wondering what Ladies experienced along those lines.
     
  16. Thank you for such a detailed reply. I too am searching for the highest security that will contribute to more SUBMISSIVENESS in My males so that the response to teases increase the control and attention allowing for a better training stimulus.
     
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  17. Christ, it's threads like this that make me not bother posting often.
     
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  18. OK
     
  19. Have you seen specific high-security devices that might meet your criteria, @GoddessCliodhna@GoddessCliodhna ? Does anyone else, @GoddesssLara@GoddesssLara, @Mistress Jane@Mistress Jane, @Mistress Elena Hyde@Mistress Elena Hyde, @Goddess Beth@Goddess Beth, @Mistress Evol@Mistress Evol, @Goddess Kar@Goddess Kar, @Mistress Jules@Mistress Jules, or Ladies out there, have any recommendations? What's the level of submission (and the actions that demonstrate it) would you expect?
     
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  20. Meantime, the poll is open and so far, it seems to be suggesting the same opinion that most of my friends and acquaintances in FLR-D/s share, as well as the honest feedback I've gotten from quite a few subs...
     
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    IMO the greater security you can get (by any means whatsoever) the stronger the control you will have. That's what it is all about - having the handles on him. So he does as he is told.
     
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    But not if you can prevent them they won't. Turn the tables on them and the boot's on the other foot.:);););):)
     
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    Oddly, I think most really genuinely sub males would agree. They NEED to be controlled and should not be topping from the bottom to tell her how to do it. They NEED someone who knows how already and the more techniques & tricks in the book she knows to get her own way the better.
     
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    The maximum security element certainly worked to break in my subbie. Feeling the full Titus Agrippa experience in the small hours a.m. for the first 4-6 weeks was just what he needed. Especially as he wasn't and isn't married to or living with me but only visiting to do chores.

    Once it sunk in that I'd got him by the balls and no way out it was curtains. From then on he did and does as told or else. And no sex for him since, with me or anyone else. I get what I want elsewhere.
     
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  25. I have a related question, if I may: do some keyholders get a comfort/confidence boost from knowing there is no escape for their chaste male and if so, could that enhance the keyholder's assertiveness and consequently improve the chaste male's submissiveness?
     
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