Humiliation, WTF?

I honestly have no idea why anyone would want to be humiliated. I just know the thought of my wife engaging in SPH is almost enough to send me over the edge

 

To me, the joy of being humiliated cannot be explained. It always is embarrassing, tough and difficult at the moment of being humiliated, but in retrospect, my memories of those same moments are a pleasure to think about.

 

It is really strange... but it is a turn on for me. Though I'd call her approach loving humiliation rather than cruel humilation.

I wear a small cage and feel myself struggling to get hard, when she says things like: "my little boy", "its so cute", "so little", "so pretty", "cute little clitty".

I guess it's tied into submissive tendencies and the feeling of being dominated. For me verbal domination is just as effective as physical domination.

 

I remember being a really young child watching a kids programme. The male and female presenters had to put a blindfold on then walk onto a substance and guess what it was by the feeling of their feet. The male put the blindfold on the female after a few turns. She walked onto chip stones. She said "ow" but was smiling. It's probably my earliest memory because it was so vivid. She was willing, she was in pain, she was in a humiliating situation where she was expected to continue and comply, saying what she felt. It was mind-blowing. I felt something, I may have been 6 years old. I did not know what sex was, or how men and women procreate. I certainly did not know from the outside world what bdsm was. My point is, is that humiliation fetishism and bdsm is hard-wired, not learnt. Although it has not been intrinsic to all my sexual experiences thus far ... I have arrived (thanks to being incredibly lucky to have met my goddess gf). I believe I'm in the few that can say from first hand experience that humiliation fetishism is something you're born with. Sorry for the references to childhood, just my own life, had no physical experiences until late teens.

 

What might be your next WTF? Breasts?

 

Oh I know!!

"WTF WTF?"

 

I honestly don’t know why ether! We do some things that humiliate me and my Madam has no idea why I like it or why I am humiliated, then we do other things that she knows I will feel humiliated but she feels nothing about it, she never gets embarrassed about anything, so she finds is extra amusing that I do.

 

Yep, I don’t do SPH, but being made to wear panties and/or lingerie, makes me feel embarrassed and a bit humiliated, but it also turns me on. We didn’t choose how we are wired, we just are as we are. That’s why my rule is to not kink shame.

 

In general life I’m acutely sensitive to humiliation. Anyone who humiliates me better watch out because I’m going to make them sorry. It’s related to fears of abandonment dating back to childhood emotional abuse.
Feeling humiliation in the context of a kinky relationship totally different! It’s a chance to let go of all the control freakery that is so exhausting the rest of the time. Everything I’m hiding can come out. Phew!
A bit like that sense of release you get when you’re on the receiving end of violence you can’t escape, and your mind just empties of all the noise… surrender.

 

It’s pretty basic that if you spend most of your time oppressed by the fear of something happening, when it happens it’s a liberation. Like, the happiest times in my childhood were just after my mother had punished me because it wasn’t going to happen again for a while… like, when the cops throw you in a cell and you’re no longer on the run… like, I imagine, the moment of death.

 

So boys and girls - in your perfect humiliation experience do you know in your heart of hearts that your KH doesn’t really think you are a worthless piece of shit? Or do you deep down believe that they are saying it because they really truly believe you are an insignificant speck of useless pathetic dust just floating around dirtying up the planet?

 

No Queen Arlentia. I wouldn't know.

 

I am on the side that if it comes from someone you are sure loves you then it fulfills a fantasy but wouldn't make me think worse of myself. I feel everyone needs to have or believe they have value in the world.

 

And this is why I love you my dear

 

In my case the excitement comes from the fact that they KNOW I’m a human being with rights and feelings, but they also know my desire and adoration of them makes me so vulnerable and helpless that they can treat me as they please. It’s because I AM a human being that their ruthless trampling of me enables them to become superhuman. And I have the privilege of beholding their glory.

 

I’m what she steps on to get to her proper height

 

In real life, humiliating a fellow human being makes you less than human. The magic realm of kink reverses that somehow. It’s transgressive.

 

That is the one I thought it would be

 

Similar here.
When I entered the lifestyle humiliation was a hard limit. But like many kinks it’s something that has grown on me. I’m not sure why. Maybe part of the push for more and more intense things to do. Or maybe part of the pushing of limits. I’m not sure, but all I can say is we grown and change.

 

I don't know the answer to the original question but I agree with tomf_22033.
There was a time when I thought this humiliation kink was just weird (wtf?) and thought 'who on earth would want that? I would never do that.'
For me, it was a life experience that 'triggered' my interest in humiliation (like 40 years ago) and, although it was a small thing, a seed had been planted that caused me to watch humiliation stuff online for, kinda, the same reason you want to watch 'car crash tv' (I hope that's a saying in US too). I think pushing for more is, in itself, humiliating and so it goes.
Further to this, I believe if a Domme wants to encourage this in her sub she can help by associating humiliation with sexual pleasure. e.g giving him a handjob while he's being humiliated.
@JaySaysYes - do you see any humiliation at all in having your 'manhood' locked away?

 

Agreed

 

@JaySaysYes has a tiny willy….

Just saying.

#HumiliateJay