I was wondering what everybody’s perspective is on unauthorized cumming either in or out of the cage. Do you guys consider it a form of infidelity or is it just unattractive or counter productive to your particular relationship dynamic? Is it just a matter of disobedience or attitude?
even the thought of it has never popped up in my mind! aren’t you happy to be hers and follow her rules and protocols?
I am!! But my rebellious streak likes to rear its beastly head sometimes or sometimes she is out of town and I get... antsy. Or IM out of town. That’s why we consider it cheating if it happens and My KH does not treat it lightly.
I asked her to keep me in chastity, we had a long discussion before going into this, my Wife is the love of my life and once she said yes and we started this thing She expects me to keep to my part of the bargain. She is the love of my life, I don’t want to let Her down.....:.
Everything you just said is exactly how I feel. Except I don’t have the bloody self control to give Her what she deserves. Well at least it’s improving and headed in the right direction. AND the new cage comes on Saturday so I can finally be locked consistently. (Old one was too tight, caused bleeding after morning wood all the way around my glans)
there's a very unhealthy trend in modern life to see things in absolutes. There is a lack of shade in most discourse. It's either A or it's B. You're either for me or against me. YOu're either acceptable or you're not acceptable. In this case, different levels of activity are being conflated, and the meaning of words is being flattened so that it covers levels of meaning it never used to. Infidelity has traditionally meant being unfaithful to a partner with another person. That's infidelity. Having a wank is not infidelity. It's disrespectful. If you've made a pact not to do so it's disobedient. It's very much the kind of thing we deprecate on this forum. So it's clearly something we wish to avoid.
I am uncaged now and on my own till Sunday but I won't wank off. I think it's something you get to in time we have been practicing FLR and orgasm control including chastity cages for over five years now. I did cheat a few times in the first month's and at first felt clever and pleased with myself and then I blurted it out one day that I had wanked off a few times and my wife ignored me for weeks. We didn't speak she hardly came near. I thought I had lost her. Then one day she came in with my cage that I had not been wearing since telling her and sat down. She asked if I wanted to wear it and try again. I cried and cried and thanked her and promised. Now I realise she was conditioning me with the weeks of silence I am not stupid but it didn't matter I was just so relieved. I am what you would call a vulnerable adult and some might say she treated me harshly but it's the best thing she could have done. I have chosen to submit to her now in just about everything. She buys my clothes she tells me what to do. If I want money I ask her for it. My advice if your serious about FLR don't cheat.
Never cheat, as you are cheating yourself out of the luxury of being in a FLR. Hundreds of men would give their Eye Teeth to be in a FLR
Chastity was her idea. And it started all fun and games. I was allowed to cheat, if I could, and if I confessed afterwards. She never punished me for it but I felt lousy afterwards. Right now I am travelling and on the honor system for the plane flights. I offered to send her pics before/after and she said "No, I trust you". And damnit, because of that I just can bring myself to cheat. So to us it is clearly not infidelity, but the more we get into it, the more serious the commitment becomes. (my head just keeps spinning, because I want nothing more than to masterbate, I have the chance, and won't take it, its still very crazy to me).
I have wet dreams from being locked and teased daily... two weeks into being locked 24/7 they begin... my wife punishes me when they happen. She gets mad and I have no control over the situation Spanks and extended time in the device I’m in another one of these teasing cycles... she made me have a wet dream and now I lost a day of freedom and an orgasm before we begin Loctober she said ... she was going to give me Sunday as a treat (I had no idea) but now I’ve lost that I feel she’s being unreasonable as my balls are so full the cum needs to go somewhere... I can’t help it when I sleep Not to mention it’s humiliating being locked in this small pink cage and then getting yelled at for having a wet dream before being spanked and then having to apologize...