RexVa, I would agree with you on the no masturbation as I also have found that allowing them to masturbate tends to lessen the sub space. although I have in the past used vibrator on the penis and testicles to stimulate and have them beg for release/orgasm. Spankings are essential to a training regiment. Even a light quick spanking can reduce resistance and make the sub more amenable to deeper submission and want to serve. Scheduled time for spankings can have a sub looking forward to the giving over of control and will. I am not a sadist so spanking for the "fun" of going pain is not part of my training regiment, but a punishment spanking is never off the table of tools.