I never give a order that I think a sub cannot do or that I think he would not be comfortable doing. So if he then replies "no" or comes up with something he would rather do it has the effect of being immediately deflating. Obviously if there are legitimate reasons that would be different. Is no the worst word a sub can say?
I don't know about No being the worst word a sub can say ... My guess is that it is relative.. to the relationship and its dynamic and of course the situation. I think it was you posted that video before but I do recall it. Sad to say it does seem like a lot of people that claim to be completely submissive. Unconditional subs I doubt there are that many in reality and even less that are forum menbers or get to have unsupervised time on the internet. Again I suppose its relative to the relationship and its dynamic when it comes to what you mean when you label yourself or someone else a sub. I think its more that some of us have and enjoy having some degrees of submissiveness but do not seek to embrace the full-time reality role of a complete submissive.
On the face of it, no. Submission is his choice and I want my subs to always feel comfortable saying no. It would require discussion, is he being petulant or is he really uncomfortable? But he is always free to speak up.
That is true, but they have already agreed to submit. They can't pick and choose what they want to obey, otherwise there is no submission.
For my madam, the work thing I can say is nothing. There is nothing else that angers and annoys my madam more than when I say nothing, or am not in touch with her.
Well, I quite often say no, but then do as requested/ordered anyway! "Can you make me a lovely cup of tea please?" "No. I can make a fair cup of tea but it might not be lovely. But I'll see what I can do". Note: Mrs Chaste will generally give her instructions in a manner which implies that I have a choice! I do not really! If I said "no" and didn't move, the crop would be taken up and the threat would be there! Or I would be told "Do as I tell you now! How dare you answer me back!" At which point I will do as requested!
Interesting. The video is an absolute joke. If anyone thinks that being submissive is like the guy in the video than their definitely barking up the wrong tree. Being submissive if being available to your Wife/Mistress/ ( her name ) for what she wants when she wants. Yes I’m privileged to have a wife that gives me pleasure but we also go through long times where it’s only about serving her needs and their is nothing sexual about it at all. The video isn’t a good representation of a submissive relationship in my opinion any way. With regard to saying “No” that depends on each individual relationship and what your saying No to. Just the word No without knowing the situation or relationship is just not enough information to answer accurately. This will be an interesting thread to follow. Thanks for posting it.
Yes, it is one of the worst words a sub can say. A good Dom wont make the sub do something dangerous, injuring or seriously detrimental to the sub. If the Dom wants it the sub should suck it up and do it. Having said that subs are human too and will naturally be reluctant to do things they dont want to do. That is where leadership and discipline comes into play.
I love the video! Miss A has been approached on many occasions by "sub" males describing what they want, after pledging their submission to her. In answer to the question though, I never say no, I say, "With respect Mistress I disagree". I am always listened to, and sometimes her decision is changed.