K/H wife needs a break!

What did she need a break from?

 

I know my K/H seems to take a break some times, but she will leave the cage on me and just not have anything to do with it. I just wait patiently and leave the subject alone. Give her time and space.

 

Yes my keyholder does like a break
One time, she suggested a one-week break, but after two days, she wanted me to put my cage back on. We also had a longer break before I went overseas for a couple of weeks, and I didn’t take my cage with me due to hand luggage restrictions (though we decided that I would use checked-in luggage if this happened again).

Currently, we’re in the midst of a three-month challenge, and afterward, she wants a 2-3 week break. I suggested still wearing the cage (at least for sleeping so I don’t have to get used to it again), but she wants a complete break without the cage. I know she enjoys switching things up sometimes, doing random BJ’s or HJ’s for short periods. While being in chastity requires more planning. I think that in my fantasies, I could do without it. However, it’s nice to switch things up occasionally.

 

Been out for a week due catching myself on the cage and needing to heal. She wants it back on ASAP

 

In my own personal case: If it's any "work" for her at all, then I'm doing something wrong.

 

Although she prefers me locked, she does unlock me for days or weeks sometimes. In our FLR she never tells me if she is taking a break because it is not for me to worry about. If she wants 10 orgasms a day or one a month, I know to be ready and to not t be concerned about my own orgasms, ever.

 

We all need down time every now and then and step away
My wife doesn't unlock me when she needs a break we just sort of adjust how we live Probably a bit more vanilla if that makes sense Never last long tho a week tops

 

I’m currently on my longest break since we began. Imposed due to piercing and waiting on BAWR. I get the impression there will never be a break like this again…
Honestly, if I don’t sort my attitude out and my distinct lack of attention/affection, my wife’s on the verge of never letting me out again once it’s locked!

 

PA piercing?

 

I expect for many keyholders there's either overt or covert lobbying for a bit of tease and denial, which probably gets a bit wearing.

 

I'm pretty new to all this, and I have OCD (even officially ) - so it's in my nature to get obsessed with new things - but I've already annoyed my KH multiple times by talking about chastity and this forum too much - so much so I am supposed to be banned from discussing chastity (which I'm not very good at sticking to and she doesn't enforce to rigorously)

Example from this week:

e.g. "I really don't want to think or discuss about f***ing you in the ass when I just get in from work"

So I think I have to remember to 'cool the jets', play it slow and plan regular breaks - otherwise she will want to quit the whole chastity game and I'll be upset we can't play this anymore.

 

A PA is definitely on my bucket list and a BAWR cage incorporating a PA hook is also my preferred cage going forward. Just need to get my wife on board and I can live happily ever after.

 

If she is looking for a break there is something happening when you are locked that is exhausting to her. It sounds like you are counting orgasms and maybe being needy. My wife likes it best when I let her lead not me. She keeps me locked and life and everything is normal except when she wants to play. Maybe ask your wife if that is why she needs a break. It might be easier to change the dynamics a little and make it more enjoyable and easier for her

 

We drift in and out of being vanilla. We'll go for months at a time being into a kinky FLR with me locked and denied, then we'll take a break for a couple of months and just be a "normal" couple.

There's usually very little discussion, it seems like a natural cycle. We usually jump back in to a FLR and chastity when we feel we've not been spending enough time together, it's a fun way of focusing on us.

At the moment we've been in FLR lifestyle phase since March. I feel like I need a break, but that's driven by lust At the moment she's very happy with the way things are. In March she said she wanted to do this all through winter, spring is coming soon, so I'm assuming toward the end of the year we'll go vanilla for a bit.

 

My Madam is a natural Domme, we live a 24/7 flr bdsm lifestyle. So no break needed for her.

 

that has happen to me as well once . i spose thats like Her taking a break really tho innit.

 

Our first couple years, yes, she’d give me a week or two of freedom and we’d go back to our normal daily sex life like chastity didn’t exist. But she was still learning to let go of her guilt about denial etc, once she found her full dominance and lost that guilt, no more freedom for me. My cage free time is for doctors appointments only, or something like going into a Federal building. So rarely. This year she allowed me to be free for about 8 hours on Fathers Day, and occasionally she’ll allow me to sleep cage free on a weekend night and immediately lock up the next morning.
If she doesn’t feel like playing or teasing, she just doesn’t, thank god that is a very rare occurrence and I usually get to interact in some sexual way with her almost daily, even if it’s just caressing her body while she masturbates with her womanizer vibrator. That’s about the least interaction I’ll get. Most nights it’s oral sex for her, sometimes grinding together with her bullet vibe between us, maybe once or twice a month she’ll allow me to use the harness and dildo on her, or something else like that. PIV she’s content with around 4-5 times a month lately.

 

Every year, husband and I go on Holiday Hiatus. From a little before Thanksgiving to just after Valentine's Day,the only kink we do is me dressing him up or pegging him. While I enjoy disciplining him and putting him in chastity, I have to admit there are benefits to the break.

Our "hiatus" was a little longer this year because I went too far in Nov. '22.

As for OP's wife. remember. chastity is about Her not about you. She decrees when you're locked up and when you aren't.

 

I used to like taking a break now and then, but it wasn't due to boredom. Being so completely in charge of someone else's pleasure is a big responsibility, and it was nice to let go of all of that for a bit. So we'd spend a week or two where stopped controlling hubby's orgasms. It was also a nice change of pace for hubby to initiate sex and be more dominant for a few days.

But that was back in the days of the honor system and much shorter periods of denial. Since making the switch to locking hubby up full time, I haven't felt the same desire for a break. I think a big part of that is that on any given day I'm only thinking about chastity and sex as much as I want to. If I feel like teasing him, then I do. If not, then he stays locked and I don't give it another thought. With only a few orgasms a year, "Should I let him have an orgasm tonight?" isn't something I have to deliberate very often. I feel a lot less pressure now than before, so there's nothing to need a break from.

Hubby, on the other hand, might want a break soon. Chastity hasn't played out exactly the way he expected. I think the break itself could be a lot of fun, but the return to chastity afterwards might be a bit bumpy.

 

I think this happens for a lot pf people. It hasn't even played out like I expected and I'm the one who introduced it.

The return is a little bumpy at least for both of us it was. We'd been on a long hiatus because I went too far in Nov. '22. We only recently got back to chastity and Domestic Discipline and there's still a few bumps for both of us.

 

I think you answered your own question. My mistress feels no need for a break since going to permanent / indefinite/ whenever if ever she feels like it releases. Likewise, I do not ask for a timeline for a release or an orgasm, even a ruined . So, where's the stress? Tell him owe is no longer allowed to ask for release, a date for release, or a date for an orgasm. Tell him if he does, whenever you do feel like doing any of the above, you'll just add a month from that date. And still not give him any timelines