How long without orgasm until you start to lose desire?

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    I've read alot of stories and saw alot of chastity captions where the chaste (usually the reader) would go for many months, even a few years without any form of release and just get more and more desperate over time. But these things are obviously fantasy... They're fun to read, but even as a novice I can tell they couldn't be further from reality.

    So, I would like an opinion based on all your experiences in chastity. First off, if this has been asked before then I apologize in advance, as I cannot read every thread in the forum.

    My question is how long is your average length of time being locked up until you get used to it and desperation (if any) starts to diminish? Please be honest, as I have not yet made such a determination for myself.
     
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    #2 JamesD, Nov 23, 2023
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    Perhaps 5 - 10 days?

    I think your body has a way of 'switching off' its sex drive if it's not used/needed.
     
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    I’ll breeze past the part where you didn’t define ‘forms of release’. That’s a bigger off-topic piece that could range from going for a run or kissing your partner to being tied in a dungeon with a machine operated fleshlite attaches to you dick… anyway I digress.

    My favourite zone is between 10 to 14 days. If she satisfies me before then I get grumpy.
    Anytime after that I no longer have an urge for release. I actually just enjoy the soft undertone of horniness… I could go for months (maybe). The fantasies aren’t far off the truth. The sexual desperation does stay around, you just learn to reject the come down.

    I do think it would get old eventually if nothing ever happened.
     
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    I meant total denial as in no orgasm at all, not even anal orgasms or prostate massages. Nothing but straight up tease and denial.
     
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    It's just over 8 months since my last orgasm.

    During that 8 months I have been caged and uncaged for some long-ish periods, and edged and made love to my GF/KH, but there have been no ejaculations, not even accidents.

    I haven't lost desire, in fact I think my desire for her and for me to have an orgasm is just growing and growing.

    Longest continuous lock, with the key not being used, was 4 months, and during that time there was also no loss of desire.
     
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    4 months without the key being used? What device are you using?
     
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    It comes and goes
     
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    I think the complete loss of desire after a prolonged period might have more to do health issues unless you're, like, a monk or something.

    I'll add to everyone else and say that it comes in waves after like 3 weeks.
     
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    Been years without an orgasm or being allowed an erection
    so far no diminishing of desire for any and all forms of sex with my partner
    just not getting any that involve the cage coming off.
     
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    Now that's where the teasing comes in. Without that I wouldn't be interested at all after a few weeks.
     
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    This is why my Madam allows me anal stimulation/orgasms so there is no loss of interest and no drop in desire, keeps me eager and devoted to pleasing her!
     
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    For me it ebbs and flows. It depends on what's going on with life and how much time we have for each other.
     
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    It really depends on many circumstances in life.
    Outer and inner situation.

    In our case, we have too many open ends right now to really be able to concentrate on ourselves.
     
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    After 3 weeks i'll plateau and my horniness will be on a gentle simmer. Longest denied is about 5/6 week.
     
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    10-14 days for me
     
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    I don't lose desire while locked. The intensity comes and goes in waves, but it is always there, often below the surface.
     
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    Right lock it and leave it, will not work , pro active participation is required by both. I would personally like to find out how long I could go, I believe with the right stimulus but I don’t know, with little effort my mistress can get me more or less hypnotized
     
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    As other members already said: It might depend on how you are live out your chastity / orgasm denial.
    If it is about lock & forget my desire certainly would start to diminish after 3-4 weeks. Maybe even earlier depending on some lack of sexual kontext around chastity.

    However I would question why someone - either keyholder or locked should want to let it come to this. After all half the fun for both to keep the denied ones sex drive up.
    Of course constant arousal is completely unrealistic, but it is not needed in the first place as it is nothing you would have in a good relaionship were you unlocked.
    Some teasing - mental and / or physical now or then should be enough to keep your desire up almost indefinitely.
     
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    My wife and I only started our journey in September and after some trials and experiments agreed to a 90 day chastity and denial period for us both to learn about our proposed new dynamic. We've been together 26 years and my submission, her dominance, denial and chastity is a brand new experience for us.

    I'm just over 50 days into that denial period. I still want an orgasm very much. But I also don't. I'm really enjoying the whole experience and have already found really enjoyable outcomes that I never expected. My wife has too.

    I've yet to experience sub drop, but from what I've read here, I fear it. The first fifty days have created a dynamic that has reinvigorated our relationship that was previously failing. I don't want to put that at risk for a few seconds of enjoyment.
     
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    As some have said above, around that 3 week mark, my arousal/hornines levels off but does not return nonchaste levels. From there, I will have days of heightened arousal depending on how much/often I'm getting teased.
     
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    I began using chastity in June of 2014 when my wife and I separated. It usually has taken about 4 weeks to lose my cravings for piv sex. I usually forget what it felt like at about 50 days. My longest time without release was 427 days which included all of 2016. Right now I'm at 3081 days, with only 1 proper insemination of my wife at the end of February 2017, which was the last real fuck for me, which will likely be my last one forever. My wife says I might have another sometime, but that's because she won't admit it's not going to happen again. At one point about 4 years ago, I realized I had forgotten that women actually were using real cocks for sex. It just no longer occurred to me that my penis was a sex organ, since I was hand jobs only.
     
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    I can understand your development. If I see a woman now, I dont imagine how it would look and feel like to fuck her, but how it would taste and smell when i go down on her and she facesits me, when I make her orgasm. How her butcheeks are filling up my hands and her clit slides in and out my mouth.

    I even dont have interests in handjobs anymore. If I get one - fine. But I am not asking for it.
    My sexuality has completely changed into another direction.
     
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    Personally I've never got that far. I become too unbearably horny and follow C round like a puppy.
    She really doesn't like this behavior so insists we do something to off load. I'm so incredibly grateful when she says this and then feel remorse when it's gone.
    It just don't make sense.
     
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